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  • Hey, it's Marie Forleo, and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business

  • and life you love.

  • If you want to experience more joy and more love and more ease as you reach your goals,

  • this, my friend, is the episode for you.

  • Gabrielle Bernstein is the number one New York Times bestselling author of The Universe

  • Has Your Back, Miracles Now, May Cause Miracles, Add More Ing to Your Life, Spirit Junkie,

  • and the Judgment Detox.

  • She was featured on Oprah's Super Soul Sunday as the next generation thought leader, and

  • the New York Times named her a new role model.

  • Gabby leads talks and meditations for sold out audiences around the world and teamed

  • up with Deepak Chopra at a co-host, the Guinness World Records largest group meditation.

  • Her newest book is Super Attractor, Methods for Manifesting a Life Beyond Your Wildest

  • Dreams.

  • Gabby.

  • Marie.

  • I'm so happy.

  • First of all, you're the first one on our new beautiful set.

  • I feel really good on your set.

  • Yeah.

  • You color coordinate well.

  • Pretty glad I didn't wear pink, though.

  • Yeah.

  • No, it's a good choice.

  • So much has happened since the last time that you've been on the show.

  • Congratulations.

  • You have a beautiful son named Oliver now.

  • I'm a mom.

  • Yeah.

  • How's that feel?

  • It's profound, and I just have so much respect for all the mamas out there.

  • It is a life-changing experience.

  • People always say to you and you're like, "Oh, yeah.

  • Totally."

  • And then you have a baby, and you're like, "Oh my God.

  • What just happened to me?"

  • You know, it's been mind blowing and he's an angel.

  • I have an angel baby.

  • He's so easy.

  • He sleeps so well.

  • He is so happy and he has red hair.

  • Really?

  • He has red hair and my face.

  • Like if you just took my face and just put it on a little baby, this is my child.

  • Yeah.

  • He's the cutest.

  • Every picture I've seen so far, he's amazing.

  • Okay, so Super Attractor.

  • You guys, phenomenal.

  • Tell me about this latest book.

  • What was the inspiration behind it?

  • You know, my son actually really inspired a lot of this book.

  • I've spoken very publicly about how it took me several years, three years, to conceive.

  • And I had to adjust my belief system to allow myself to be in a state of alignment, to really

  • manifest what became my child.

  • You know, birthing this boy.

  • He's a big story throughout the book.

  • And a big part of it was about having to just really do a complete adjustment of my attitude

  • and my belief systems and really walk my talk as a spiritual teacher and a manifestor and

  • someone who believes in a higher power.

  • And so I made that commitment in my own life, and then it was really clear that this was

  • something I had to start to write about in a bigger way.

  • In some ways, it's sort of like the next step to my book, The Universe Has Your Back, because

  • The Universe Has Your Back was really about transforming your fear into faith.

  • Then, there was this moment of, "And then what?

  • Now that I've done this heavy lifting, what can I do with that new energy?"

  • And that's what Super Attractor is.

  • And what does it mean to a super attractor?

  • How would you define that?

  • What it means to be a super attractor is that what you believe, you will receive.

  • You align yourself with an energy and a belief system and a thought system that magnetizes

  • what it is that you desire.

  • So you start to really commit fully to what I referred to in the book as your alignment,

  • being in full alignment with feeling good and sticking to, leaning towards the better

  • feeling thoughts and working your way out of the negative holes and patterns and momentum

  • behind the negativity so that you can be an amazing attractor for what it is that you

  • desire without having to do so much.

  • It's a really hard thing for many of us.

  • I know, you know, especially in our culture right now.

  • I'll say, you know, you grew up with and one of my strongest qualities is my work ethic,

  • so it can be challenging for some of us to hear this and go like, "But wait."

  • You know what I mean?

  • Yeah.

  • It's like kind of shakes the ground to think that things could actually happen with more

  • ease, but it makes so much sense to think about.

  • Also, just the wellbeing that comes from aligning yourself with feeling good.

  • There's so much that we can dig into here.

  • Well, I actually want to say something to that, though, because you are a really good

  • example of someone who's a super attractor given you work a lot.

  • Yeah.

  • But you are so aligned with your work that it doesn't feel like work.

  • Right.

  • Sometimes it does, but a lot of the time, like...

  • And so those times when it does, that's when you want to check yourself, go read the book,

  • and get yourself back into alignment, because...

