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  • Youre walking down the hall to your Chemistry class whenyou see him.

  • Immediately, you feel like youve been shot in an elevator and youve left your stomach two floors below.

  • "Stay calm." You tell yourself.

  • "Get your heartbeat under control."

  • Maybe ask him if he wants to see a movie.

  • That’s not too painful, is it?

  • Alright, he’s almost approaching now.

  • Flash him in that cool confident unflustered smile you

  • Okay. You just walked smacked dab into a locker door.

  • Ouch!

  • Hey, love birds! Welcome to Wellcast!

  • Do you wanna ask someone out, but youre afraid of accidentally injuring yourself instead?

  • That’s okay. This week, were gonna talk about that stupid, awkward, awful, awesome feeling of liking someone.

  • And were gonna make you do something about it.

  • Were gonna give you four tips for asking him/her out on a date.

  • Are you ready?

  • What have you got to lose?

  • The hardest part about approaching someone you like is the anticipation of it.

  • So, let’s cut right to the chase.

  • Step 1: The first thing youre gonna do before anything else is set a deadline for yourself.

  • That’s right! A deadline gives you a built-in time to approach him and start a conversation.

  • Step 2: Have a specific plan in mind before you approach him.

  • Pick something you know he’s interested in.

  • So, if he’s a fan of horror movies, ask him to a new blockbuster.

  • If he’s a political wonk, ask him if he wants to watch the debates.

  • The more specific the plan, the better.

  • Take out your Wellcast journal and open it to a brand new page.

  • Write on the date that you have to approach this person and what you will say to him when you do.

  • I’d have to ask him by Friday if he wants to go to the new John Carpenter movie with me.

  • If you want, you can try to hold yourself to this by adding a penalty.

  • I have to ask him by Friday, or else I can’t go out this weekend.

  • Okay, you don’t wanna be too hard on yourself, of course, but any added incentive helps.

  • Step 3: Here’s the hard part!

  • Youre going to have to bite the bullet and do it now!

  • Don’t do it over the phone or text or G chatter by carrier pigeon.

  • Do it in person.

  • I don’t know if I can handle this kind of rejection.

  • Okay. What If they laugh at me? And then the whole school knows that I like him.

  • And I’m gonna have to move to Canada. I don’t even like syrup!

  • Then check out our automatic thoughts video.

  • Approach him as confidently as you possibly can.

  • Pay attention to your own body language. Don’t slump or look embarrassed.

  • Smile! Keep eye contact the entire time.

  • Also, call him by his name.

  • It’s a proven fact that a person’s favorite word is their own name.

  • Also, keep in mind that a person’s reaction to being asked out, regardless of the response is almost always unabashed flattery.

  • Hey! Stick to the plan in your Wellcast journal.

  • Take a deep breath and ask.

  • Step 4: Granted, all of this depends on what he says.

  • So first of all, if he said yes, congratulations! Have fun on your date!

  • You should also open yourself up to the possibility of rejection.

  • It’s possible that he might say, "No."

  • But take it gracefully, okay? And no answer isn’t even necessarily a rejection, it could just mean not right now.

  • And either way, be proud of the fact that you put yourself out there!

  • Youre gonna find that the worst part is the multitude of thoughts running through your head, right up until you ask this person if they maybe wanna go out sometime?

  • Let’s recap.

  • Youve decided to take the plunge and see if someone you like wants to hang out.

  • First, you set yourself a deadline and decide where you wanna go.

  • Have a specific date in mind; one that’s tailored to his interests.

  • When you do approach him, make sure you smile and make eye contact.

  • Take a deep breath and just do it.

  • Whatever he says, be calm and confident.

  • So how did your first date go?

  • Let us know! Tweet us!

  • Tweet us @watchWellCast, e-mail us at watchwellcast@gmail.com, or leave a comment down below.

  • Well see you next time!

Youre walking down the hall to your Chemistry class whenyou see him.

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