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  • - [Narrator] Hey, Psych2Goers,

  • welcome back to another brand new video.

  • Let's begin.

  • Do you feel like you're fighting a battle alone,

  • slogging through the darkness by yourself?

  • Do you try to force positivity and optimism into your life,

  • no matter how bad things are?

  • We wanna reassure you that you're not alone.

  • It can be hard and stifling

  • and maybe there are some things that you're dealing with

  • that aren't so pretty.

  • If you're not happy or hurting about something,

  • it's important that you acknowledge it,

  • instead of repressing and ignoring it.

  • Here are six signs that you are hurting subconsciously.

  • Number one, you avoid being alone with your own thoughts.

  • Are you constantly looking to be doing things

  • that distract you from your thoughts?

  • Of course, with how hectic and busy routines have gotten,

  • there is a chance

  • that you might not be doing this on purpose.

  • However, if you are avoiding being alone

  • with your own thoughts on purpose,

  • this might be a sign that you're hurting subconsciously.

  • Generally, when you choose to suppress emotions,

  • these are related to negative memories or experiences.

  • Such emotions include anger, sadness, frustration, and fear.

  • And of course, being by yourself

  • without doing anything distracting

  • will lead to these emotions surfacing,

  • which is why you avoid being by yourself

  • with your own thoughts.

  • Being alone with your own thoughts

  • and self-reflecting is very important.

  • It allows you to have an accurate estimation

  • of the state of your well-being

  • and make decisions that will be better for you

  • with your current circumstances.

  • Number two, you feel uncomfortable

  • when you have to talk about your feelings.

  • Do you often talk about your feelings with other people?

  • How do you feel when someone asks you how you're doing?

  • If you feel uncomfortable

  • discussing your feelings with others,

  • it might be a sign that you're hurting subconsciously.

  • Similar to how you avoid being alone with your thoughts,

  • discussing your feelings with others

  • will resurface the emotions that you're trying to suppress.

  • There are a number of factors that affect

  • which emotions you suppress,

  • including the guidance you receive from parents

  • or role models about dealing with these emotions.

  • It's very normal for parents or role models

  • to constantly tell you

  • that you should avoid feeling bad emotions,

  • such as the ones mentioned above.

  • However, even though you can avoid negative emotions

  • in the short term,

  • they will always bottle up until you address them.

  • Number three, you go along with everything

  • without expressing your wants or needs.

  • How often do you prioritize your own wants and needs

  • over other people's?

  • If you're constantly doing what other people want you to do

  • without ever expressing what you would like to do,

  • chances are that you're hurting subconsciously.

  • You might be afraid that by letting people know

  • what you want and need,

  • the negative emotions that are hurting you will show.

  • And of course, this can happen subconsciously.

  • There's a chance that you simply

  • don't express your wants and needs

  • because you like to be a flexible person.

  • There's nothing wrong with that.

  • And flexible friends

  • who are willing to sacrifice what they want to help others

  • are very valuable.

  • But if you feel like something is off,

  • try giving yourself some time to self-reflect

  • and figure out the reason why you don't express

  • your wants and needs.

  • Number four, you feel nervous or stressed most of the time.

  • Are you in a constant state of alert and tension?

  • This is one of the biggest and most common signs

  • that you're hurting subconsciously.

  • Your emotional state will be under a lot of pressure

  • if there is a repressed negative feeling or emotion

  • that is affecting you without being addressed.

  • Not processing these repressed emotions

  • will not disappear by themselves

  • and will result in psychological and physical issues

  • if left unattended.

  • So if you can notice yourself being nervous about everything

  • or constantly feeling stressed out

  • for reasons that usually don't affect you,

  • you're most likely hurting subconsciously.

  • Number five, you're easily angered

  • and have frequent mood swings.

  • Are you flying off the handle without warning?

  • Were you, at one time, more mild-mannered

  • but now feel anger boiling in your gut on a daily basis?

  • Subconscious hurts can manifest themselves

  • into feelings of anger and upsets.

  • For example, imagine having recently broken up

  • with your romantic partner because they cheated on you.

  • Now, instead of addressing the anger

  • and disappointment of being betrayed,

  • you just carry on like everything is fine.

  • Being in that emotional stage will make it

  • so that anything will anger you,

  • because the emotions that you're repressing are leaking.

  • So if you notice you're having more frequent mood swings,

  • are overreacting, or prone to emotional outbursts,

  • you probably have repressed emotions

  • that are hurting you subconsciously.

  • And number six, you're having terrible nightmares.

  • Have you been having some really awful nightmares?

  • Factors such as stress or past trauma can cause people

  • to remember dreams and nightmares much more vividly.

  • Your subconscious mind communicates

  • to you through a number of ways, including dreams.

  • So if you're experiencing terrible nightmares,

  • it most likely means that your mind is telling you

  • that there is some pain or negative emotion affecting it.

  • To address this,

  • as soon as you wake up from a terrible nightmare,

  • try to write down what you experienced on a piece of paper,

  • and self-reflect.

  • There might be a connection

  • between what you dreamed and your real life.

  • Did you relate to any of these signs?

  • If so, what do you plan to do next?

  • Tell us in the comments below.

  • Please like and share this video if it helped you

  • and you think it could help someone else too.

  • The studies and references used

  • are listed in the description below.

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  • And thank you for watching.

  • We'll see you next time.

- [Narrator] Hey, Psych2Goers,

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