Name: Are there benefits to dating a disabled person? // Part 2: My wife is not an angel [CC]
Uploaded: 2020-05-06T18:20:31.000Z
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Hi I'm Jessica and I'm disabled this video also

features Claudia my wife who is not disabled- so subscribe if you enjoy

This is part 2 of the video  "my wife is not an angel"

um... because we talked for a really long time but I think that it was quite

a useful conversation that we had and we discussed many topics so I decided to

make a part 2: that is the video you are watching right now.

You can watch part 1 by clicking  the link in the description

in this corner. We were answering questions from the members of the

Kellgren-Fozar Club about what it's like to be in an interabled relationship.

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Ah this is a really good question Lauren!

disabled partner that you wouldn't have an abled partner?

especially in Brighton, there is  really limited parking

Yes that's good, you get to drive places door-to-door

There's loads of disabled bays. As sort of a confident introvert

you know sometimes I like to socialize but sometimes I don't I can just use

Jessica as an excuse to usually just like back away. I'll be like:

It doesn't usually work because Jessica's like such an

extrovert even though she is tired she pushes through it.

Picking her up from under the table like:

You are really tired now, we need to go! And she's like: 'blah blah'

I mean it is a positive of my disabilities, it is a negative of my personality.

Oh airports are really good, because we get to go through special assistance.

You get to go to the front of the line because I can't stand up for very long.

Basically the benefits that you get from being a disabled

person, the abled person who kind of jumps on that wagon. Yeah....

And also there is the obvious thing like I've probably been educated

in chronic illness and disabilities like hidden disabilities and being more aware

of people around me now of all ages  whether they are classed as disabled

whether they're just struggling that maybe I wouldn't have been so aware of

in the past. Which is really helpful to your jobs

since you deal with the general  public all the time. Yeah.

And I think generally I'd  like to think it has

made me you know not an angel but a better human being.

I hope your neck is more tolerable now yes thank you it is I sprained my neck

was great and then a whole shoulder dislocation thing. It was fun.

you want to protect Claudia or maintain some kind of normality in denial maybe

by pretending something isn't as bad as it is and how do you deal with those

feelings if you have them? I completely do that all the time and some of its

conscious and some of it isn't. I don't always tell you when I'm in pain.

Sometimes that's unconscious  because I'm like: boring.

conscious thing where I'm like: okay you know you've got your stress of the day

had a problem at work you want to just unload I'll just wait for you to get to

the end of the story and then I'll be like: [crying] great story

Yeah, I do tell you to tell me more but also

at the same time I know that I'm quite difficult that I'm like: 'yeah but like

I think it just comes down to personality.

And sometimes I, like there's nothing  you she can do.

I respond to Jessica's needs with anger because I can't do anything to make it

better. I don't know.  Yeah you're just angry at the world.

Disabled people or ill people or people who struggle with the mental illness

there is an element of of course you want to protect those we love from

knowing actually how it feels and how much it can really really suck sometimes.

I think it's difficult to portray to someone unless they have had first-hand

experience sometimes the way it really feels.

personally the best way would be when we're having a nice time like we're both

in a good mood and you're not in pain currently we're just having a good

day like we're out for dinner or like out having a lovely walk and then you

approach the subject of telling me what it feels like when you're in loads of

pain and when I come home and I moan because then it's not like nagging me

it's like: 'I'm just gonna tell you a little life story'

I will take that on board but I don't feel like I'm being put into a situation

that I can't have any control over right now and then I feel frustrated and angry.

So then well I rather she told me another time so then I'm like 'okay well

next time I come home I'll try and be more aware that Jessica might have had a

bad day or is in pain'. Wow okay well we've got the topic for our first dinner

to know how you dealt with the fact that people were talk to Claudia instead of

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