  • Well, for the most part, the successes you've had are a result of you taking action from

  • alignment.

  • Yeah.

  • And we've known each other for such a long time, so you...

  • You know, Gabby and I have been friends for so long, so she has seen me in front of the

  • camera, behind the camera.

  • We have so many conversations, and I really do love what I do.

  • I love what you wrote on page 51.

  • You write, "The key to feeling good is to decide to stop feeling bad.

  • It's as simple and profound as that."

  • So for anyone watching right now, and I know there are thousands if not hundreds of thousands

  • of folks who are saying to themselves, "But I have really tough circumstances at the moment.

  • I have an illness.

  • I'm suffering from a loss.

  • There was a situation that came and just rocked me back that I didn't expect.

  • For anyone that feels that maybe the key to feeling good is to decide to stop feeling

  • bad, that feels like an unrealistic jump, what would you say to them to start to make

  • this shift so it can feel authentic?

  • Well, that's when you need it most.

  • Actually, I'll get very personal with your MarieTV people today.

  • I had to really live this one recently.

  • Five months into my postpartum, I was diagnosed with postpartum anxiety and went off the rails.

  • This is something that people don't talk about.

  • This is something I'm so proud to talk about here on MarieTV with so many women watching.

  • Yes.

  • And it was very, very scary.

  • And so in those dark, dark moments, when you're having a biochemical issue and you don't know

  • what's going on, how can you just decide to feel good?

  • I want to really speak to that person out there who is thinking, "You know, I've lost

  • my job.

  • I have no money to pay the bills or I'm dealing with depression and I can't get out of it.

  • Or, you know, I've lost a family member or a loved one.

  • I'm grieving.

  • What the hell are you talking about?

  • How can I decide to feel good?"

  • Well, I've been there recently.

  • And in that recent experience of really hitting another bottom in my life, the only way up

  • was to decide to feel good.

  • And when I say I had to decide to feel good, I didn't have to just say overnight, "Okay,

  • I'm going to feel better right now."

  • I had to make a commitment to do whatever it took to get to the next better feeling.

  • That meant calling a specific doctor.

  • That might've meant reaching for a different thought.

  • That might've meant not telling the same negative story over and over and over again, not calling

  • a thousand people to obsess about the problem.

  • These small adjustments were my decision to feel good.

  • And so when you say, "I'm going to decide to feel good," it doesn't mean that I'm going

  • to be better tomorrow.

  • But it means that I'm going to start to reach for a better feeling each second so that I

  • can get myself out and start to create different momentum rather than the momentum of the feeling.

  • I love that.

  • And we're going to get to that in a little bit, in terms of the Abraham Hicks kind of

  • emotional feelings.

  • Actually, why don't we just go there now?

  • Let's talk about that, because I know Abraham Hicks...

  • I have run into so many friends recently––it's wild––that have talked about the power

  • of that teaching.

  • You and I've talked about it before, but I feel like it's kind of in the zeitgeist again

  • in a bigger way right now.

  • You refer to...

  • I think it's here.

  • I have it flagged in my Super Attractor book.

  • It is the emotional guidance scale.

  • Tell us a little bit about what this is and why it's important, how it's relevant to what

  • you just shared.

  • Esther Hicks is a channel for these beings of love, I would say, really, voices of love

  • called Abraham.

  • And it's a big theme throughout this book, which is really the teachings of Abraham.

  • Anyone that's speaking about the law of attraction in an authentic way is in some way referencing

  • Abraham.

  • Period.

  • End of story.

  • I mean, The Secret was based on the principles of Abraham.

  • And so one of their beautiful methods is this method called the emotional guidance scale.

  • The theory is that you wouldn't go from doubt or devastation to love over one beat.

  • You wouldn't just leap there, but you would start to go up the scale.

  • The top of the scale is joy.

  • But I'm actually going to start at the bottom of the scale, because you want to reach for

  • the next best emotion.

  • And so it starts with hatred and rage.

  • And then if you get to a place of revenge, that's actually a better vibration than hatred

  • and rage.

  • Whereas if you're going to anger, anger is a better vibration than revenge.

  • Then, it goes to discouragement, blame, worry, doubt.

  • This is all moving up.

  • Doubt is better than worry.

  • Disappointment, better than doubt.

  • Overwhelm, frustration.

  • Pessimism.

  • Boredom.

  • Contentment.

