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  • And what I want to do right now, Katherine, is answer some

  • frequently asked questions.

  • Now, the first and most common question we get is, "Do I need to do this

  • with my partner?"

  • Absolutely not.

  • I'd say that most of the people who do it are people who are just coming in

  • as individuals, and those people don't even ever want to speak to that

  • person again, which, you know, if someone behaves really

  • badly is understandable.

  • We don't have an agenda that you need to be friends.

  • We don't have an agenda that you need to stay connected.

  • We certainly don't have an agenda that you need to do it as a couple.

  • But if you do do it as an uncoupling couple, we have certain instructions

  • for you that we've created just for you.

  • So we give you guidance on how best to do that.

  • But truthfully, the majority of people who come into the program are single

  • and are just struggling with a hurting heart.

  • - I see.

  • Now the second question is, "Is this relevant if I don't have children

  • or if I'm not married?"

  • - Absolutely.

  • And as a matter of fact, in many ways, I'd say it's if you want to be

  • in a couple, a happy, healthy relationship,

  • I would say that it's kind of mandatory because you want to be able to turn your

  • breakup into...which is really the worst thing for many people that's ever

  • happened to them.

  • But you want to be able to turn it into the best thing that's ever happened.

  • And that's always going to have to do with wisdom gained and lessons learned that you

  • can now pegboard into your next relationship.

  • You don't want to take unfinished business from a past partner into your new

  • relationship because you will sabotage that relationship.

  • You want to go into your next relationship clear, wise, having healed that wound,

  • and having been, you know, all the more capable of loving

  • because of it.

  • - Next question is, "I got divorced over five years ago, will this still help?"

  • - It is never too late to have a conscious uncoupling.

  • I've had people coming into the process, you know, decades after.

  • - And you don't need your other partner there.

  • - You do not need that person there. - It's a personal process.

  • - It's a very personal process.

  • But I will say that I've met people who, many years after a bad breakup, had not

  • even had so much as a date.

  • And very often, we've been able to trace it back to their heart.

  • They thought the time could heal everything and they thought

  • that eventually, they'd get to a place, you know, where they would find love again

  • and they just didn't and they didn't know why it wasn't happening until they

  • did conscious uncoupling.

  • And then they kind of saw all of the covert ways they had shut down,

  • that they were guarded, that they were pushing people away,

  • even though they desperately wanted love.

  • So I encourage people to come at any time to conscious uncoupling so that you can

  • actually be free to open your heart and have love in your life.

  • It's too big a cost to pay to never let anyone close to you again because you've

  • been hurt in the past.

  • And anyone who's gone through a broken heart knows that they never want that

  • to happen again.

  • So conscious uncoupling will actually have you be able to heal that wound in a way

  • that has you feel safe to open your heart up to another person again.

  • - Beautifully said.

  • Now, what if...this is a question we got.

  • The question is, "What if I'm hoping to get back with my partner?"

  • - Oh, that's a great question.

  • You know, a lot of people do end up recoupling

  • after doing conscious uncoupling.

  • Because one of the things that the program does, and this is why I can so clearly say

  • that you will have an experience where you can trust yourself moving forward to do

  • this differently, is that I'm teaching you, almost inadvertently as I'm taking

  • you through the healing process, some core skills that are necessary

  • for healthy relationships.

  • So, you know, like the self-soothing that happens in the first week,

  • or the ability to take personal responsibility in the second week,

  • or the third week where we look at your core wounds and how that's been playing

  • out in relationships, and how do you become conscious of that

  • in such a way that you don't do that anymore.

  • All of these things create good relationships.

  • So very often, people will end up recoupling.

  • However, what I suggest is that you come in without an agenda,

  • that you really come into complete the dynamic of that relationship.

  • Because if you do end up recoupling, it's going to be a different relationship

  • with that person.

  • So just keep your focus on yourself and on doing the process

  • and let go of the outcome.

  • - Next question is, "What if I'm in a relationship

  • and I'm just thinking of leaving?"

  • - I think it's very smart of people to come and to do conscious uncoupling

  • as preventative medicine.

  • How can I make sure that this is going to go well so that our family stays intact

  • or so that they don't devastate the other person?

  • And you're going to get some really good tools about how to keep things on track

  • to do this in a mindful, kind, and respectful way.

  • - And finally, "How is the online program different from, say, reading the book?"

  • - Well, the online program is just not to be compared.

  • I mean, the opportunity to be with other people, to hear the sound of my voice,

  • to see me with you every day on-demand and also to be supported by the experts,

  • the conscious uncoupling experts who are there, it's going to be a completely

  • different experience and will expedite your healing.

  • I always recommend doing it in community.

  • - It's a form of personal healing as well as group therapy.

  • - Yeah.

  • - And it's powerful how this process can so transform your life.

  • So I'm so glad you came into our lives, Katherine.

  • - Thank you. - Thank you.

  • And thank you, guys, for joining in.

  • Thank you all for being part of the Mindvalley community.

  • I'm so delighted that you could join us today and I know we'll be seeing you

  • again pretty soon.

And what I want to do right now, Katherine, is answer some

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