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  • Hey, it's Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business

  • and life you love.

  • If you want to set yourself on a path to have the most beautiful life possible, regardless

  • of your circumstances, this episode is for you.

  • Krishnaji and Preethaji are the founders of O&O Academy, a philosophy and meditation school

  • for transforming consciousness.

  • They're entrepreneurs and philosophers who have led thousands of people around the world

  • through their retreats and the Ekam World Peace Festival.

  • Their first book, The Four Sacred Secrets for Love and Prosperity: A Guide to Living

  • in a Beautiful State is available now.

  • Thank you both so much for being here.

  • It's such an honor to have you here on the show.

  • Thank you very much for having us.

  • So, you've had your organization...

  • You've been teaching thousands for 30 years now.

  • Talk to me about what inspired you guys to write this book now, which is brilliant, by

  • the way.

  • For us, living in a transformed state of consciousness is not the be all of life––nor is fame,

  • wealth, relationship, the end all of life.

  • And for us, what we see is coming together of both of this.

  • And to put it in a book...

  • Actually you say that, to put a...

  • Yeah.

  • It's about, we want to tell people and teach people and give this gift and put that living

  • in events and put the time in driving events.

  • You know?

  • So, if you're constantly in this belief that our happiness, our joy, everything is found

  • to external success.

  • Yes.

  • We feel if we get more wealthier, we become more happier.

  • If we look more beautiful, we'll become more happy or more healthy and more happier, better

  • relationships in life, more happier.

  • But we are constantly seeing that people are actually becoming more unhappier.

  • Which means, we have to learn to master the inner world and happiness is something that's

  • enjoyed within here.

  • So, it is very important that we first learn to live in a beautiful state.

  • Which means, learning to live in a state of joy, happiness, calm, peace.

  • And from there, nurture a life.

  • From there, build our life.

  • From there, build our relationships.

  • From there, build our wealth.

  • From there, build a success.

  • From there, have a vision for our health.

  • For anything in life external, we need to come from a beautiful state.

  • We need to come from this place of inner calm.

  • We need to come from this place of inner fulfillment.

  • Then everything you do has a meaning, has a purpose.

  • And those actions are very beautiful actions, because now you're not trying to make yourself

  • trying...

  • To make yourself...

  • You're not craving for happiness, but instead you are actually happy and doing things from

  • that state.

  • So, it is very important that we understand that the external world and the inner world

  • has to come together.

  • Which means, you have to have this gift of driving events that then stay in a state of

  • driving the events.

  • That is external success in the world.

  • I think one of the most beautiful stories in the book, which illustrates really the

  • contrast between what you guys have framed as a suffering state, right, versus a beautiful

  • state, is the story of the two monks.

  • Yeah.

  • Do you want to tell that?

  • Sure.

  • Two monks... we just named them Yesmi and Nomi.

  • They're returning back to the monastery and on the way they have to cross a river.

  • And, just as they are about to cross a river, they hear a woman crying.

  • So, Yesmi goes up to her and asks her what is troubling her.

  • She actually has to cross the river, but the water is so full, so she is fearing that she

  • will not be able to get back to her toddler.

  • And, she's fearing that he will cry for her all night.

  • So, Yesmi offers to help her.

  • So, he carries her and leaves her on the other side of the bank.

  • And Yesmi and Nomi continue to walk towards the monastery, and after half an hour into

  • the walk, Nomi in a very agitated tone speaks up, you know, what would he have done?

  • And Yesmi says, he's very calm, "Yes."

  • He says, "No, you carried the woman."

  • Yesmi is like, "So?

  • Our master said never look at a woman, you went and spoke to her.

  • Our master said never speak to a woman, you touched her.

  • And our master said never touch a woman, you carried her.

  • You've done something very wrong.”

  • For which Yesmi very calmly looks at Nomi and says, "Yes, but I've dropped her half

  • an hour ago.

  • It is you who's still carrying her."

  • I love that story, because it illustrates how much in our minds we carry our past, or

  • the worries about the future, or the anxieties, and so much here.

