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  • Hey, it's Marie Forleo, and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business

  • and life you love.

  • If you want to experience more joy and more love and more ease as you reach your goals,

  • this, my friend, is the episode for you.

  • Gabrielle Bernstein is the number one New York Times bestselling author of The Universe

  • Has Your Back, Miracles Now, May Cause Miracles, Add More Ing to Your Life, Spirit Junkie,

  • and the Judgment Detox.

  • She was featured on Oprah's Super Soul Sunday as the next generation thought leader, and

  • the New York Times named her a new role model.

  • Gabby leads talks and meditations for sold out audiences around the world and teamed

  • up with Deepak Chopra at a co-host, the Guinness World Records largest group meditation.

  • Her newest book is Super Attractor, Methods for Manifesting a Life Beyond Your Wildest

  • Dreams.

  • Gabby.

  • Marie.

  • I'm so happy.

  • First of all, you're the first one on our new beautiful set.

  • I feel really good on your set.

  • Yeah.

  • You color coordinate well.

  • Pretty glad I didn't wear pink, though.

  • Yeah.

  • No, it's a good choice.

  • So much has happened since the last time that you've been on the show.

  • Congratulations.

  • You have a beautiful son named Oliver now.

  • I'm a mom.

  • Yeah.

  • How's that feel?

  • It's profound, and I just have so much respect for all the mamas out there.

  • It is a life-changing experience.

  • People always say to you and you're like, "Oh, yeah.

  • Totally."

  • And then you have a baby, and you're like, "Oh my God.

  • What just happened to me?"

  • You know, it's been mind blowing and he's an angel.

  • I have an angel baby.

  • He's so easy.

  • He sleeps so well.

  • He is so happy and he has red hair.

  • Really?

  • He has red hair and my face.

  • Like if you just took my face and just put it on a little baby, this is my child.

  • Yeah.

  • He's the cutest.

  • Every picture I've seen so far, he's amazing.

  • Okay, so Super Attractor.

  • You guys, phenomenal.

  • Tell me about this latest book.

  • What was the inspiration behind it?

  • You know, my son actually really inspired a lot of this book.

  • I've spoken very publicly about how it took me several years, three years, to conceive.

  • And I had to adjust my belief system to allow myself to be in a state of alignment, to really

  • manifest what became my child.

  • You know, birthing this boy.

  • He's a big story throughout the book.

  • And a big part of it was about having to just really do a complete adjustment of my attitude

  • and my belief systems and really walk my talk as a spiritual teacher and a manifestor and

  • someone who believes in a higher power.

  • And so I made that commitment in my own life, and then it was really clear that this was

  • something I had to start to write about in a bigger way.

  • In some ways, it's sort of like the next step to my book, The Universe Has Your Back, because

  • The Universe Has Your Back was really about transforming your fear into faith.

  • Then, there was this moment of, "And then what?

  • Now that I've done this heavy lifting, what can I do with that new energy?"

  • And that's what Super Attractor is.

  • And what does it mean to a super attractor?

  • How would you define that?

  • What it means to be a super attractor is that what you believe, you will receive.

  • You align yourself with an energy and a belief system and a thought system that magnetizes

  • what it is that you desire.

  • So you start to really commit fully to what I referred to in the book as your alignment,

  • being in full alignment with feeling good and sticking to, leaning towards the better

  • feeling thoughts and working your way out of the negative holes and patterns and momentum

  • behind the negativity so that you can be an amazing attractor for what it is that you

  • desire without having to do so much.

  • It's a really hard thing for many of us.

  • I know, you know, especially in our culture right now.

  • I'll say, you know, you grew up with and one of my strongest qualities is my work ethic,

  • so it can be challenging for some of us to hear this and go like, "But wait."

  • You know what I mean?

  • Yeah.

  • It's like kind of shakes the ground to think that things could actually happen with more

  • ease, but it makes so much sense to think about.

  • Also, just the wellbeing that comes from aligning yourself with feeling good.

  • There's so much that we can dig into here.