  • And so now, you're at contentment, and the next leap is hopefulness.

  • The next leap is now optimism.

  • The next leap is positive expectation, then enthusiasm, passion, and then joy, appreciation

  • and love.

  • The concept here is that let's say you're super angry at somebody and you're just so

  • stuck in that anger and then you move into blame.

  • You just leap up and you're in blame.

  • You're like, "I'm going to blame them for all my..."

  • It's actually a better feeling that anger.

  • So the concept here is that you're reaching for a better feeling vibration, and you're

  • reaching yourself out of that low vibration of hatred and rage and getting yourself up

  • the scale.

  • I think what's so cool about this when I read it was it gives people an opportunity to take

  • a tiny step in the right direction.

  • Totally.

  • Because for so many of us, you know, there may be times⁠—right?⁠⁠—when we can

  • shift out and it can be that fast and you just have that possibility.

  • But for the times when we can't, to have another option just feels hopeful.

  • Absolutely.

  • Feels really hopeful.

  • Yeah.

  • So let's talk about your three-step choose again method, which recurred throughout the

  • book.

  • And I thought it was...

  • I love simple concepts, because we can remember them and we can practice them and they actually

  • work.

  • So tell us about the choose again method.

  • This is how I've probably lived my life for over a decade now with this three-step process.

  • And it's something that's always going on in the background.

  • In some ways, it's a little bit like cognitive behavioral therapy where you're rethinking

  • something and you're reprogramming and revisiting and reframing.

  • It's a moment-to-moment subtle shift that you create on your own to start to create

  • a new pattern and a new energy.

  • So the first step is you witness the fear-based thought.

  • You look at the thought.

  • You're looking at it, you're like, "This isn't what I want.

  • I'm feeling funky."

  • You may not even identify it first as a thought.

  • You might identify it first as a feeling.

  • I'm not feeling good.

  • Right.

  • Yeah.

  • You find yourself feeling like crap or you feel stuck or you feel down or you feel, you

  • know, depressed or anxious or whatever it is, and you notice that this isn't necessarily

  • the way that you want to feel.

  • Yeah.

  • So what am I thinking and how am I feeling?

  • And you look at it and you witness it and you call it out.

  • The next step is actually to forgive the thought.

  • This is sort of a weird one for people, but the concept of forgiving the thought means

  • that you're taking its power away.

  • You're dissolving it with love.

  • You're saying, "This isn't me.

  • This isn't the truth of who I am.

  • I forgive this.

  • I forgive myself for having this thought," and you start to clean the slate.

  • And then the third step is to ask the universe for guidance to reframe it.

  • Because sometimes when we're in that low vibration, we don't have the mental conditioning yet

  • to think a new thought because we're so stuck in the momentum of that negative thought.

  • And so this is where surrender and prayer comes in and it's a huge theme throughout

  • the book, which is our commitment to believing in a higher power of our own understanding,

  • whatever that might be for the reader or for the viewer, that you then can literally say,

  • "Thank you for reframing this for me."

  • There's so much peace in just giving it over.

  • There's so much peace in just saying, "I don't really have the answer for this.

  • I welcome a higher power to reorganize this for me."

  • And so you've done your part by looking at it, forgiving it, and then giving it away

  • is the third step, turning it over.

  • Then, what happens, ultimately, is once you give it away, a new idea will come to you,

  • or someone will call you with a new suggestion or solution, or you'll just start to feel

  • better because you've surrendered it.

  • Yeah.

  • There's a lot of ease and efficiency, and I like faith in that.

  • Yeah.

  • I love that piece of it.

  • And I feel like any time, in my own kind of journey of working and coaching with people,

  • there's so much power for all of us, for myself included, in slowing down enough to identify

  • the thought that you're hanging onto that's the source of the misery.

  • Totally.

  • And recognizing, like the name says, we have the power to choose again.

  • So cool.

  • Let's talk about the story.

  • One of my...

  • You tell so many great stories in this book.

  • Let's talk about the one that happened when you found that hate-filled post about you

  • on the Facebook.

  • I get a call from one of my team members, and she's like, "Oh, don't go on Facebook."

  • And I was like, "What?"

  • And she's like, "There is a whole person's Facebook page and they're railing on you and

  • they're going off about you."

  • And maybe like 30 people had chimed in, being like, "Oh.

  • You hate Gabby Bernstein?

  • Thank God somebody's talking about it."

