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  • For as long as I can remember, I've

  • had a soft spot for love and melancholy.

  • And I think those two things are intimately interrelated, right?

  • Love and sadness-- they exist in the same space.

  • There's a reason the filmmaker Cameron

  • Crowe uses the term happy, sad to describe those moments that

  • move us, that swell us, that we become engorged with emotions.

  • And we're also a little bit like,

  • oh man I'm not so sure if that's making me that happy

  • or if I'm sad-- I can't really tell.

  • And Roland Barthes explored this beautifully in his book

  • "A Lover's Discourse."

  • There's a couple lines in it that I really love.

  • He says--

  • "The first thing we love is a scene,

  • which is seen for the first time.

  • Curtain parts, and what had never been seen

  • is devoured by the eyes.

  • It's distinct, abrupt, framed.

  • It is already a memory."

  • And this is the line that really gets me.

  • This idea that when we're struck by love,

  • it is Immediately already a memory.

  • The moment is happening, and you're already

  • mourning the fact that the moment will end.

  • This intertwining of melancholy, of loss, that is literally

  • embedded in the experience of rapture

  • is what's so unique and mesmerizing about love

  • but also what makes it so tragic.

  • Right?

  • There's a reason that Roland Bathes

  • cites love as, "the romantic solution

  • to the problem of death."

  • That our lovers act as stand-ins in a staged, managed,

  • resurrection.

  • Where the pilgrim without faith can die and live again.

  • These death and re-birth simulations

  • allowing us to finally-- to turn our lovers

  • into Gods and Goddesses.

  • To be saved by them.

  • It's every pop song, it's every romantic movie

  • you've ever seen.

  • You know the feeling, it moves us to tears.

  • But who cares.

  • Because as Camus says, "Life should

  • be lived to the point of tears."

  • So, fall in love, or die trying.

  • Right?

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