Subtitles section Play video Print subtitles What's up guys? Today we're doing something brand new on our channel, learning with books, aw yeah! So this is not just a list of grammar and vocabulary books these are real life books that natives actually read and they can help you in developing practical skills like grit confidence and good habits that will help you with your English but also in being a better human being and achieving anything you want to achieve in life plus if you do read them in English you can develop some advanced vocabulary. Now we're not going to be covering strategies for reading in English in this lesson but if you would like us to make a lesson on this then let us know by giving us a like it down below and if you're new here we are constantly helping you to take your English to the next level like this, so if you want to learn real-life English with TV series movies and even books just hit that subscribe button and the bell down below so you don't miss any of our new lessons now let's jump into this list of 6 incredible books for your English and your life! All right, so the first book that I have for you on this list is The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. Now this is definitely one of my top books ever and I really think it should be required in high schools all around the world because if it were we would have a generation that would make such a bigger impact that would get along so much better. Now if you want to be more successful at anything you should really consider reading this book it will help you develop some essential skills that will help you to be more effective as a person. Now what does this mean exactly? This means that you will be able to achieve more in a more productive way. Now it will also help you in building different relationships in business of course but also with your girlfriend, boyfriend, wife or husband and with your children if you have them or anyone else in your family. Now The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey is packed full of advice that will help you a ton in different areas of your life I want to take a look at just a couple of these that will help you a lot with your English but then I really hope that you'll go out and pick up this book. So one of the first habits that Stephen Covey talks about in this book is beginning with the end in mind. Now Covey actually begins a section in the book by asking us to envision our own funeral, he asks us who's there and what did they say about us and ultimately the purpose of this is for us to get a vision of what we want to accomplish in this life, who do we want to make an impact on. Now as an English learner this can be extremely powerful as well as an exercise to think about what exactly will it be like when you're fluent, what are you doing? Who are you speaking to? What are you using the language for? And when you can kind of have this vision in mind it will really help power you through all of those hard nights studying or the courage that you need to go and have a conversation with someone in another language. And really the more clear that you can make this vision the more powerful that it will be. Exactly who are you speaking to? What are you using your English for? Doing this should help you to actually make the right choices today to get there. And really what this habit is about is not just letting life happen to you but actually designing how you want your life to be. All right and then another habit from this book that I think really applies to you as an English learner is to seek to understand before being understood. Now this is really crucial in your own language but if you are learning another language it becomes even more important. Now what this one is about is that normally we don't really listen to people. We're in a conversation with another person they're talking and we're probably thinking in our head how are we going to respond to what they're saying we're not really listening to what they're saying. As human beings we love speaking in fact think about it for English learners almost everyone's goal is to become a great fluent English speaker I very rarely hear any English learners say that they want to be a great English listener. However the listening part is so important because if you don't really understand people and I mean beyond just the words that they're saying, if you don't really empathize with them really put yourself in their shoes then it's unlikely that that relationship is going to go very far and this is even more important when that person is from a different culture from you because it can be so easy to judge someone when you don't really understand where they're coming from. Now I would imagine that your big goal with English is to be able to communicate using the language right? But communication is a two-way street and there's a really great quote that says that you have two ears and one mouth use them proportionally this means that you should listen twice as much as you speak probably really you can think of some of the people that you feel like you connect the most to some of the people that you've met in your life that really you felt like I understood you the best and it probably was because they were really good at really listening to you. So if you only choose one of these books on this list to actually go and read I really hope it's this one, you will be a better english learner for it but more importantly you'll be a better person. All right so the first book that we looked at was The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, now how do you actually even build a good habit or break a bad one? Well journalist Charles Duhigg and got really curious about all these questions and dug into all the science of it bringing us a book that brings us some down to earth stories that help us learn all about how we can replace our bad habits with really good ones. Just to start out with an example one of the stories that I still remember is that he tells us about a man who lost a lot of weight by creating a running habit. What was his secret? He actually ate a piece of chocolate after every run but more on that in just a little bit. So first off if you want to learn anything it's really important that you are able to develop habits that support it because when you do this it becomes effortless. This is why I used to hold all of my students accountable to creating fun everyday habits in English and with the ones that actually succeeded in doing this I noticed huge differences in their comprehension and English fluency. So just to give you a taste of this book let's look at how habits actually work. Now a Duhigg tells us that habits have three parts the first part is the cue now a cue is something that causes another thing to start happening so let's take for example running again if you want to develop a new running habit you might create a cue by leaving your shoes right by your bed so as soon as you wake up in the morning you would see your shoes and you would know it's time to go running. Now for your English you might want to try something like pairing your studying with your morning coffee so I have my coffee in the morning and automatically I know it's time to study English. All right