Name: Your Biggest Questions About Conscious Uncoupling | Katherine Woodward Thomas & Vishen Lakhiani
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And what I want to do right now, Katherine, is answer some

The superlative

Now, the first and most common question we get is, "Do I need to do this

I'd say that most of the people who do it are people who are just coming in

as individuals, and those people don't even ever want to speak to that

person again, which, you know, if someone behaves really

We don't have an agenda that you need to be friends.

We don't have an agenda that you need to stay connected.

We certainly don't have an agenda that you need to do it as a couple.

But if you do do it as an uncoupling couple, we have certain instructions

So we give you guidance on how best to do that.

But truthfully, the majority of people who come into the program are single

and are just struggling with a hurting heart.

Now the second question is, "Is this relevant if I don't have children

And as a matter of fact, in many ways, I'd say it's if you want to be

in a couple, a happy, healthy relationship,

I would say that it's kind of mandatory because you want to be able to turn your

breakup into...which is really the worst thing for many people that's ever

But you want to be able to turn it into the best thing that's ever happened.

And that's always going to have to do with wisdom gained and lessons learned that you

can now pegboard into your next relationship.

You don't want to take unfinished business from a past partner into your new

relationship because you will sabotage that relationship.

You want to go into your next relationship clear, wise, having healed that wound,

and having been, you know, all the more capable of loving

- Next question is, "I got divorced over five years ago, will this still help?"

- It is never too late to have a conscious uncoupling.

I've had people coming into the process, you know, decades after.

- And you don't need your other partner there.

- You do not need that person there. - It's a personal process.

But I will say that I've met people who, many years after a bad breakup, had not

And very often, we've been able to trace it back to their heart.

They thought the time could heal everything and they thought

that eventually, they'd get to a place, you know, where they would find love again

and they just didn't and they didn't know why it wasn't happening until they

And then they kind of saw all of the covert ways they had shut down,

that they were guarded, that they were pushing people away,

even though they desperately wanted love.

So I encourage people to come at any time to conscious uncoupling so that you can

actually be free to open your heart and have love in your life.

It's too big a cost to pay to never let anyone close to you again because you've

And anyone who's gone through a broken heart knows that they never want that

So conscious uncoupling will actually have you be able to heal that wound in a way

that has you feel safe to open your heart up to another person again.

Now, what if...this is a question we got.

The question is, "What if I'm hoping to get back with my partner?"

You know, a lot of people do end up recoupling

Because one of the things that the program does, and this is why I can so clearly say

that you will have an experience where you can trust yourself moving forward to do

this differently, is that I'm teaching you, almost inadvertently as I'm taking

you through the healing process, some core skills that are necessary

So, you know, like the self-soothing that happens in the first week,

or the ability to take personal responsibility in the second week,

or the third week where we look at your core wounds and how that's been playing

out in relationships, and how do you become conscious of that

in such a way that you don't do that anymore.

All of these things create good relationships.

So very often, people will end up recoupling.

However, what I suggest is that you come in without an agenda,

that you really come into complete the dynamic of that relationship.

Because if you do end up recoupling, it's going to be a different relationship

So just keep your focus on yourself and on doing the process

- Next question is, "What if I'm in a relationship

- I think it's very smart of people to come and to do conscious uncoupling

How can I make sure that this is going to go well so that our family stays intact

or so that they don't devastate the other person?

And you're going to get some really good tools about how to keep things on track

to do this in a mindful, kind, and respectful way.

- And finally, "How is the online program different from, say, reading the book?"

- Well, the online program is just not to be compared.

I mean, the opportunity to be with other people, to hear the sound of my voice,

to see me with you every day on-demand and also to be supported by the experts,

the conscious uncoupling experts who are there, it's going to be a completely

different experience and will expedite your healing.

I always recommend doing it in community.

- It's a form of personal healing as well as group therapy.

- And it's powerful how this process can so transform your life.

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