  • And, we're not actually present to our lives, which in this moment, typically, if you're

  • really here for it, is quite beautiful, and quite awesome, if you're not listening to

  • this thing up there.

  • Absolutely, and Yesmi clearly represents that state.

  • Yes.

  • In a beautiful state, he's just going to the woman, sees what is needed, does what is needed,

  • and then continues with life.

  • But Nomi is very agitated within, continues in that state of agitation, and continues

  • in that state of agitation even after the event is over.

  • And he's not being present to life.

  • A beautiful state is a state where you are being present.

  • A state in which there is no inner conflict.

  • It is not an emotional high, but it is a state where you are feeling so connected to life.

  • Connected to people, to life.

  • And what takes away this beautiful state is a suffering state.

  • And how would you define that, a suffering state for anyone...

  • A suffering state is any state in which you're experiencing an inner disturbance.

  • It could start off as irritation, as frustration, as loneliness, as sadness, as...

  • Anxiety.

  • Anxiety, as fear, as insecurity.

  • And, what is it that an individually is nurturing, or fueling at any point of time?

  • Because, there are only two states, Krishnaji always says.

  • Yeah.

  • There are only two states that we experience life from.

  • There's no third state.

  • Whether we are a Christian, Muslim, Hindu, whether we're Chinese, Indian, Japanese, or

  • American.

  • Whether a three-year-old child or a hundred-year-old person, man, woman, anyone in this planet.

  • We are only experiencing life from these two states.

  • Either a suffering state or a beautiful state.

  • You are either relating to your child from a space of love or from a space of confusion

  • and conflict, not knowing how to take it off your child.

  • You're either going to work from a space of connection, connected to the vision that you're

  • doing, or just conflict of not knowing what you're going to do with your life, how is

  • this day going to be.

  • You're constantly in the state of what if, not knowing how the day is going to unfold.

  • So, these are the only two states that you're constantly living from.

  • So, the most important question in life is, what state do I want to live my life from?

  • What state do I want to be a parent from?

  • What state do I want to be a husband or a wife from?

  • What state do I want to go to my work from?

  • What state do I want to be a leader from?

  • That's the most important question and if you can find the answer, which is a beautiful

  • state, then life becomes beautiful.

  • Because behind everything that we're seeing in life, whether it be deciding to be together

  • or to separate, or to take up this job, another job, anything that you're seeing behind war

  • or peace that you're seeing in the world, the division that we're experiencing is one

  • of these two states.

  • And, unfortunately, we are not giving sufficient attention to our state.

  • Because, our life is revolved about what we can show off to others, and how much we can

  • achieve.

  • Nothing is wrong with it, but if it can come from a beautiful state, it'll be nurturing

  • to yourself.

  • And you can also be nurturing to others.

  • Yes.

  • So, one of the things I think is so interesting, for folks listening now, I know they're like,

  • yes, yes, and yes.

  • Now, please tell me how can I begin to cultivate a more beautiful state when my dog is throwing

  • up, and the baby's crying, and I just learned that my transmission's broke, and do you

  • know, like the absolutely really normal everyday things for all of us show up.

  • What would you say to them who are like, "This sounds really good, but how do I even begin

  • to start?"

  • Let us make a clear distinction between challenges that we face in life and suffering.

  • Okay.

  • Challenges are the pressure.

  • Pressure is experienced by any species.

  • The plant species, the animal species, human species.

  • We all experience challenges in our life.

  • Pressure is always there, but suffering is something very different from the challenges.

  • We differentiate a suffering from the challenges that we face.

  • Suffering is the inner dialogue that we carry within ourselves.

  • This continuation of the external challenge internally is very limited only to the human

  • species.

  • An this inner dialogue, this continuation of the challenge internally, that we call

  • suffering.

  • And this suffering, unfortunately, separates us, disconnects us with people.

  • It disconnects us from life.

  • It disconnects us from everything that's beautiful around you.

  • And this is suffering.

  • Do we need to suffer in order to find solution to the challenge that we currently facing?

  • No.

  • No.