so the next part of the habit is the routine this is really the bulk of the habit so for running it would probably be doing the warm-up exercises the actual run and then the stretching afterwards and for your English maybe it's actually studying some grammar recording yourself and listening to it or doing some writing exercises. Now the last part of the habit is the reward and remember I told you about that man at the beginning who use chocolate to motivate himself to run? Well that was his reward but eventually you didn't need the chocolate, he just felt so good after running, getting a runner's high, that that was a reward in itself. In most of time when we think about habits we only think about the behavior, right? We think about like eating the donut or going for an exercise and going for a run right but this cue and this reward are kind of the keys to unlocking habits and to shaping them and remaking them and so if you know this as an individual it's enormously powerful. Now for your English you could totally do the same thing you could have a treat after you've done some really hard studying or taking really good notes watching this video but you could also use for example watching an episode of Friends or a funny Ellen video or writing a friend on Whatsapp and in English for a few minutes to reward yourself for having done something more difficult in the language. So The Power of Habit is a really great read if you want to upgrade your learnings from any of these other books because you'll just make them a habit. So the next book I have for you is called A Mind for Numbers, now don't be deceived by the title of this book it's another really great fundamental read which will help you with so many other things. Now while it actually takes the point of view of learning math and science which for the author Barbara Oakley was a really huge struggle even though she eventually got her PhD in Engineering it actually teaches us the skills that we need to be able to learn anything more effectively. Now for me one of the most impactful things that I learned with this book is that we usually think of learning just as studying that time when we really have our head down in the book and we're trying to memorize really difficult concepts and in English for sure this for you would be when you have to memorize grammar rules or vocabulary now while this is important for part of the brain what is called the focused brain to actually be spending that time really memorizing which Oakley actually shows us how to do better this is just half of the equation, so the other half of the learning process is the diffuse brain and this is actually how our brain makes the connections when we're not studying and we can actually use the diffuse brain in an effective way to make information stick. So the best thing to do when you're really stuck and frustrated on a problem is not to keep focusing on it you actually need to get in a very different mode of thinking and that's what is represented here and so what this means practically for you is you're sitting there you're working, hey get out go for a run go down and have a...go take a shower if you need to or do something that really gets your mind totally off it because when you're in this mode as long as your attention is focused on that problem you're still in this mode you can't get to this way of solving things. So while it is important to actually have that time where we're really studying hard if we can then activate the diffuse brain doing something like taking a nap or playing sports it is going to stay with us much longer this is why if you study at night sometimes it can be good then when you sleep you'll wake up with the information much more locked down in your brain. Now Oakley gives us a really great example of this with Thomas Edison who is famous for inventing the light bulb. What he would do is he would be in a session where he was thinking really hard trying to discover something and what he would do is he would sit down in his chair with something in his hand and take a nap now right as Edison was falling asleep what he had in his hand would drop in the floor and it would suddenly wake him up and what he found often is that suddenly he would have a discovery that he wasn't realizing before so he would kind of use this to activate the diffuse brain. Now this concept is really just the tip of the iceberg so if you read A Mind for Numbers this is definitely going to help you a lot with learning English and also for learning any else you want. Hey so I highly recommend you go and follow us over on Instagram because every week we are doing fun reading exercises with some incredible books like Harry Potter, The Hunger Games The Hobbit and so much more. So for some more fun reading with your favorite books go and check us out over on Instagram. So the next one is called Grit by Angela Duckworth. Now this one made a really huge impact on me when I read it. in fact it should be a required reading for any parent out there as grit is the number one characteristic that you can cultivate in your children but even if you're not a child you can cultivate grit. Now what is grit? I'm saying this word a lot, right? Now Duckworth uncovered that grit is the number one characteristic shared by successful people whether they are soldiers, musicians, athletes or students. Now grit is a combination of passion and perseverance. Now passion is the deep desire to master whatever skill it is that you're learning and it's not really the fireworks it's not that excitement that you get about something new, its enduring. Maybe you already know what perseverance is perseverance is not giving up when things get difficult. Now a really great place to start is with the fantastic TED talk that Angela Duckworth gave on grit and then you can grow your grit by reading the whole book. Grit is living life like it's a marathon, not a sprint Now if you can learn to be gritty with your English learning you are guaranteed to reach your goals. All right so the next one is Daring Greatly by Brené Brown and this one is a bit different than any of the other ones that we've seen so far. Now shame is a normal emotion, we all feel it, shame is the fear that we won't be able to connect with others because they will judge something within us that tells them that we're not worthy of that connection with them. Now Brené Brown actually discovered that the way to beat shame is through vulnerability, however in most societies we tend to think that vulnerability is the same as weakness. Now Brené Brown shows us that this is not so. Brené shows us the vulnerability is actually courage. Now the courageous people, the people who are willing to be vulnerable they show up, there in the arena, they are willing to fail. I have a vulnerability issue and you know and I know that vulnerability is kind of the core of shame and fear and our struggle for worthiness but it appears that it's also the birthplace of joy, of creativity, of belonging, of love. now the reason that this book is on this list is because most English learners feel shame when it comes to speaking English now for you as a learner vulnerability is being able to admit that you are not perfect that you make mistakes and to embrace those mistakes.