  • Just like, you know, going after me.

  • Yeah.

  • Well, 30 people is a small number in the grand scheme of the universe.

  • This feels really overwhelming, and even one person hating you on the Internet can shake

  • you to your core.

  • So I do what anyone would do in that moment, and I start to go down that hole of shame

  • and upset and what did I do wrong and how could I have triggered these people in this

  • way and what, you know, what is my part?

  • And just getting so hooked into it, even though, you know, a lot of what was being said was

  • being said without any information.

  • Right?

  • You know.

  • But regardless, I didn't even need to dig into it to feel the feelings of discomfort.

  • And I was getting really, really hung up about it, really hung up about it.

  • It took, you know, probably...

  • It was about a full day of just like being down and bummed out.

  • And I remember I was watching television with my husband at night, and I was staring at

  • my phone, just being like, "Did more people weigh in?

  • What's happening?"

  • He looks at me.

  • He's like, "What is going on?

  • What?

  • You can't even be present with me in this room.

  • Why are you so stuck in this?"

  • I was like, "It feels so horrible to be, you know, pounded on on the Internet and I'm so

  • upset about it."

  • And he said, "Listen.

  • You got it all wrong, girl."

  • This is when my husband became my guru.

  • And he said, "You are focusing all your energy on these 30 people who are hating you, but

  • you have thousands of people on your DM on Instagram that are trying to send you love,

  • that are asking you questions, that want your support, and you don't even know how to find

  • your DM."

  • You and me are in the same boat for a long time.

  • I feel horrible.

  • Yeah, yeah, yeah.

  • I had no idea how to find my DM.

  • And he's like, "You don't even know how to find it."

  • He's like, "Let me show you how to find your DM and focus on the people that need you,

  • not on these people that are hating on you."

  • So I spend the next four days just DMing, DMing, DMing.

  • I went on my Instagram.

  • I was like, "Y'all.

  • Who wants to DM?

  • Let's go."

  • And so I'm just like in it and in it and just feeling so...

  • Within 48 hours, I was just like so transformed by just being in the service of others and

  • connecting to the people that really wanted to hear from me and wanted my support.

  • And what happened that was so transformational was I woke up one morning, a few days into

  • this, and I woke up at like 5:00 AM.

  • And I was still a little upset by this.

  • Yeah.

  • The thought came right back in.

  • Yeah.

  • Oh, there they are.

  • Why are they talking about me?

  • Of course.

  • And in that moment, I was like, "Okay.

  • Zach said, 'Get on DM.'"

  • So I get back on my DM and I start DMing and I see this girl.

  • She's talking to me, and she's saying, "You know, listen.

  • I was sober for two years.

  • I just went out.

  • I feel like I want to commit suicide right now."

  • I started DMing with her.

  • Within the hour, I'm on the phone with her.

  • And that day, she made a commitment to go back to recovery.

  • So I have deep gratitude for those haters, because those haters gave me this beautiful

  • opportunity to be of service to somebody and potentially save her life and also just get

  • over it.

  • Yeah.

  • Yeah.

  • It's so powerful.

  • And I wanted you to tell that story in the context of being a super attractor, because

  • this is not about feeling good all the time.

  • That's impossible.

  • And it's not about living in such a bubble or such a space where bad things, hurtful

  • things, painful things don't happen.

  • But I think what's so wonderful about this particular book is it's like, "Hey.

  • We can expect all this stuff, but here are really concrete tools and some great stories

  • that will help you reframe these situations in a new light and pick yourself back up with

  • external support."

  • I think that's another really interesting thing.

  • You told a great story in there, and I'm wondering if you can retell it here, about one of the

  • inspirations for this book was ironically on your last tour, right?

  • Yeah.

  • You went hard, girl, and I know, you know, you're a hard worker.

  • But you started to notice a thought that you were having that was stressing you out and

  • having you feel unsupported.

  • Yeah.

  • Yeah.

  • On the book tour for my book, Judgment Detox, I got out of alignment.

  • One of my key team members was on maternity, and I was dealing with a gut condition and

  • I was super stressed and just feeling unsupported and got really, really taken out.

  • I open the book by telling that story, because the thrill of being able to write this book

  • was what was going to heal me from that, like recovery from that.

  • And so I literally started writing this book on the tail end of that launch, because I

  • needed to remind myself of what I knew to be true and I needed to get back into alignment.

  • I mean, I literally...

