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  • There are certain things that we better not share with others.

  • But sometimes over an interesting conversation, we don't really think twice before saying something and we share a lot of personal stuff.

  • A friend of yours share his plans after graduating.

  • You find that interesting and you start talking about your goals as well.

  • A delightful conversation is something we all enjoy having.

  • But when we share certain things about ourselves, we might give a negative impression about who we are.

  • So, here in this video we will talk about 3 things that you probably should never talk about, unless you really have to.

  • The first one is your problems.

  • When we go through something difficult, we feel the urge to speak out, to take it out of our hearts, to tell someone about what we are going through.

  • Because many of us find it difficult to control our emotions.

  • By expressing yourself, you feel like you are getting rid of all this negativity.

  • But in reality, you are making things worse, because that often makes you appear weak, unable to take responsibility for your life.

  • In fact, over time that turns into a habit of complaining.

  • We create a negative atmosphere around us that no one really enjoys being around.

  • Part of that is, over time we start complaining about everything, without realizing how creepy we sound.

  • We start complaining about that guy who wasn't kind enough in the shop.

  • The waiter who was little rude or that friend who borrowed money from you and then disappeared.

  • A friend of mine got himself to the point where he literally now complains about the way people dress.

  • Of course, sharing your problems once in a while isn't really a big deal, especially when we go through something serious.

  • But make sure you do it with the right people who you know that can help you one way or another.

  • Either by directly taking action or giving you a good piece of advice.

  • Secondly, gossiping.

  • We all agree that gossiping is bad.

  • But for some strange reason we do it all the time and it seems like people have accepted gossiping as the bad thing that is okay to do.

  • But gossiping isn't only bad because you are talking behind someone's back, but rather how it makes you appear in front of others.

  • When you are spreading bad news about a friend, for example, it gives the impression that you are insecure about yourself.

  • You need to put someone else down, in order to make yourself feel good.

  • It might not seem to you like that when you are gossiping, but that's how others view it.

  • A person with high self-esteem would never gossip.

  • They have more important things to talk about.

  • That's just part of the story.

  • The other part is gossiping is a solid proof that you are not trustworthy.

  • You are not someone with whom people would want to share their personal lives.

  • Here is a fun fact, the person amongst your friends who never gossips or doesn't speak often is the one who knows everyone's dirty secrets.

  • Because everyone turns to him to share their difficulties.

  • They are like the psychologist in every gang.

  • And lastly, try not to talk about your achievements.

  • What do you want to say to a person who talks about his great achievements?

  • What a jerk you are, shut your mouth.

  • Achievements are great.

  • They are what makes our life meaningful.

  • But let your achievements speak for themselves.

  • If they are big enough, people are going to notice them and talk about them.

  • In fact, they would admire you because actions speak louder than words.

  • But the moment you start bragging and telling everyone of what a cool guy you are, your achievements stop making any sense.

  • You simply will appear like an egoistic douchebag.

  • You will make people jealous.

  • Some will resent you and you will create unnecessary conflicts.

  • In fact, if you have really achieved something, you won't feel the need to share it.

  • Because you have already to that deep internal satisfaction.

  • In short, sharing your problems makes you appear weak.

  • Gossiping is a sign of low self-esteem.

  • And bragging will only devalue your achievements.

There are certain things that we better not share with others.

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Things You Should Never Talk About

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