  • We're just habituated to it.

  • Yes.

  • We are used to it and more so often, it becomes our home after a point of time.

  • Yes, very comfortable and familiar.

  • Yes.

  • People are used to living in stages of anger.

  • People are used to living in states of anxiety.

  • Even when there is no need, you wake up with this anxiety in your stomach.

  • Or you're not able to get to bed or sleep properly because there's so much of anxiety

  • that you're filled with because you are used to it and you're constantly fueling these

  • states, which has become your home.

  • Yes.

  • So what can we start to do to pull that string?

  • I mean, obviously awareness, I believe, is one of the beginnings.

  • It is extremely important that we bring attention to our inner states.

  • Yes.

  • And what do we teach the participants, our students, is, we teach them wisdom.

  • We give them the right wisdom that is needed to see what is the state in which they are

  • coming from.

  • And also bring attention to the emotions that they're feeling and see how they are obsessed

  • about a past event or a future event and see how disconnected and engrossed they are with

  • themselves.

  • Which I think you add...

  • Yes, if you look at suffering and if you're paying attention to a thought process, you'll

  • understand that while you're suffering, you're constantly obsessed about yourself.

  • Yes.

  • You have moved away from challenges, you have moved away from problems, but you're just

  • obsessing about yourself.

  • For example, you got fired.

  • The problem is, you need to find another job.

  • But instead, you suffer.

  • You suffer because you think now what's going to happen to my mortgage payment.

  • What am I going to go back home and tell my parents or tell my wife?

  • What are my friends going to think about me?

  • Or someone who was less efficient than me got promoted, there was politics, I was sabotaged.

  • So all these thoughts are about you.

  • You have completely moved away from the problem to yourself.

  • And when that happens, you are in suffering.

  • So if you can bring attention to the thought process, then you will free yourself from

  • suffering.

  • And you will start to connect to the problem and there will be intelligence that flows.

  • Today, science clearly says that the more you suffer, the brain actually shrinks in

  • size.

  • And the more you feel connected, the brain actually expands in size.

  • Which means you're becoming either lesson intelligent or less connected or you're becoming

  • more intelligent or more connected.

  • So if I'm hearing you correctly and I'm just gonna track for everyone listening, one of

  • the first things we can do is just simply bring awareness to our thoughts.

  • Bring awareness to that thought process.

  • Yes.

  • And to be able to be aware...

  • Yes.

  • That if we're suffering, there's a really high likelihood that our thoughts are self-obsessed.

  • Absolutely.

  • “I” based.

  • Yes.

  • That is this data today which shows that we think around 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts a day.

  • Out of which 83% of them are negative thoughts.

  • 83% of them are repetitive thoughts.

  • And out of which 80% are negative thoughts.

  • Which means...

  • That negativity bias in our mind, right?

  • Which is, built in ancient circuitry that was designed to help us survive, but in modern

  • times, not so wonderful for a beautiful state.

  • Yes.

  • If there is suffering––and it's an insight from Krishnaji––if there is suffering,

  • that means you are engrossed with yourself.

  • If you are not engrossed with yourself, if you are connected, there is no suffering.

  • So simple yet so profound.

  • Yes.

  • Yes.

  • Yes.

  • So incredibly profound.

  • Okay, someone's listening right now.

  • They're like, "all right.

  • I am gonna start paying attention to my thoughts.

  • I'm gonna start bringing awareness to notice.

  • Right, now am I in a beautiful state or a suffering state?

  • Paying attention, noticing if I'm self-obsessed, there's gonna be suffering.”

  • This is a really good start.

  • I wanna talk more deeply about how we can move into, let's say, “That's okay.

  • We did lose our job.”

  • And we do recognize, “Wow, I am being really self-obsessed right now.”

  • How can we take this awareness of perhaps moving into a beautiful state and then moving

  • into taking the next right spiritual action?

  • Can you guys speak into that?

  • So when you bring awareness or attention to the thoughts that you have been self-obsessed,

  • you automatically model a beautiful state.

  • There is no search for you.