  • The first page of the book is like, "I'm so psyched to be writing this book."

  • And I hope that the reader feels that energy, because I was just ready to just reconnect.

  • Whenever we're in a place where we're pushing or controlling or manipulating or trying to

  • make things happen, we are cutting off our super attractor power and the universe slapped

  • me on the wrist for that.

  • There was some interesting things that came up during that launch that that really rocked

  • me.

  • And they were blessings, because the universe will reveal to us what we need to heal.

  • And can you tell about the belief that you had?

  • Like if I'm not doing it, it's not going to get done?

  • I'm paraphrasing you there.

  • Absolutely.

  • That's pretty much it.

  • It's like this is an old story I carried for many, many years.

  • If I'm not doing it, it won't happen.

  • And I'm really proud to say, actually, with your help, with Kris Carr's help, I have transformed

  • that story completely.

  • I am so good at asking for help now, Marie.

  • I love it.

  • Yes.

  • I kill at it, and I have like the most amazing people supporting me in all ways.

  • And so I want anyone that's listening to know that that is something that can be transformed.

  • The methods in this book are designed to help people transform belief systems like that.

  • So that was a crippling belief system that haunted me for years, that if I don't do it,

  • nobody else will.

  • You know, you can burn yourself out real fast with that belief system.

  • And I did.

  • Yeah, and it's evidence, too, I think, of...

  • I try and hunt for this in my own life.

  • You know, where am I holding myself back because I am so committed to a certain version of

  • reality?

  • And I just keep creating that reality again and again and...

  • I'm real good at it, like most of us are, right?

  • We're really good at it, and we're really convinced, "No, this is the way it is."

  • Yeah.

  • And so what I love about that story is that you were able to notice that recurring thought/belief

  • and go, "Okay.

  • Let's try something different."

  • Let's try something different.

  • That's right.

  • Let's try something totally different.

  • That's right.

  • And we all know the stories that hold us back and the limitations, and many of us have them

  • in one corner of our life and not in another, or we have them in maybe many.

  • But those belief systems are the reason that we continue to stay stuck, continue to play

  • small, continue to feel blocked.

  • This book is really just about reframing, reorganizing, and reestablishing a new way

  • of living so that you can just not be so stuck in those patterns.

  • Let's talk about receiving guidance for a minute, because you were telling the story

  • about early on in your journey.

  • And I've called you.

  • I remember I was, you know, we've had so many talks about this, but I was like, "Okay.

  • Who's one of my friends who is so good getting our thoughts down, getting content down?"

  • And I was like, "Gabs.

  • I'm going to call Gabs," and we were talking about the book.

  • I remember you had told me, like, "Marie.

  • You know, I just sit down and it comes out."

  • I remember thinking to myself, like, "Shit.

  • That is just so not me."

  • In this book, you told the story about right before you were writing your first book, Add

  • More Ing To My Life, which is around when you and I met, you felt a sense of fear because

  • you hadn't written a book yet.

  • Yeah.

  • Can you talk to us about how you felt then, what you recognize for yourself?

  • Because I think there might be people in the audience who want to write a book, who dream

  • of writing a book, and may find themselves where I was when I called you and in your

  • shoes way many years ago.

  • Yeah.

  • Well, I knew that there was a book in me, many books in me, but I had no idea how to

  • string a sentence together.

  • My literary education ended in eighth grade.

  • I had no idea how to create the structure of a book, how to write an outline, none of

  • those things.

  • Tell stories.

  • None of it.

  • None of it.

  • None of it.

  • Yeah.

  • And so at the time I had to...

  • But I was really good at selling.

  • So I sold my book, because I had a good idea and I had built a bit of a platform.

  • So I sold the book to a publisher, and then I was like, "Uh-oh.

  • I have to write the book."

  • So for me it all came down to surrender.

  • It came down to fully turning it over.

  • At the time...

  • This is a beautiful story in the book.

  • There's many stories that align with this specific time in my life.

  • But I was really needing guidance to show me, you know, what does an outline of a book

  • look like.

  • And so I started to pray for it.

  • At the time, I had a friend who had passed on, a young woman in my sober community, who

  • had died and very suddenly.

  • And when we were invited to...

  • Some of us were invited to go collect some of her belongings after her parents had been

  • in her apartment.

  • And so I remember I got the hit that I needed to take her books.

  • I drove my car over to her apartment, and I filled my car up.

