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  • Oh my god!

  • I don't know! I don't know!

  • Ah, single life. Gotta love it, right? I just really love it a lot. Just so much freedom.

  • Anyway, 44% of Americans over 18 lead single lives. That's a pretty big chunk.

  • And we wanted to see how people felt about singledom.

  • We brought in a selection of single people and we asked them a few questions.

  • If you could wake up tomorrow and be single or in a relationship, would you be single or in a relationship? - In a relationship.

  • Be in a relationship.

  • In a relationship.

  • I'd like to have someone special.

  • In a relationship.

  • In a relationship, right away.

  • When you're with someone, like, I don't know, just being with them, just holding them, it's nice!

  • In a relationship, no doubt! Humans aren't meant to be alone.

  • This really surprised us. Not one person actually wanted to be single over being in a relationship.

  • So just to be sure we even surveyed forty-five additional participants outside the show and all forty-five said they'd prefer to be in a relationship.

  • What are the qualities you look for in a partner?

  • Companionship.

  • Honest, doesn't cheat. The basics.

  • Friendly but aggressive.

  • Someone who I can just grab pancakes at 2 AM at IHOP just because we both feel like it.

  • What do you think it is that other people are looking for in a partner?

  • One night stands.

  • Money, sex.

  • Certain financial status.

  • A lot of people out here are looking for arm candy.

  • Someone who they can showcase.

  • I wanna just want to get married so I don't have to worry about it anymore, just be done with it!

  • It's like, "Hey, I'm married, I have kids, I can't date you!"

  • We also learned that we're all looking for the same great qualities but we think we're one of the only ones who is!

  • Now unless we were lucky enough that every participant we had was the saint of their social circle, something just doesn't add up!

  • What would you say if I told you that all the people we asked said the same thing.

  • I am looking for all these great qualities in a person and all of them also said that they believe everybody else is looking for something more superficial.

  • You know, arm candy or money.

  • I guess that we put ourselves up on a pedestal and think we're so noble!

  • I hope that not everybody feels that the world is out to get them.

  • Are all those qualities packed into any single person you know now?

  • Dating-wise, no.

  • Mhm!

  • Yeah!

  • Yeah.

  • Yeah.

  • I can be myself around him and be comfortable.

  • Like I'm really trying with someone right now.

  • She's kind, she's sometimes too kind to people. But she doesn't judge people.

  • The guy that I actually just met and he's, you know, everything.

  • But I'm actually scared to go forth with the whole process because I don't feel he feels the same way.

  • Would you be willing to give him a call and let him know that he has these qualities?

  • Um...

  • I promise nothing bad will happen.

  • I don't know, wait, that's weird!

  • Well, we're not asking you to ask him out or anything like that. Just let him know he has these qualities!

  • It's kind of weird because her younger brother used to be my best friend. That's like breaking bro code or something.

  • It's not, it's fine.

  • Okay!

  • So I'll just tell him that he has good qualities. - Yes!

  • I don't know if you saw that girl in the lobby but she seems like a genuinely nice person, which is good! I like that! I like nice people.

  • So she's here!

  • Yeah! She's in the lobby. She's in the lobby.

  • I'm nervous, man.

  • Hello?

  • Hey, Brenda!

  • Hey!

  • Hi, Sam, it's Mel! I hope that you are doing well.

  • I'm shaking.

  • I just wanted to tell you that I think you're really nice.

  • - Thanks! - And you have a good energy and that's awesome!

  • Thank you! Yeah, I feel that you have a good energy, too!

  • I think that you're so, like, intelligent and caring and affectionate.

  • Now that we're here, I'd like to run by you some opportunities.

  • We can play checkers on Friday, chess on Saturday, or water polo on Sunday. I mean it's totally up to you!

  • Oh hey, Michael, this is Sandy. Yeah, you know, just happy Saturday.

  • I just want to tell you that you are a fantastic person and you're really funny and I miss that because you're not in LA anymore.

  • And I...

  • When we first met, I did not expect to feel the way I've felt.

  • I thought we were just gonna be friends. I actually see something in you that I haven't seen in anybody else.

  • They told me to describe someone that had the same qualities that I would go out for, like, nice and everything and, ya, so I called you!

  • - You're calling me? - Yeah!

  • I still remember that time when we had cheesecakes super, super late and you, yeah, then you just told me to go for my dreams and that meant a lot to me! Oh gosh, okay!

  • Thank you! - Alright.

  • I believe in you. You're... You're an awesome person. You have to start believing more in yourself, you know? You're amazing buddy, you are.

  • I'm alright.

  • No, you're cool.

  • You know, I know you have some type of attraction towards me but I feel a little bit more than just attracted to your body and all that stuff.

  • I love how you're so honest and you're so sweet and genuine. - Yeah.

  • But, this is the longest voicemail you'll ever receive.

  • You rock because you cook and you like little kids and you like fro-yo and those are the three main tenets in life, dude.

  • It's not me trying to be sentimental, I mean how do you feel after you know, everything.

  • I mean... I'm always cool.

  • Whatever happens happens. Yeah.

  • I like that answer.

  • And I just am really appreciating the time we've been spending together, okay. Bye!

  • Bye.

  • How are you feeling now?

  • I feel good!

  • That was great!

  • I feel like it was very freeing!

  • How do you feel about taking a risk like that?

  • Being in the mindset of taking risks is always good. So I am all for them! But I usually don't do them in public.

  • I don't mind being bold! I think risk is necessary for growth.

  • Oh actually, I love taking risk. I love a challenge. That was a really big challenge for me.

  • Took a risk by being here, man. My friend, she's like just hang on! You never know where you end up, may end up on a show, or just like meeting someone you really like!

  • Now that I did that, I feel ten times better!

  • The thing is I don't need to date him now or anything but at least he knows that I feel this way about him!

  • Either he likes me or he doesn't. If he likes me then if he doesn't work out then I'm going to do that to the next guy!

  • I'm glad I did it now because I did it!

  • Whatever you think is too much risk, just take a little more.

  • So go out and take a chance on somebody. We're a lot more alike than we think.

  • Like happiness, everyone wants love but a lot of the ideas we have about how to get it, give it, sustain it, are outdated, conflicting, and kind of vague.

  • So we figured how about we have a practical conversation about it and make it a little less confusing.

  • I'm Julian, and this has been the Science of Love!

Oh my god!

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