  • You're not searching to get into a beautiful state, but a beautiful state automatically

  • happens because now you've saw the inner truth.

  • The inner truth that you are obsessing about yourself.

  • And when you see the truth, automatically beautiful state comes.

  • And in that beautiful state, you see problem very crystal clear.

  • And then when you're able to see the problem very crystal clear, there is a tremendous

  • amount of intelligence that flows into you.

  • That is strength.

  • That is courage.

  • You get back your vision.

  • And you go back trying to solve that problem and you find a solution.

  • It falls off like a house of cards.

  • If you're able to see suffering and see that it is an engrossment with yourself, it is

  • just an engagement with yourself.

  • Then it falls apart.

  • And then you dissolve the suffering.

  • And once suffering dissolves, what happens within you is a place of calm, of joy, of

  • connection.

  • And then you act from that place.

  • A spiritual right action as it is the book, is an action that emerges after you've dissolved

  • your suffering state.

  • Mm...

  • It could be anxiety, it could be fear, it could be hurt, it could be loneliness.

  • But when you act from these states, you do not have the right intelligence that you need

  • to solve that particular problem or the challenge that you're facing.

  • So it is important to dissolve these states of suffering in order to acquire the intelligence

  • to solve the problem.

  • And then, a spiritual right action is an action that emerges after taking into consideration

  • your well being, as well as the well being of the other.

  • Because it emerges from a place of connection.

  • Yes.

  • And, a spiritual right action is not an ideal driven action.

  • I loved this distinction in the book.

  • I definitely wanna go deeper on this because I think in our world, there are so many kind

  • of formulas and people are looking for a particular set way to do something that's going to produce

  • a positive result every time and that's just not realistic.

  • And the thing that I loved about the distinction I read in your book was it's not ideal based.

  • It actually is present to the moment so you can be appropriate to what's here.

  • Absolutely.

  • Because ideals are old.

  • Ideals are mechanical.

  • Ideals are repetitive and habitual.

  • And what is needed from you as a wonderful person is that you feel so connected to people.

  • You feel so connected to life and act from that place.

  • If it is driven by an ideal, you're performing that action not from a place of connection,

  • but because you want to feel right or you want to feel great.

  • You want to feel that you're an honest person.

  • And you are a wonderful person.

  • It is again, obsessing about yourself.

  • Yes.

  • Do we wanna go into the Confucius example?

  • Because I think that that might help explain.

  • Because I can hear people going like, "What are you guys talking about when you talk about

  • ideals?

  • What exactly does that mean?"

  • So, there is the story in the time of Confucius.

  • And a horse gets stolen.

  • So there's this young boy who comes to the court of where Confucius is and say I know

  • who stole the horse.

  • And Confucius asks, "Who it was?"

  • And then he says, "My father."

  • So immediately the father was brought to the court and he was jailed.

  • But Confucius does not let go of the boy.

  • He continues to inquire, to find out what is the problem.

  • And he says, "Do you know why your father stole the horse?"

  • He says, "Yes.

  • I know.

  • My father stole the horse because his family has been starving.

  • My mom, my sister, my brother and myself.

  • We've been starving for so many days and in order to feed us, he stole the horse."

  • On listening to this, Confucius jailed the boy and released the father.

  • And I always share this with the Field of Abundance four day retreat I do across the

  • world and people get very confused.

  • Because the boy has done the right thing.

  • Why is the boy being jailed?

  • Because you're so used to feeling being honest is right.

  • I would say probably Confucius felt different.

  • Confucius felt that having a person who's heartless in this society was more dangerous

  • than having a person who could speak lie.

  • And this boy, if you go into it, if you go into the story, as how we interpret it, is

  • obsessed with being right.

  • Is obsessed with being an honest person.

  • And this obsession is actually disconnecting him from his family, disconnecting him from

  • his life.

  • So, a spiritual right action is not born out of an obsession.

  • What the world needs now, what the world needs today is a state of connection where you feel

  • connected and action that emerges from a state of connection will never be a wrong action.

