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  • It’s that knot in your stomach that mixes fear and anxiety that materializes when you felt threatened by someone prettier than you, smarter than you.

  • It can cause you to do some pretty stupid sitcom-level stuff just to regain control.

  • Things that usually hurt other people too.

  • Youre probably familiar with this feeling.

  • It's what Shakespeare called "The Green-eyed Monster"

  • Today, were talking about jealousy.

  • Here’s the thing, kids.

  • Jealousy is a distinctly first person emotion.

  • It almost always comes from a place of insecurity, which you ultimately project on others.

  • The bottom line? Jealousy isn’t about the other person.

  • It’s about you.

  • Today on WellCast, were gonna help you work through these insecurities so that your friends and your loved ones don’t get caught in a crossfire.

  • Well give you three coping mechanisms to help you keep that jealousy from taking complete control of your life,

  • ruining your relationships, and making you look totally stupid.

  • I know you felt that vice-like grip of the green-eyed monster because you're not alone.

  • It happens to everyone.

  • Studies show that children as young as six months grimace when their mothers interact with a dummy baby.

  • It’s pretty much the occupational hazard of belonging to the human race.

  • We wanna be loved and we do not wanna be ignored.

  • Unfortunately, long after weve outgrown our diapers, we still become a little child-like when were jealous.

  • Jealousy tends to come with a specific set of blinders, and the more jealous we are, the less able we are to... let's say, empathize with others.

  • For example, a study conducted by the researchers of the University of Delaware found that

  • jealous people were more easily distracted and less able to perform simple memory games.

  • So, let’s try to figure out how to get your jealousy issues under control.

  • Take out your WellCast journal.

  • Weve got a three-step system for this and it’s simple.

  • Acknowledge, communicate and resolve.

  • So the next time youre in a situation where youre experiencing those extreme jealous thoughts, go into a separate room, take out your WellCast journal and calm down.

  • Step 1: Acknowledge

  • Admit it, youre jealous!

  • And you can’t run from your feelings, but by addressing your jealousy head-on, you can keep it from taking on epic unrealistic proportions.

  • Write down exactly what’s making you jealous and why.

  • Let’s say you just found out that your two best friends didn’t invite you to that movie that they caught last week.

  • Hit it out.

  • My friends are hanging out without me.

  • I'm scared they'll stop being my friends.

  • It’s okay to be a little dramatic. It’s just your journal.

  • Step 2: Communicate

  • Now that all of your embarrassing thoughts are out on paper, go get the real story.

  • Don’t have an imaginary argument with your friends in your head. It’s only gonna make things worse.

  • Tell them how you feel about what happened.

  • Be vulnerable, and then apologize to them if you overreacted in any way 'cause you might've.

  • Make it clear that youre expressing your feelings and not stating facts.

  • Speak in "I" statements.

  • I feel like you didn’t want to hang out with me because youre tired of me.

  • That’s your insecurity.

  • At a certain point, the only way to get over your jealousy is to stop thinking about yourself all the time and see someone else’s point of view.

  • Step 3: Resolve, and this will be the hardest part for you because now, you have to listen.

  • Your friends might tell you that youre overreacting and they might be right.

  • We know you don’t like horror movies, so we didn’t think to invite you.

  • Let’s recap.

  • That big bad green-eyed monster gets all of us sometimes.

  • But today, we learned three ways to keep it at bay.

  • By acknowledging your own insecurities, communicating with others, and ultimately, listening.

  • Tweet us @watchWellCast

  • E-mail us at watchwellcast@gmail.com or leave a comment down below.

  • Well see you next time!

It’s that knot in your stomach that mixes fear and anxiety that materializes when you felt threatened by someone prettier than you, smarter than you.

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Dealing With Jealousy

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