  • It's just like boxes and boxes and boxes of all these self help books.

  • And I stacked my walls with these beautiful books.

  • And I just left them there, didn't even know what to do with them.

  • Around this time when I was trying to figure out what to do with Add More Ing to your Life,

  • I woke up in the middle of the night and I walked over just randomly to the bookshelf

  • and put my hand on a book and pulled this random book off the shelf that I'd never seen

  • before.

  • It was this book called Living in the Light by Shakti Gawain.

  • I read that book that night, and that book inspired the simple outline that became Add

  • More Ing to your Life.

  • And so sometimes when we read another book, we get the inspiration of how we want to outline

  • our our own.

  • But the beauty of that was I kept thinking, "Where did this book come from?

  • I don't know this book.

  • I didn't buy this book.

  • Where did it..."

  • And this was months after Lauren had passed, and I realized it was Lauren's book.

  • I talk a lot about guidance from above and the deceased family members and friends.

  • I know Lauren guided me to that book, and Add More Ing to your Life is actually dedicated

  • to her.

  • That's awesome.

  • Yeah.

  • So beautiful.

  • And speaking of guidance, I want to build on that because I feel like this is the first

  • book where you have kind of gone into...

  • Like you and I have had private conversations, but I've never read you writing about here

  • are all the sources of invisible guidance that are available should you want to choose

  • to invite them to support you from your own higher self, from the universe or source,

  • from God, if you choose to use that language, from archangels and guardian angels.

  • And I was like, "Yay, Gabby."

  • I was so excited to read that chapter.

  • Do you want to speak into that at all?

  • I do, and I write in the book about how I'm going to push the metaphysical envelope and

  • I'm going to go to places I haven't gone before.

  • And I never went there before, because I didn't want to alienate my reader and I had a lot

  • of new seekers that were joining me on this journey.

  • But I feel right now that people are completely ready for this conversation, and they can

  • take it or leave it and make it their own.

  • My beliefs do not have to be theirs, so that's a really important point that whatever we

  • believe when we think about a higher power, spiritual presence is what we believe.

  • All that matters is that you believe it, not that someone said it's this or that.

  • It may be a religious spiritual belief system.

  • It may be a belief system from your childhood, maybe something that you read in a book that

  • resonated with you.

  • You decide.

  • That's the beautiful thing about being on a spiritual path.

  • But what I share is what I believe to be true about what it means to connect to the voice

  • of our higher self, our inner guidance system and our inner wisdom versus what it means

  • to rely on a guide or a angel or a deceased family member or a loved one.

  • And so I believe we all have a team of guides, or spiritual guides that work on our behalf

  • all the time.

  • What they're there for is often to be a bridge for our thoughts.

  • So when our thoughts are in those low vibrations, if we pray to a guide or we pray to God or

  • we pray to an angel, we can say, "Thank you for bridging my thought from this low vibrational,

  • fear-based belief system to a higher vibe."

  • And the way that they would do that may be by putting a book in front of you or guiding

  • you to an episode of MarieTV that is going to just change your mind.

  • Guides work through the Internet and books and people and your subconscious.

  • And so you're going to...

  • Maybe when you have those moments where you're like, "I have this sense that I need to watch

  • that episode of MarieTV right now," maybe somebody watching just got the hit, that could've

  • been your guide just giving you that boost of inspiration.

  • Watch that.

  • Watch that, because that's going to change you.

  • And so don't underestimate those moments of synchronicity, because there's support that's

  • leading you in those synchronistic moments.

  • The more that we align with our spiritual belief systems and the more we allow ourselves

  • to accept that it's good to feel good and the more we use things like the emotional

  • guidance scale or the choose again method or any of the methods in this book, the better

  • we feel.

  • And the better we feel, the more we can hear the guidance that we're receiving.

  • The guidance is always there, but we block it.

  • We cut it off.

  • And so we can open up to that guidance.

  • I tell lots of stories about my guides in this book.

  • Yeah, I know.

  • It's awesome.

  • It reminded me, too.

  • My mom has always taught me that I have a number of guardian angels.

  • You know, I remember when I was younger, I railed against it like many of us do when

  • you just kind of rail against your parents for whatever reason.

  • But it warmed my heart when I read this in your book, because it reminded me of so much

  • good stuff that my mom has tried to share with me.

  • I'm going to send your mom a copy of the book.

  • Yeah.