  • It also feels like, when people get so married to a sense of righteousness or what they believe

  • must always be, there is also a loss of a sense of larger context with both how they're

  • relating...

  • And it is old.

  • Yes.

  • I mean it is like a very old software playing the same programming.

  • Yes.

  • Or very old song playing the same song, not taking into consideration what the environment

  • needs.

  • Yes.

  • It's not dynamic.

  • No.

  • It's not flexible.

  • And there's no spontaneity or heart or universal connection.

  • Absolutely.

  • And if you look back at your life, the times when you actually performed or hurt somebody

  • else...

  • Yes.

  • Or you regret having performed that action is, it comes from a state of suffering.

  • Yes.

  • Yes, yes, yes.

  • When you are suffering, you perform those actions that can cause greater division, greater

  • discord, greater suffering, more pain to others.

  • If you look back at life and you say, "I'm feeling so connected.

  • I'm feeling so happy and joyful," and the actions that could have come from that state

  • is a beautiful action.

  • And so, for folks listening now who perhaps are like, "This is really making sense.

  • This sounds amazing.

  • I would like to cultivate my beautiful state even more," obviously we want them to read

  • the book because there's beautiful practices in there.

  • What else can you recommend to someone either listening on the podcast right now or watching

  • this episode that they could start doing even as soon as today?

  • You want to do the practice or you want...

  • Sure, whatever you want.

  • We're open.

  • We can do the serene mind practice.

  • Yeah.

  • From the beginning.

  • Is that one of your favorites?

  • It kind of, any time you feel disturbed.

  • Anytime you feel that there is an inner conflict or you are disturbed.

  • You feel something is not fine here.

  • It's important to bring attention to your thinking.

  • And this practice, it's very simple, but can be tricky because we're not used to looking

  • at our inner state.

  • Yes.

  • We're used to focusing so much on the outer world.

  • We are lost on this.

  • So it gives attention, but the more you practice it, it's easier.

  • So you get more clear.

  • So, should we do the practice right?

  • Let's do it.

  • Okay.

  • I'm down with her.

  • Please close your eyes.

  • Bring your attention to your breath.

  • Identify the exact emotion that is arising within you right now.

  • Is it hard, loneliness, anxiety, irritation?

  • Or is it calm, joy, love and connection?

  • Do not try to change anything.

  • Just bring attention.

  • As this emotion is rising within you, are you obsessed over your past?

  • Are you obsessed over your future?

  • Or are you in the present moment?

  • Observe the movement of your mind.

  • As this emotion is arising within you, are you engrossed with yourself or are you feeling

  • connected?

  • Now see a light move from the middle of your forehead to the middle of your brain.

  • And see this light glow in the darkness.

  • See this light glow in darkness.

  • Bring a smile to your face.

  • Open your eyes when you're ready.

  • That was beautiful.

  • You guys look even more glowy than you did before.

  • So, that was wonderful.

  • Thank you so much.

  • One of the things that I see a lot in our inboxes and sometimes I'll see when people

  • write notes on social media or wherever, is folks feeling that they live in a cold and

  • uncaring world.

  • That they're not supported in their dreams or that at every turn, things don't seem to

  • be working out.

  • In the book, you talk about the four stages to access universal intelligence.

  • I would love to walk through them.

  • And obviously, what we just practiced is a beautiful entry point to that.

  • That first step was about letting go of all anxiety and fear and desperation about that

  • goal or that project or whatever it is to achieve that you want.

  • Do you feel that's a good place to begin?

  • Yes.

  • It is a very good place to begin.

  • Yes.

  • And then the second step.

  • Opening yourself up to awareness.

  • Tell us about that.

  • In the first step, if you see throughout ages, we always said, we need to connect to our

  • divine or to our god every time we're feeling desperate.

  • Where Krishnaji and I differ a lot is a state of suffering, a state of desperation, a state

  • of anxiety actually causes more separation.

  • And if you want to actually manifest, you need to feel connected and it is important

  • to let go of the desperation and anxiety.

  • So the serene mind works for to dissolves that suffering, to bring attention to it and

  • dissolve it.

