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  • Hi! I'm Kimberly Seltzer, a dating and

  • makeover expert. In today's topic, I'm going to get

  • a little provocative.

  • I want to find out whether a man or a woman is

  • more visual when it comes to attraction.

  • So, what do you think? I can hear you guys talking already!

  • But I promise you - and look, I get to work with

  • both men and women, whether its coaching, matchmaking,

  • going shopping with them, and I'm constantly surveying them: "What do you find sexy?"

  • Now, the thing is that this is with that first

  • thirty seconds. Remember, I talked in the other video about first impressions.

  • I'm not talking about getting to know someone, but in that first moment,

  • who is more visual, men or women? Ready? The answer: both.

  • Yeah, I swear to God that is true, but I'm going to tell you, there are

  • differences. Okay, so men - when they look at a woman, whether its in

  • a picture, if its online, if you're meeting her for the first time,

  • they look at her, and they think whether or not they want to have sex with her.

  • It may sound shallow, but its true.

  • You look in the animal kingdom, and its no different. So we just have to accept it,

  • Ladies, that's why we always want to look and feel our best if we're trying to attract that man.

  • Okay, so women, we're no better. We're visual too. But we look at things

  • a little bit differently.

  • If we look at a man, we'll be a little more forgiving,

  • if he has a little belly, or he's balding, but if he's dressed well,

  • and he looks successful, we'll give him a chance.

  • So, in summary, men look at sex,

  • and women look at success. That's it, that's the difference. Now again, this is within that

  • first 30 seconds. I want to stress that, because obviously once you get to know

  • each other, there's

  • much more when it comes to attraction and chemistry.

  • Anyway, I just wanted to tell you my philosophy on that

  • 'cause it is all about looking and feeling your best. And again, at the end of the day

  • its feeling good about yourself. So, if you want to know more,

  • make sure you read below, my blog, and go to EliteImakeMakeovers.com

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Hi! I'm Kimberly Seltzer, a dating and

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