Name: What You SHOULD Say To A Disabled Person [CC]
Uploaded: 2020-03-31T01:46:37.000Z
Duration: 8 min 38 s
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This is the second, kinder, part of 'what to say to your disabled relative'. If you

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would like to know what NOT to say to someone then you need to watch last Friday's video,

which you'll find linked in the description down below or in the card above.

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If you don't know, hi, I'm Jessica. I have two genetic disabilities, because I won

the lottery of life, which then give me a chronic illness. I've been 'unhealthy'

for my whole life but it got much worse in my teens so I'm coming from a young point

of view but I'm sure they're still going to be things I want you to say to older me.

And although I'm saying 'relative' that could also be substituted for 'friend'

or 'coworker' or 'that random person you keep bumping into at bus stops'. And

obviously I'm including mental and learning disabilities along with physical ones AND

Before we get started with today's video I'd just like to let you know that Monday's

video will be a gay version of the 'would you rather' game, guest starring my gorgeous

wife Claudia, and you can leave your suggestions for questions on this picture which you'll

find on our Instagram account! Link in the description...

(If you don't have instagram I also posted it in the community tab. You'll find that

Not only that but on Monday I'll also be releasing this month's new merch design:

On with today's video: we've talked out what you shouldn't say to the people you

Yes. Always. You might be worried about stepping on the disabled person's toes, you might

be worried about speaking over them. Very valid concerns. Although, yes, those are things

you obviously shouldn't do, it is perfectly fine to ask if you see a situation where a

disabled person isn't being listened to or feels uncomfortable to voice their opinion.

It's just a fact of life: ablebodied allies are more likely to be listened to.

A lot of different disabilities will also come with what's known as 'brain fog'-

that's when you're too tired or ill to think clearly. Plus there are those of us

Both of these things might mean we can sometimes struggle to even

realise something is missing or that we have a need that isn't being met. With your clear

head you might be able to immediately spot that there isn't water in the meeting room

whilst I'm sat over here getting horser and horser but not realising why!

So please, ask if you can help and if we say yes then step in.

Whether it's getting my wheelchair across gravel or lifting a heavy box: yes. Yes I

Actually, having said that, you should probably ask children if they need help before snatching

things out of their hands and doing it for them. Shockingly, I think... very young people

Let me know if you need to grab a nap in my guest room.

She's not being rude, she's deaf. You need to get her attention before you talk

This is something I wish people in my own

It would really cut down on protracted British 'oops are you being rude? Oops, no, am I

being rude? Oops, was that rude? Oops, are we both rude?'

Again, you're very welcome to speak for me if it cuts out hours of agro from my life.

You probably do mean it, you just don't realise how often you have to say it to someone

who is given daily messages by society at large that they're a burden and a waste

What? I'm the sweet, pacifist, disabled girl: I can't threaten violence.

I'm kidding! Please don't actually hit anyone!

Disabled people don't want to be put in special, sacred 'can do no wrong' boxes-

- well, some of us do. And they're the ones that definitely SHOULDN'T be in those boxes!

Just treat people with respect, regardless of what you perceive their ability to be,

and expect to be treated that way in return. If the person is literally incapable of behaving

in a way that society deems to be acceptable due to their mental or learning disability

then that is one thing… but you don't get to be rude to everyone just because you

Oh no no. She doesn't mean to be an arsehole, what she actually meant was-

Quite often I'll misunderstand what someone has said and reply with something that, since

it's completely out of context, comes off as rude or insensitive. But I have no idea!

So I just keep smiling through, completely confused as to why everyone is now giving

me a funny look… until an hour later when Claudia tells me what I said wrong!

I would actually prefer it if she stepped in and helped people to see I'm not rude…