judging. When I'm talking about listening, I'm not talking about hearing. I'm talking

about when your partner is talking to you, trying to have a conversation with you, is

possibly upset about something, don't tune them out. Don't focus on the television, then

you're just hearing them. You need to truly listen to each other. You can even make comments

like, "I hear what you're saying and this is how I feel about it." But, listen to each

other and don't judge what each other say or feel. Especially before you've heard the

whole story, the whole story. She said, "Oh, I hate my boss." Well, you automatically start

judging, "Oh, here we go. I know where this is going to go. She's going to complain about

her work, she's going to complain about her job, and then she's going to ask me if she

can quit." Don't judge! Just be a supportive listener. And, if the other person wants your

response, give it. Otherwise, sometimes, people just need someone to listen.