Name: 4 Odd Things about Japanese Husbands ダーリンは日本人
Uploaded: 2020-03-23T22:32:39.000Z
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♀R: Hey guys! Today we’re here with Grace and her husband Ryosuke.

J: You two are so close. ♀R: They recently started their own channel

and they’ve had a blog for quite a while. G: I draw comics and I do blog posts about

being in an interracial, intercultural relationship and also just being broke newlyweds in Tokyo!

♀R: They VERY graciously let us stay here in their apartment last night after our big

♀R: SO MUCH FUN omg! G: There were so many people!

J: It was crazy. ♀R: And we found out we have a ton in common,

especially when it comes to being married to Japanese guys. So we’re going to talk

about a few of those things today. ♀R: The number one… strangest thing, maybe…

♀R: Sorry! They’re just big differences. J: It’s all right.

♀R: Feet in Japan are considered really dirty, and it’s never been a big deal for

me in America. G: But when we came here, then like… When

we first started dating, he wanted me to wipe my feet with wet wipes before I got into bed.

♂R: With this! G: Omg, you brought them? Really?? And I was

just like, are you serious? I’m not… I’m just going to go to my own bed, then.

♀R: Right! And then we already take off our shoes here inside the house, and for me

that’s like… oh, this is already clean in here.

G: Especially if I took off my shoes, I’m wearing socks all day, and now you want me

to clean my feet before I get into bed? Like… no. Sorry.

♀R: Jun’s the same way. Like, feet are dirty.

J: Like, never ever have your legs on the pillow or something.

♀R: Oh yeah. And he freaks out if my feet touch the pillow.

G: There was one time I hurt my leg and I was propping it up with pillows, and  he was like, “What are you doing?! Stop

it!” ♀R: I’m like a monkey, so my feet are

everywhere. At home [America] I’m barefoot everywhere, like run outside in the yard,

♀R: No, not here. G: Ahh… yeah, feet.

♀R: Feet. ♀R: Number 2 was telling your friends and

family that you’re in a relationship. G & ♂R: Ahh yeah.

♀R: In America people are so open with their relationships. And even if they’re not,

they’ll tell one person and then that one person will tell everyone. So everyone knows.

G: Everyone knows. ♀R: Right, there’s no such thing as a

secret relationship in America. That’d be kind of weird, actually.

G: Yeah, or there’s a serious reason you’re hiding it, like they’re not your only girlfriend

or something. ♀R: Yeah, right! Exactly. If you’re hiding

it then it’s usually because you’ve got someone else…

G: And even just telling your friends. So, he studied abroad, Ryosuke studied abroad

at my university and so we had a lot of the same friends so a lot of his friends were my friends.

And they started talking to me and they were like, “Grace, it’s kind of weird. Ryosuke

never talks about you. Are you guys okay?” And I thought that was really weird because

I talk to everyone about my relationship ‘cause like… I’m a girl, and I was so in love!

But it’s like a Japanese thing where you don’t really talk in depth about your relationship

♀R: It took Jun a while to tell all of his friends, too.

J: We don't really feel for need, for example

like Facebook, to change the status. G: Facebook official.

J: One of my friends got married recently. I didn't even know he had a girlfriend.

G: Sometimes I can’t tell when my friends are dating. I was in a club and these two

people were dating—I had no idea. It was when I was studying abroad in Japan. And they’d

been dating for three years and I was friends with her, she just never really talked about

the fact that she was dating this other guy. And so it was like, “Oh… okay. Cool!”

♀R: They’re just so private about their relationships here.

♀R: Number 3—those were the communication issues, right? This is HUGE. This is probably

with everyone who’s in an international relationship.

G: Or intercultural, or if there’s any language barrier.

♀R: Language barrier, yeah. And apparently it seems like Japanese guys who are learning

English end up making the same sort of mistakes. G: Yeah.

♀R: Because English phrases have specific nuances and you kind of just have to study

the language and know what those nuances are. J: But you can’t really learn or study nuances

♀R: Yeah. Right. So, for example, sometimes I would call Jun, upset, on Skype. And I wouldn’t

even be able to talk to him because I’d be so upset, I’d be crying. And then Jun,

instead of saying, “What’s wrong?” which is what we’d usually say in English, he

would say, “What’s wrong with you?” Which has a completely different connotation

to it! If you’re not a native English speaker, “What’s wrong with you?” is angry, it’s

G: It's like saying, "UGH Why are you so messed up?” ♀R: “Why are you being like this? Omg.”

♂R: Aww, what’s wrong with you? G: So many things. So many things. And then

for us—he does this all the time, where like, even like last month he sent me a message

while he was at work. Like, oh, “Don’t plan anything tonight. I want to talk to you

about something.” And so immediately I was like, oh no! We’re going to have a huge

fight tonight. And so he gets back, and I’m you know, really nice, and I’m just like,

“Okay honey, what did you want to talk about?” He was like, “Oh, you know. Anything! I

just miss talking to you. Let’s talk about something!” And I was just like, are you

serious…? I have been freaking out all day. What are you doing?? Sorry, I love you.

♀R: No, Jun totally does that. He still does that sometimes, “I want to talk.”

It’s so serious! That’s such a serious phrase, especially if you have the word “need”

in there, like, “I need to talk to you.” It’s like you’re breaking up or something.

G: Or like, “I have serious problems. You need to wipe your feet more!” or something

like that. ♂R: Yeah, you have so many serious problems.

G: Wow, thank you honey. J: I’ll try to be careful about the words

I choose. ♀R: Thank you. What was our number 4?

G: What was our number 4? OH! People hitting on!

♀R: Oh, yeah! Maybe there’s also a cultural difference with how you flirt in Japan? Jun

is completely oblivious to flirting. And people say guys are like that everywhere, but…

G: He’s like REALLY oblivious. ♀R: Yeah, yeah. Jun doesn’t even know the signals

so he unintentionally flirts with people sometimes. Like, he’ll sit at a table-

J: That sounds horrible. ♀R: He knows now, because we talked about

it before, because I had to tell him, “You’re flirting with people.” He would like sit

at a table and like lean in while talking to someone and then drown out everyone else,

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