Is a thought that comes into my head

so many times daily, you'd be surprised.

- Daily?

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I'm Nate.

- And I'm Destiny.

- How many dates have we been on?

- In life (laughing).

- Yeah.

What do you define as a date?

- I think like us going out and doing an activity together.

- I'd probably say like, probably like 50 then.

Yeah, something like that.

- Wow.

- Is that a lot?

- Nate gets out.

I think I've been on maybe, like date dates,

maybe like 25 dates.

I think maybe less, honestly,

now that I'm thinking about it probably 15.

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- I'm only gonna drink when you drink.

(laughing)

- This is gonna be fun.

How do you ask someone out on a date?

- I personally ask them out very directly.

I say, hey, you seem really nice,

I'd like to get to know you more.

Are you available at this time for this activity?

- Wow. - Yeah.

'Cause then it's like it's a yes or a no.

- Good for you.

- Yeah.

- You know, not a lot of men do that anymore nowaday.

- I learned that the hard way.

I'm just like, that's probably best.

- Yeah, that is best.

- Yeah, what about you,

how do you ask somebody out on a date?

- I don't.

- You don't?

What do you do if you like somebody?

You just send vibes out?

- I just yeah, I send vibes out

and hope that they ask me.

- You just radiate attraction.

- Thirst, I believe is (laughing) what it's called.

I must.

Maybe I should be more direct, wow.

- What is your ideal first date?

- Hmm. - Yeah.

- That's tough.

I feel like it really depends on the person,

but I think that like for me,

I love like a drink or something quick,

because dinner is too long (laughing)

if things aren't well.

- I'm the same, I like something

that's a little bit more on the small end,

where like we're get like coffee,

kind of in like an outdoor cafe.

Or we'll like meet up at like a park real quick.

But something that has the potential

so like I can bail if it's like, this ain't gonna work out,

I wanna get out of here.

Or if it's going well, I'm like,

hey, do you wanna grab some lunch?

- Right, smart.

- Then you turn it into food.

- Turn in, rah.

I like that.

- But I like that bail factor.

I like to know I can escape.

- Same.

- [Producer] Have you bailed before?

- Totally.

I've so bailed.

You can always tell within like the first minute or two,

you're like this is gonna go well.

And then, sometimes, you're like this is gonna suck.

- What's your grooming routine?

- My grooming routine,

mine's probably the same for my daily life.

I probably like just pick it up a little bit extra,

but like - what do you do?

- Just like shower, shave.

- Brush your hair.

- Brush my hair.

I have dry shampoo now.

I do that now.

- It's pretty much the same.

I might do a little bit extra make-up

or like a extra touch of something,

curl my hair a little more.

I feel like a lot of women have a tendency

to like shave our legs

even though it's like no one's touching my legs.

It's like, probably don't have to do that.

- It doesn't take me long to get ready,

but I end up taking a long time to get ready.

As I'll be ready, and I'm like I'm good to go,

and then I'll look in the mirror

and I'm like, but do I like this shirt?

- Same, I think it takes me longer,

not because I'm doing anything different,

but because I'm like nervous,

or I'm stopping a lot to be like okay, what should I say,

or like how should we?

Like looking again.

It's a lot of like refixing or like what shoes?

Versus like

- Mixing and matching.

- Mixing and matching, all that.

- Yeah.

- Are you bringing anything to defend yourself

in case of a certain situation, ie pepper spray?

- Nah.

I've never been in a situation

where I've been physically threatened

and, I don't know, I think that's like

less common with guys.

- Yeah, how pleasant it must be to be a man.

- Sorry.

- I have pepper spray, I have a knife, I have a taser.

- You have a knife?

- I have everything you need.

I've been on dates where I've had to pull both out.

- Oh (beep).

- Yeah.

- Like knife in one hand, taser in the other hand.

- Ready.

I've never had anyone like in public try to do anything,

so it's like, that's fine,

but I always carry protection.

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(laughing)

Now, I don't wanna drink,

'cause you're gonna drink every time I drink.

- We're just in this together.

- Mmhmm.

- What's your ideal arrival time?

- Ooh, I'm usually a little early

just so I can scout the place out,

look for my exits (laughing).

Parking, like all that kind of stuff.

So, maybe like 10 minutes early.

I'll be like oh, I grabbed a table, or like whatever.

- I am comically early to everything I do.

So, I usually get there, sometimes way too early,

and then I have to like sit or hide in my car

and then, come in, I just got here.

- Right. - Yeah.

- I've done that before.

- What is appropriate to eat on a date?

- You know, some women, I've heard women

like totally never wanna see a guy again

because of what he ordered at a bar, or ordered to eat,

and I'm like, I don't get that.

- Why?

- I don't know.

They're like he's a kid, he ordered chicken fingers.

And I'm like I probably

would have ordered chicken fingers, too.

I don't care what you eat.

Really, it's about how you eat it.

But that's a whole nother (laughing).

- He's got like ranch all over his face.

- Yeah, and I've been on dates like that

where I'm like are you trying to eat the plate, too?

Or like what's going on?

But when I go on dates, I mean,

and maybe this is very old-fashioned,

how it's like women get a light, a salad,

I usually get something kind of light,

just because like, mama loves some chicken wings,

but like, I'm not trying to be on a date

suckin' on a bone and like really going to town.