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  • Hi, everyone.

  • My name is Walker Steck, and I would just like to talk to you guys about the connection between first impression and...

  • No, I'm just kidding. That would be terrible.

  • Hi, everyone!

  • As I said up here rather quietly, my name is Walker Steck, and I'd like to talk to you guys about the connection between first impression and future relationship.

  • Now, as I just stood up here, rather, or - oh my gosh, sorry.

  • As I stood up here, holding on to my index cards for dear life, you all did a little something called making a first impression.

  • And it's not your fault. We all - oh my, I didn't get the clicker.

  • Sorry, guys.

  • Thank you.

  • Okay, so as humans, we form 10 to 20 images of what we think a person's personality is like based on 15 seconds of conversation.

  • Now, let's do the math.

  • Of these 10 to 20 images, let's say we meet two new people a day for seven days a week; that's about 200 new images that we have created of people just based on 200 seconds of conversation.

  • Now, another fun fact: 85% of these images are going to be just dead wrong, not even in the same ballpark of what the person's personality is like,

  • and only 15% are going to be remotely true of how they act around people.

  • Now, let me tell you about a little personal narrative I wrote [read], ironically titled "Making a First Impression," by Maggie Scarf.

  • In the article, Scarf talks about meeting a guy at a bar.

  • The two get to talking. Things are going great.

  • A little laughter, give-take conversation, everything you look for in a good first impression.

  • But she slips up.

  • One bad reaction to a joke. She didn't laugh.

  • And in one or two seconds of awkward silence, the two have shut down any chance of any sort of connection in the future.

  • Now, I know what you're all thinking.

  • "Why do I need to hear a story about the girl who doesn't get the guy?"

  • And you don't.

  • I'm not here to tell you about everyone's sad story, because I can't—there's too many.

  • I am standing here in front of you today on this TEDx stage to make you aware of how seriously we all take these infamous first impressions.

  • Now, after all these numbers and stories, some of you still might not be 100% sure about what it is I'm trying to say.

  • So let me tell you.

  • I'm just asking you to consider my points.

  • The next time you meet someone, ask a few more questions, stay interested in their answers.

  • Just keep the conversation alive enough so that you actualive long enough so that you're actually able to form an accurate image of what the person is like.

  • If you jump to conclusions too quickly, you may never know what the relationship could be like.

  • When I was in eighth grade, my discovery teacher, Ms. Magia, once told me,

  • "Walker, you miss 100% of the shots you don't take."

  • Now, I found this quote to be rather relevant to the situation, so I took a little spin on it myself:

  • "You end every friendship you don't start."

  • Good, yeah? Good, yeah? Whatever.

  • The point is that you could be talking to your soulmate, long-term best friend, maybe even husband or wife in the future,

  • and it can all be thrown away if you jump to conclusions about their personality too soon.

  • So, just do me a favor.

  • Next time you meet someone, try all these things: the intriguing conversation, the time extension on the first conversation.

  • Because I promise you one day you'll look back and you'll just think: "Oh, man, that kid was right. I wish there was some way to thank him."

  • And "Thewalk[email protected]gmail.com", if you truly just can't wait to thank me for my genius advice.

  • Uh. No, only a joke.

  • But, in all seriousness, you will be thankful that you spent 15 extra seconds of your life talking to someone who you could spend the next 15 years of your life with.

  • Thank you.

Hi, everyone.

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    應用英語科徐郁珽 posted on 2021/11/05
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