  • She'll love it.

  • She'll absolutely love it.

  • So let's talk about honoring our fear as a guide back to love.

  • What does that mean in practical terms?

  • Can you give us an example?

  • Yeah.

  • This is something that came up towards the end of the book as I was writing, and I felt

  • really called to not wrap the book up by saying, "Okay.

  • Now you're fixed.

  • Like everything's good, right?" but to really honor what comes up in every moment.

  • Because in my book, The Universe Has Your Back, I talk about spiritual assignments,

  • that when things come up they're an assignment offering us an opportunity to grow and heal.

  • Any fear-based experience is just revealing to us the hidden parts of our shadow, or a

  • fearful thought that's coming up again or an experience that feels like a block is once

  • again revealing to us something that we still need to heal.

  • And so honoring our fear rather than resisting it, honoring the moments in our life that

  • are the most uncomfortable, because they reveal to us the light that we're ready to step into.

  • It's a very big reframe, particularly when you're going through really tough times.

  • But when you're going through really tough times, you need that reframe most.

  • I've been celebrating a lot of the miracles that have been happening since I've been going

  • through this journey of the postpartum stuff that comes up.

  • I have had so many miracles, so many miracles of being able to...

  • And even just the miracle of being able to speak about it publicly, to take away the

  • shame and the stigma of it.

  • Yeah.

  • So we have to see the purpose in why we go through things.

  • Yeah.

  • I love it.

  • All of us are going to hit those fearful moments.

  • And to see it as an opportunity to guide ourselves back to love, it makes my, my shoulders rest

  • a little easier and gives me an opportunity to take a breath, which is really, really

  • beautiful.

  • I want to end on the power of appreciation.

  • You talk about appreciation.

  • I think appreciation is honestly like the biggest super tool in the damn universe for

  • shifting our energy and attention.

  • You shared the Al-Anon lesson.

  • Being grateful doesn't mean we have to be happy about everything, but grateful for the

  • lessons.

  • We can accept that even the tough moments are divine lessons that guide us back to love.

  • Appreciation.

  • I just feel like, gosh, the moment you find yourself in a shitty state, right?

  • That's the thing.

  • That's it.

  • That's the thing.

  • If you can't appreciate whatever is happening that you perceive to be wrong, it's like we

  • have an opportunity to maybe look someplace else, like, "Am I still breathing?"

  • Yup.

  • Yup.

  • Yes.

  • Okay.

  • It's a good day.

  • Do I still have a roof over my head?

  • Yeah.

  • I think that the appreciation dissolves the boundary of fear and appreciation creates

  • more of what you want.

  • So if you've got something good going on, go appreciate it even more.

  • Talk about it.

  • Thrive in it, write about it.

  • Feel it.

  • Meditate on the feeling of it, because then you create more of it.

  • If you're in a funk, lean on what you appreciate to get you out of that funk and make appreciation

  • a daily habit.

  • You know, like when you and Josh wake up in the morning.

  • Abraham Hicks has this thing called the appreciation game, where you can just play the appreciation

  • game and just say, "I appreciate you because you make me coffee and I appreciate you because

  • you're a good dancer."

  • I'm just thinking about you and Josh.

  • I appreciate you because you're so funny on television.

  • Whatever it is, you know?

  • Yeah.

  • But just really appreciating your spouse, your children, and play that game with your

  • children.

  • Oh my goodness.

  • Start your day going back and forth with why you appreciate one another and it immediately

  • just realigns you, puts you into this state where you feel so good.

  • Because how can you...

  • You can't feel bad in the presence of appreciation, and it will catapult you out of the negativity.

  • That's what this is all about.

  • This is all about taking these moments and using these methods and these practices to

  • consciously and proactively bridge yourself from that low vibration to a better feeling

  • emotion.

  • And in that better feeling emotion, you become a super attractor.

  • Well, I am so appreciative of you, my friend.

  • I love you so much.

  • Thank you for also making such a big focus of this book how important it is for us to

  • lean into having fun and having joy.

  • And I love having fun with you, and I love having you on the show.

  • Thank you for yet another spectacular book.

  • Thank you.

  • I appreciate you.

  • Now, Gabby and I would love to hear from you.

  • We talked about so many beautiful things today, but I'm curious.

  • What was the one insight that you're taking away?

  • And most important, how can you turn that insight into action starting right now?

  • Leave a comment below and let us know.

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