Name: 【TEDx】Celebrate Your Struggles: Deidre Combs at TEDxBozeman
Uploaded: 2014-05-31T04:30:49.000Z
Duration: 13 min 41 s
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I have been studying cross-cultural approaches to resolving

I still, even after all that time get that awful, sick feeling

Conflict indeed is messy, risky, scary and as we all know

After all that time I have come to understand

So, can you think of a time where your life

has gotten better, where you have improved somehow

It might be a battle of ideas, should I take the job, should I not take the job

but if everything is going along the same

I know I don't change. We need conflict to push us forward

The tough needs to come so that the good can occur.

It is as Euripides once said there is in the worst of fortunes the best

chance of a happy change. So, I find this true in my own life

I thought you like a little snippet of me

but first we have to stop and look at it wasn't I the cutest darn

I wanted to be Gloria Steinam when I grew up!

that propelled me forward. You'll notice that

sometimes I was just fighting with myself

like not being ready to go to college at 17

careful when you skip 8th grade you end up young

should go to Mexico on a foreign exchange program

like my parents when they moved me to Minneapolis

and I had a whole set of contentious meetings

and in my case you see that a friend died way way

school in something that I loved and also

to start writing. So I've needed conflict

I need the battles to get this far anyway

So my job is to look for common tips and techniques

that you can find around the world to deal with difficult

circumstances. Another way to look at it is I look to

see what a wise grandmother would tell me if I was in India

What am I told where no matter where I go?

but today as you know watching a Ted talk

10 minutes so I get to tell you just 1 cross cultural tip

when conflict comes...be grateful. I know

right...when a guy cuts you off in traffic

the woman thinks your ideas are absolutely

if you live in conflict or post-conflict zones

may sound, finding gratitude in conflict makes

us safer and more apt to find resolution.

If we even just start at the world's major religions

Give thanks regardless of the circumstances

In the Islamic and Jewish traditions we are told

And I appreciate in Hinduism they give us a goal to shoot for

"Such people have mastered life" this is the idea that

whatever comes along on our path that it is good

that it is equal and is part of this greater Whole

Here's your brain, I am going to tell you

This is your brain, this is your brain on conflict

So here we go. Your brain is actually like three

or four brains all cobbled together. You'll notice that

you've got the limbic system in the middle and these different pieces

take turns driving. The limbic system's job, one of its jobs, is to

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