  • Well, I actually want to say something to that, though, because you are a really good

  • example of someone who's a super attractor given you work a lot.

  • Yeah.

  • But you are so aligned with your work that it doesn't feel like work.

  • Right.

  • Sometimes it does, but a lot of the time, like...

  • And so those times when it does, that's when you want to check yourself, go read the book,

  • and get yourself back into alignment, because...

  • Well, for the most part, the successes you've had are a result of you taking action from

  • alignment.

  • Yeah.

  • And we've known each other for such a long time, so you...

  • You know, Gabby and I have been friends for so long, so she has seen me in front of the

  • camera, behind the camera.

  • We have so many conversations, and I really do love what I do.

  • I love what you wrote on page 51.

  • You write, "The key to feeling good is to decide to stop feeling bad.

  • It's as simple and profound as that."

  • So for anyone watching right now, and I know there are thousands if not hundreds of thousands

  • of folks who are saying to themselves, "But I have really tough circumstances at the moment.

  • I have an illness.

  • I'm suffering from a loss.

  • There was a situation that came and just rocked me back that I didn't expect.

  • For anyone that feels that maybe the key to feeling good is to decide to stop feeling

  • bad, that feels like an unrealistic jump, what would you say to them to start to make

  • this shift so it can feel authentic?

  • Well, that's when you need it most.

  • Actually, I'll get very personal with your MarieTV people today.

  • I had to really live this one recently.

  • Five months into my postpartum, I was diagnosed with postpartum anxiety and went off the rails.

  • This is something that people don't talk about.

  • This is something I'm so proud to talk about here on MarieTV with so many women watching.

  • Yes.

  • And it was very, very scary.

  • And so in those dark, dark moments, when you're having a biochemical issue and you don't know

  • what's going on, how can you just decide to feel good?

  • I want to really speak to that person out there who is thinking, "You know, I've lost

  • my job.

  • I have no money to pay the bills or I'm dealing with depression and I can't get out of it.

  • Or, you know, I've lost a family member or a loved one.

  • I'm grieving.

  • What the hell are you talking about?

  • How can I decide to feel good?"

  • Well, I've been there recently.

  • And in that recent experience of really hitting another bottom in my life, the only way up

  • was to decide to feel good.

  • And when I say I had to decide to feel good, I didn't have to just say overnight, "Okay,

  • I'm going to feel better right now."

  • I had to make a commitment to do whatever it took to get to the next better feeling.

  • That meant calling a specific doctor.

  • That might've meant reaching for a different thought.

  • That might've meant not telling the same negative story over and over and over again, not calling

  • a thousand people to obsess about the problem.

  • These small adjustments were my decision to feel good.

  • And so when you say, "I'm going to decide to feel good," it doesn't mean that I'm going

  • to be better tomorrow.

  • But it means that I'm going to start to reach for a better feeling each second so that I

  • can get myself out and start to create different momentum rather than the momentum of the feeling.

  • I love that.

  • And we're going to get to that in a little bit, in terms of the Abraham Hicks kind of

  • emotional feelings.

  • Actually, why don't we just go there now?

  • Let's talk about that, because I know Abraham Hicks...

  • I have run into so many friends recently––it's wild––that have talked about the power

  • of that teaching.

  • You and I've talked about it before, but I feel like it's kind of in the zeitgeist again

  • in a bigger way right now.

  • You refer to...

  • I think it's here.

  • I have it flagged in my Super Attractor book.

  • It is the emotional guidance scale.

  • Tell us a little bit about what this is and why it's important, how it's relevant to what

  • you just shared.

  • Esther Hicks is a channel for these beings of love, I would say, really, voices of love

  • called Abraham.

  • And it's a big theme throughout this book, which is really the teachings of Abraham.

  • Anyone that's speaking about the law of attraction in an authentic way is in some way referencing

  • Abraham.

  • Period.

  • End of story.

  • I mean, The Secret was based on the principles of Abraham.

  • And so one of their beautiful methods is this method called the emotional guidance scale.

  • The theory is that you wouldn't go from doubt or devastation to love over one beat.