  • And then after having let go, to know that we are not separate in this world.

  • To know that there is an intelligence that is pervading through all life.

  • Somehow we always seen life as being separate and disconnected and different individuals.

  • But we're all connected.

  • And there is a universal intelligence that is prevalent.

  • And the more you experience a state of connection, the more you're aware of this universal intelligence

  • being present in your life.

  • This universal intelligence would respond to you.

  • So opening ourselves up to it, really putting awareness, even around the center of our heart.

  • Yes.

  • Putting your palms on your heart, bringing attention to your heart.

  • This place, and to feel, open up your heart, to feel connected.

  • Open up your heart to feel that universal intelligence, the divine that is pervading

  • in all forms of life.

  • And then, asking, not from a place of desperation, but from a place of deep connection, asking

  • the universal intelligence to manifest what you want to manifest in your life.

  • What is very important here is not from a place of desperation, but seeing that you

  • are connected to this unitary fabric of life and then asking from that place.

  • And then four, I loved this step.

  • Clearly visualize what you want.

  • Yes.

  • We really do not know what we want, many times.

  • Clearly sit down, think what you really want in your life at this point of time.

  • And ask for that.

  • Visualize every bit of it.

  • If you're not able to visualize, feel it or think very deeply.

  • The reason we do not know what we want is because we're disconnected with us.

  • Because we're coming from this place of anxiety, and desperation, we do not know what we want.

  • That is why it's so important that when you are doing the prayer or when you are meditating,

  • when you are connecting with the universal intelligence, you clearly move to a beautiful

  • state of connection.

  • So then you know what you want or what someone close to you or dear to you wants.

  • And from that space you ask, there is a huge possibility of the magic happening.

  • Gorgeous.

  • So I'd like to end with just talking about how this work is not really just about our

  • own selves or our own personal relationships or our work or our careers.

  • But really our collective suffering.

  • I love, Preethaji, you've said, "War, division, conflict of every form can only end when more

  • and more of us live in a beautiful state."

  • Can you tell us more about your vision for this work in the world?

  • Yes.

  • The more disconnected we are, the more suffering we cause ourselves.

  • The more suffering we cause to the people around us.

  • And as we started off, behind everything that we see in the world is happening because of

  • the state of disconnection.

  • And if you're truly looking for a more connected world, more peaceful world, more joyful world,

  • not only our own lives, not only the lives of loved ones, but if you're looking at this

  • for the future generations, it is extremely important that we nurture a beautiful state.

  • And actions that springs from our beautiful state leaves ripples across the planet.

  • And especially in the four day retreat that we do across the world, it is not one single

  • individual transforming.

  • I actually seen many generations transforming.

  • So, it is very important to nurture the state and to cultivate as a way of life.

  • Yes.

  • Yes.

  • Absolutely.

  • Unfortunately, we are living in a world which is very divided.

  • Yes.

  • Which is very separated.

  • And we strongly believe the more we can divide it, the more happier we can become.

  • Because we're all craving for massive identities, right?

  • Right.

  • And the only identity that we all have is that we are all one.

  • That is the true identity.

  • And we have to learn to nurture that identity in us, and we have to really live that identity.

  • It's not just an ideal again.

  • It's not just a belief, but we are to live it.

  • And that happens when you are in a connected state.

  • When you are in a beautiful state and you understand that the entire humanity's only

  • living in these two states.

  • And there's no third state.

  • Then we're all one.

  • We all just need to learn to connect, learn to love.

  • And really observe our suffering state and become free of it by going within our truth.

  • If we can do that then this world will become definitely a more peaceful place.

  • And yeah.

  • It'll become a very, very peaceful place.

  • Really beautiful.

  • Thank you both so very much for being here.

  • Thank you for having us.

  • Thank you.

  • Thank you.

  • Absolutely.

  • So wonderful being here.

  • Now we would love to hear from you.

  • So I'm curious.

  • Out of everything we discussed today, what's the one insight that you're taking away from

  • this conversation, and, how can you put that insight into action starting right now?

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