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  • when we think of successful people, we think of people who are great speakers such as steve jobs, Larry Allison or bill clinton, you have to be able to speak with such a conviction that people would want to follow you, trust you and be led by you.

  • We admire people who are so good at speaking that they instantly turn a stranger into a french.

  • You definitely have come across such people and it's not a secret that we all want to be like them.

  • However, speaking isn't always great sometimes or in fact pretty often speaking and do more damage than good.

  • Of course it highly depends on the circumstances.

  • But a lot of people do not appreciate the value of silence.

  • Silence isn't even considered the skill, but it's one of the greatest habits you can ever develop.

  • In fact, most successful people are also great listeners, which is one of the consequences of mastering the art of silence.

  • So let's find out why silent people are successful.

  • But before we do that, make sure to give this video a thumbs up.

  • And now let's dive in number one, The less you say, the more valuable rewards will appear.

  • There's always someone in the group who talks a lot, whether it's a colleague at work or a classmates in college.

  • No one text these people seriously or at least what they say because they talk all the time.

  • People got used to just hearing them and never paying attention to what they really say.

  • Whatever is too common is not valued in society at all compare iron with gold.

  • Both of them are metals, but one of them is much more common than the other.

  • Iron is easily found everywhere.

  • While gold is much rare, that's why we as humans value one more than the other.

  • The same rule of supply and demand applies to your words.

  • If you constantly talk, people are not going to take everything you say as seriously as you would want to be careful about how much you talk.

  • Don't say every other thing that comes out of your mind, create an hour of mystery around yourself by keeping your sentences open ended in most areas of life.

  • Unless you say the more profound and serious you appear number two, it makes you unpredictable.

  • When you meet someone new, you rarely know anything about them except what their appearances can say about themselves.

  • The first impression matters, but it rarely tells you anything deep about them about who they are, about their weaknesses and their deep intentions.

  • So you're careful with your words.

  • But as you get to know them closely, they might turn into your friends and you will feel much more comfortable talking to them or even pulling some jokes at their expense because the more they talk, the more predictable they become not to say that you should not make friends and never reveal anything about yourself.

  • But when you are in a group such as workplace, your silence will make people think twice before making fun of you or even mistreating you because they don't know how you are going to react.

  • Number three, the less you talk, the less likely you will say something foolish.

  • How often did you say something that you regret it later?

  • It happens all the time.

  • Who might get angry or be under any other emotion?

  • We say promised things that we regret later on when we think deeply about them.

  • The problem with words is that whatever he said cannot be taken back.

  • You can apologize, explain yourself or come up with excuses but your words cannot be taken back.

  • The best strategy is to simply think twice before saying something and by developing a habit of silence, you're less likely to say anything foolish and ruin the relationship with the people around you, especially when you were in a relationship, you get into an argument and each one of you start saying all the negative things about each other, which ruins the relationship even further.

  • Number four, you're more likely to achieve your goals.

  • One of the mistakes I have probably committed hundreds of times is telling people about my goals because most of the time, especially if I let people know about them, I do not achieve them.

  • And it feels horrible when you say that you're going to do something and then end up achieving nothing for one reason or another.

  • I might lose interest in the middle of a project and quit or I might simply reset my priorities and postpone it.

  • We constantly set goals and we have this tendency to share them with people as we are seeking some kind of approval.

  • By the way, I started going to the gym.

  • Didn't I tell you that I'm starting a Youtube channel soon.

  • I am planning to get a new car.

  • In fact, some people think that will encourage them when I tell people about my goals, once I feel more accountable at the end of the day, I have made a public commitment.

  • Therefore I will more likely achieve them if I want.

  • I might find myself in embarrassing situation or when I tell my family about it, they might encourage me and motivate me.

  • Unfortunately, it doesn't work that way.

  • Your friends might congratulate you, but no one really cares about your goals except yourself.

  • But if you give it a closer look, whenever you tell people about your goals, in 95% of the cases, you do not achieve them.

  • As if you start losing interest in pursuing that goal right after telling people about it, something magical happens and you no longer have that motivation that you had before.

  • On the other hand usually achieve your goals.

  • If you publicly do not talk about them, it might seem strange, but there is a reasonable explanation behind it.

  • Multiple research have been done to prove this, but let's take a look at one of them by peter goal.

  • Would sir.

  • 100 and 63 people were asked to write down their goals, half of them publicly announced their goals and the other half stayed silent.

  • In fact, those who announced their goals publicly in front of everyone said that they felt they were very close to achieving them Soon after everyone was given a task of 45 minutes to work on something that would directly lead them to their goals.

  • The only rule was that you could stop at any time on the surprising part was that those who were silent about their goals, who worked in trial, 45 minutes on average and said that there is still a long way to go While those who publicly talk about their goals works on average, only 33 minutes and stopped afterwards, they said that they were close to achieving them, sharing your goals will give you a fake feeling of achievement.

  • It will make you feel good as if you're bragging about it, especially when your friends congratulate you on that, you feel as if you have already achieved them.

  • That gratification that public acknowledgement brings can delude your brain to mistake the taking for doing number five, you will connect with people on a deeper level.

  • One of the things that everyone craves his attention, almost everything we do is motivated by attracting attention, athletes compete to attract more fans.

  • People work hard to earn more to be viewed as more successful, but the problem is that attention is a limited resource.

  • There is only so much of it around Others try to get even negative attention when they can't get the positive.

  • So you can build deep connections with people by giving them that attention they secretly craved by just being silent and let them do all the talking.

  • Everyone wants to have someone that would listen to their problems.

  • So by controlling your emotions and providing that attention to people, you will gain their trust, especially if there are your superiors.

  • That's one of the greatest ways to win them over to your site.

  • My favorite book on this subject is 48 laws of power by Robert Greene.

  • He has an entire chapter that's called always say less than necessary, but he also dedicated part of his latest book, The loss of human nature to the importance of silence.

  • I will leave the links to his books in the description despite all the benefits of silence.

  • Silence can be sometimes damaging Silence can arouse suspicion and even insecurity, especially in your superiors.

  • A vague or ambiguous comment can open you up to interpretations that are not in your best interest too much.

  • Silence can also lead to isolation.

  • Yes, people might respect you, but it can also turn the other way around when everyone looks at you with someone who is afraid to speak up or can't stand for himself.

  • So being always talent isn't really great.

  • It only works when you know how to use it and when to use it.

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  • Thanks for watching.

  • And until next time.

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when we think of successful people, we think of people who are great speakers such as steve jobs, Larry Allison or bill clinton, you have to be able to speak with such a conviction that people would want to follow you, trust you and be led by you.

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The Power of Silence - Why Silent People Are Successful

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    林宜悉 posted on 2021/10/19
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