It's Linda Rainer of linda rainer dot com, guiding you to a career and life you'll truly enjoy.

And in today's video, I am going to share with you six tips on how you can develop your emotional intelligence.

To be seen as leadership is potential in your job in your company, so that eventually you can land a senior management position.

As a career strategist and coach, I've had the honor of being able to help numerous professionals land job offers in careers with long term growth potential.

And if you're interested in potentially working with me one on one, I can give you details about that at the end of this video.

So what is emotional intelligence?

Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize and control your emotions and behaviour while being aware of how those impact and affect others around you.

At the same time, you understand the emotional state of those others, and you can use this information to adapt your behavior to achieve the most positive response from them.

So, to put it plainly and simply, emotional intelligence is your level of self awareness of your own thoughts, feelings and emotions.

While at the same time being aware of someone else's thoughts, feelings and emotions and being able to interact with that person or set of persons in a way that's going to get them to walk away from that conversation.

Feeling positive, they're still gonna feel encouraged or motivated or inspired by you as opposed to feeling negative.

So why is emotional intelligence important for you in your career?

Because it's actually been studied that those with a high e que, known as emotional quotient are actually more likely to be considered and approached four senior leadership positions in an organization.

Now I know that if you go onto Google and you look up emotional intelligence at work, there's gonna be a ton of information out there that you can look through.

But for the purpose of this video, like I said, I'm going to go through six specific tips that are going to help you to get working in the right direction, to really hone in on your emotional intelligence abilities and eventually be seen as that leadership potential senior management potential individuals in your organization.

Tip number one.

Learn more about the inner workings of you.

Think of yourself as someone who wants to be a really good car mechanic and where you want to be able to attract as many customers to your shop as possible.

If you want to be a really good car mechanic, you need to be able to prove that you understand the inner workings of a car because you want to be well relied upon and well trusted with anyone's car.

You have to be a ble to understand.

How does the car function?

What are its reactions?

What are the issues that can come up?

What can cause it to go bad or shut down?

You have to really be able to understand the inner workings of a car.

Well, in the corporate world, you are the car and the mechanic at the same time.

If you really want to be seen as someone who's truly leadership potential, someone that can climb to the senior ranks in your organization or any other organization, you have to understand the inner workings of yourself.

You have to be able to acknowledge your own thoughts, feelings and emotions and the way you tend to react and be able to have that level of self awareness that's much deeper than just the very surface level understanding of yourself.

Poor leaders are ones that do not have the ability to understand another's emotions.

And you probably have experienced interacting with one someone that just on Lee sees his or her way and does not take into account anyone else's, because simply, they just don't get it.

You don't want to be that kind of leader.

You want to be someone who can understand yourself, which is the most important thing.

But because you understand yourself, you'll be able to understand others as well.

So the best and easiest way for you to get started in terms of understanding the inner workings of you is to start to catch yourself in the moment and be very vigilant about this.

Be very attentive when it comes to understanding the reactions that you tend tohave in any situation.

So the next time something happens at work where potentially it's an upsetting situation, catch yourself, see how you react.

Observe how you react are you someone who tends to react very quickly and you become very sharp with your words, your super direct or are you someone that closes up and you're afraid to offend anyone, so you don't say anything.

Take note of it and start to understand where you need to improve so that you can really develop that leadership potential within yourself.

Sits number two to improving your emotional intelligence is to get a real assessment of yourself.

Get outside input when it comes to understanding yourself.

Sometimes it's actually impossible to be able to look at yourself entirely objectively, which is why it's important that you start to get input from those around you.

Now you're not gonna ask for everyone's input on how they think what they think about you.

But I would say definitely talked to those closest to you.

The ones that you can trust will be honest with you.

And a really good exercise that I have asked my clients to dio in recent years has been Go to 2345 close friends, family members, colleagues who you trust and have them for literally five minutes straight.

Say everything that they can about you, whatever it is, and you can't filter them out.

So if they're describing you, they say you tend to do this or you're you know in times you do this and they're not being critical, by the way.

They can't be super critical, but they do have to be honest with how they feel.

Take it.

And you know, you have to have a little bit of, ah, tough stomach for this because the truth is, sometimes the truth hurts, and you have to be willing to hear what they're gonna say.

But you have to write it all down and then from there, start to notice the patterns amongst the other reports that you end up getting through this process and from there, analyze and see what are the patterns?

