Name: Dr. Phil WE'RE NOT EQUAL (One of the most important talks of 2019)
Uploaded: 2020-12-03T18:50:21.000Z
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you cannot legislate that everything is going to be equal for everybody because everybody is not equal.

They may be equal in terms of their value as a human being, but they're not equal in math skills.

But that doesn't mean their marketable skills in an open society in an open market are going to be the same.

Just think if you're in your life and there's you don't have something that you're passionate about.

If there's not something where you wake up every day and there's nothing in your life that you're excited to do, man, you need to go back to the drawing board.

Because if all you're doing is just grinding it out every day, go to a job you don't like, do task.

You don't care to do and come home to a home.

You don't want to come home to and wait to get up and do it again.

I don't care if it's gardening or music or art or athletics or something.

People don't want to look at things for how they are.

They wanna look at things for how they want them to be.

You could accept not being good at other things.

It's much easier if you find the thing that you're good at, whether it's gymnastics or singing or painting.

For if you could find a thing that you're good at, it will make you.

It will give you, Ah, a feeling of self worth and you won't need to be good at everything you could accept.

And you can enjoy other people being good at things as well.

It just seems like you gotta find your own lane.

So I got myself into a lane where I talk for a living.

I read, I talk, I it's qualitative, not quantitative.

Find what you're good at at a given time and do what you're good at.

Find something you're passionate about, that you could also excel at.

Expose yourself to different things with that very purpose of finding something that you love because there's something out there.

Not everybody is meant to be an athlete, So Okay, look, go do something else.

And if you really want to do it, well, you've got a long road.

So find what you're good at and watch yourself achieve in that lane, they took students in the class where they put the steps of learning the information so close together that there was never a failure experience.

It would say the War of 18 12 happened in 18 12.

Then the next thing would say the War of 18 12 happened in blank.

You feel in 18 12, they would teach the information and they would teach it to criteria where you mastered the information.

And they took him out of that program and put him back in the regular classroom.

and the first time they came to questions, they didn't know the answer to the first time they didn't get 100.

They didn't know how to handle adversity.

They didn't know how to handle it when they didn't have the right answers.

So they scrapped the whole program because they said, You can't do this because that's not the way life is.

You're not teaching them how the real world were.

Those kids were absolutely screwed up when they got into a truly competitive environment.

I mean, the whole idea about school is you're supposed to be setting kids up for the future.

You're supposed to be teaching them not just information, but teaching them how to learn and how to improve.

In it, somebody will have a complex thing that comes from childhood, or maybe it's a drug background or they've had trauma in their life.

But the solution is change your behavior.

I mean, stop rewarding bad behavior, choose a different path in life, just behavior way to success.

Sometimes the solutions are very simple, even though the problems are very complex because at some point you have to stop focusing on why and start focusing on what, instead of why it happened.

So sometimes the solutions are pretty simple.

I don't think problems are simple at all.

In fact, I think problems air really most of the time.

They have a lot of different origins there, often times co morbid.

A lot of things exist together, so I don't think problems are simple.

But the solutions are often simple, don't you think?

Yeah, it just seems that people have, Ah, they have this comfort in their patterns.

And even if their patterns your self destructive events, drug abuse or alcoholism or those those comfort in those patterns falling into those patterns, it seems very compelling to a lot of people.

Yeah, and payoffs don't necessarily mean that it's a positive payoff.

E mean payoff for taking heroin is you get high and so your high for a while.

That's not a positive payoff, but it's a payoff on if you if you get high and so you don't get a job and you don't take care of your kids.

That's a payoff, that you're not doing things that you need to do that you should be accountable for.

It's a pathological payoff, but it's a payoff nonetheless.

The next year is gonna go by whether you're doing something about your life or not.

I mean, we're sitting here right now at the end of February, and the next 10 months are going to go by whether somebody is working to make change or whether they're not.

They may think, you know Oh my God, I'm so far away I'll never get into controller.

I'm so behind in my bills or I'm so of, you know, just depressed or everything is so out of control.

You make those incremental changes and then, you know, pretty soon in December you go.

Hey, I'm way better off than I was at the end of February.

So should you made a little changes, and they all added up, and if you don't by the end of the year, you're just in deeper, so every little bit matter e mean, just sit around dreaming.

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Dr. Phil WE'RE NOT EQUAL (One of the most important talks of 2019)

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