And it said butterfly wings are considered one of the most beautiful products of nature.

But butterflies themselves physically cannot see their own wings.

So many friends of mine, Ah, butterflies.

Well, I googled it.

This turns out to be completely false because butterflies have compound eyes which give them 360 degree vision so they could seek food while also keeping a lookout for any threats behind them.

So make sure you fact check the Internet folks was just full of lives.

But my point with this whole thing was I really loved the sentiment behind it, and the sentiment behind it really made me pause and think of a conversation I was having with some friends of mine because we came to an epiphany.

So all of our problems stemmed from how we were taught to be good girls.

Like one of my friends had an Olympian athletic mother who told her that as long as her body was perfect, she was a good girl, even though her mom constantly moved the goalpost of what a perfect body meant.

Another friend had parents who insisted if she forgot her own needs and wants in order to make everybody else happy.

She was a good girl, even if it meant having no boundaries and not exploring her own interests.

I was told by my dad that my love ability is rooted and professional accomplishment and success.

That achievement made me a good girl, even if it means sacrificing emotional fulfillment.

Personal hobbies and relationships were taught how to be good girls and good boys, and we carry that belief into adulthood.

Like my friend with the Olympic mother has a job where her body needs to tailor to specific measurements or she gets fired.

My people pleasing friend is a robust extrovert, but she's empathetic to every point of view, even when the perspective is detrimental to her.

I feel like I have to work hard, improve myself in every friendship in romantic relationship toe, earn love, but think about the messages that you got as a child was being good, being quiet, doing what you're told, avoiding emotion, striving for perfection.

And when you were praised, what was it for?

And thinking back?

Do you even agree with that?

Praise would you praise yourself now for any of those things?

Or are these just your parents imposing their limiting beliefs that they got from their parents, who got it from their parents and so on on to you?

I know it really does.

Always come back to childhood, doesn't have Children.

It's so annoying.

But that is when our brains we're learning like our most basic core lesson.

So you know it makes sense.

It's It's really annoying, but it makes sense.

I'm personally ready to stopping a good girl because of being good means that I have to measure my love ability by external factors.

I'll never feel loveable if you have to measure your worth based on your imperfecta bodies perfection, you won't ever feel worthy.

And if you're a slave to other people's opinions and moods while setting your own aside, you'll never feel fulfilled.

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