What are what are most people saying, Where can I improve on What did I not like when I heard them say that about me and understand?

Why is it that you come across that way?

Why is it that that happens to you?

Or that you react that way and from there you'll be able to get a deeper understanding of yourself again?

It's all about understand your inner workings, which is goes back to tip number one.

So if you can do that, that's really gonna help you.

Tip Number three is to journal and track.

So this is a very personal exercise, but a really good way to truly see how you are and who you are and how you come across is by keeping a journal keeping a diary, where every day you would write down the major events that happened, how you reacted in those events, how you handled them and then leaving it at that.

And occasionally, you know, perhaps at the end of every week, you're gonna want to go through that week's list and you start to notice what trends tend to come up.

What situations spark you to feel a certain way and react a certain way and do a certain thing and start to understand that about yourself?

Because the more you can understand yourself, if there's things that you want to improve, you'll be able to improve on them.

You re able to identify them directly as opposed to guessing, and then if they're things that you're happy with in terms of how you are, how you're reacting and how you express yourself great, pat yourself on the back and keep on going.

Tip number four is to listen.

So as much as we've been doing work on ourselves so far in the first few tips.

Another tip that's gonna help you when it comes to interacting with others is to not judge to just simply listen when someone is coming to you and telling you something.

A story, a situation.

Don't dive in with your own thoughts and judgments and preconceptions about how they're experiencing it.

Instead, let them tell you without interruptions what it is that they're going through, and the more you can do that and truly listen to someone, the more you can actually understand where they're coming from, why they're feeling the way they're feeling.

You'll be able to understand that individual much better in a more clearer way, because you'll be able to understand why they're saying what they're saying.

What thoughts got them to lead them, to say what they're saying right now to you and why they're in the mindset that they're in, so that when they ask you for advice, you'll be able to give authentic, genuine words of wisdom to them.

That is without your own judgment.

Without your own opinions in it, it's really gonna be truly helpful advice for them because they're gonna hear it, and they're going to recognize that it's not coming from your own thoughts necessarily.

It's coming from a deeper place.

It's coming from a place of you understanding them.

Tip number five is about putting yourself in the other person's shoes.

You want to be able to exactly understand where they're coming from, why they're saying what they're saying, where those thoughts came from.

And you know that I know this could be difficult to sometimes.

Put yourself in the other person's shoes because you only see your perspective.

But the more that you're able to just sit back and actually envision yourself in their situation and seeing the world through their eyes and you have the ability to do this if you just practice seeing the world through their eyes, you're going to gain Ah, whole level of understanding that you didn't realize you had within you.

And with that understanding again, you're gonna be able to guide them, help them move them along to get out of their situation, their struggle that they're dealing with in a much smoother way, and you're gonna eventually as you do that, over time, you're gonna be seen as someone who is truly leadership potential because you're helping people.

You're helping people move on.

If even if it's something as simple as a task at work that they're struggling with and they're just really upset over it, whatever it ISS, you know, you going over being able to understand where their front, where they're coming from and be able to tap into that and tell them, um, what they can do about it, based on how they're feeling, acknowledging what they're feeling doing that is all going to lead you into becoming a true leader.

So definitely try to put yourself in the other person's shoes.

And lastly, tip number six is to open yourself.

I know when it comes to work, especially in a company you know, you don't really want to bring your personal life into work.

You want to keep things professional, But sometimes in order to really develop strong relationships and bonds with people, you do have to open yourself up.

Actually, it is necessary to open yourself up.

It's not just sometimes because the more that you can connect with others and say yes.

Actually, I've dealt with this situation to, and this is how I handled it and being able to get to interact with them at that level, the more that you're gonna be trusted by others, the more that they're going to see the human side of you.

And that's gonna allow you to be able to, like I said, develop a strong relationship with that person with those around you and from there being able to develop a reputation and credibility as someone who has the ability to interact with others well and, of course, to influence and guide and lead others as a potential director or C suite executive.

So there you go.

There are my six tips on how you can develop emotional intelligence in leadership so that you can land yourself a position in senior management later down the line.

Now, if you are someone who has been working in your job, you're struggling in the sense that you're just not enjoying the company that you're at.

You don't see growth opportunity, and you're really ready to make a move into another organization in a higher level role.

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