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  • is it, Boss Twirls.

  • All right.

  • So I can still say good morning.

  • Morning, everyone.

  • So my name is Priya Ideological, but And I just realized the topic that I chose to cover today was the power of the end.

  • And while walking up I realized also that I think nothing describes the way I feel about the end as much as my name.

  • My name is Priya.

  • That's my given name.

  • And I believe I've changed my name several times when I was younger.

  • But that's another story for another day.

  • Chetty, which is my maiden name and logical both, which is my married name.

  • So I'm one of those terrible, hyphenated women who tried to have it all.

  • I would have J D his name as well.

  • On the way.

  • I would agree with me.

  • That's not such a bad thing.

  • Judy is my dog, but we'll stay there so we can talk about the power of the end.

  • Have you ever thought of the word and in any really serious manner?

  • I haven't really.

  • I mean, to be honest with you, I've done stuff I have been on nodding terms with, and I think I have spent more time with the word or and choices in my life, then I have would end.

  • So let's move away from this end as a concept to what is really mean.

  • I want to go back to, um, you know, about 45 years.

  • I was sitting in a meeting sort of a review meeting in my company.

  • I used to work with Stanton Jones of the time on my boss was a lovely person, Very good, getting extremely assertive.

  • Very You wanted the best out of everyone.

  • Pushed them to make get more results.

  • Uh, I was talking to be about the number of things I don't.

  • I was very lucky at that time.

  • I had years and years of doing getting the best award every year, doing getting performance, you know, recognitions.

  • So yes.

  • So you were the highest Miller.

  • You're doing good work fast.

  • Faras industry was concerned you're being a reasonable amount in terms off, you know, creating capacity.

  • So he said, you know, this is great.

  • I see that you're that time I was on the national.

  • You don't counsel for the Indo American was doing something with the C i A.

  • I was doing a lot of work in the animal welfare space.

  • I was pushing really hard in the area of women's leadership, and I was just starting to wake up as far as civic issues were concerned, he said.

  • You know, you do so many things.

  • I mean, just imagine if you want to focus, irritation and work on just executive search, how much better and how much more fantastically would you do?

  • So I remember thinking to myself at that time said, Yeah, you know, you accept these things as a sort of implied You could do better.

  • We've learned it in school, all our lives free.

  • I could do better if she tries.

  • So you internalize that.

  • But in my mind, I don't know whether I said it or what I thought it.

  • But I know I said.

  • But I do well that I'm successful at what I do, and I shine because of all the things that I am.

  • It's because I'm this.

  • I am this and this and this and sometimes this, and I think that was my first bump up against the wood and and how much often embrace the end can be when you want to you want to sort of grow in life where you just want to be able to push boundaries.

  • Zs spoke so beautifully about the fact that you wanted to, you know, you can take on so many things.

  • If you allow yourself.

  • Do you have to trust in the universe?

  • I don't think we trust enough, But let's look for just a moment at moving back toe.

  • Um, what is and across as a philosophy, as a perspective, as an attitude as O situation?

  • Very often, situation is very basic.

  • It's right there, you know?

  • So do I do this or do I do that?

  • Do I have bread and eggs or, you know, whatever something as a city is that it's also on outcomes and goals and covers that it covers a variety of situations.

  • You're looking at business.

  • You're looking at personal and tell me all of us here have at some point or the other worried about choice.

  • Do I do this or do I do that?

  • And I can talk to about the power of the end unless we quickly talk about the tyranny off the or we've all grown up a different times.

  • Um, I just realized I'm speaking to a very much younger demographic, But let me tell you a little bit about how perhaps most of us off this generation were broader.

  • We were brought up saying You can become a doctor, engineer or a teacher.

  • You can do medicine, engineering, or you could do arts.

  • You can decide to do social work and live your life in January or you decide to get into business or the I s and you will do well so there are constant choices and the choices are implied not to imply there are always some pressures to say.

  • If you pick this, you get that you know, a single linear and that's the tyranny of the or and we live with that and we go with that.

  • And in this to really let me just take it back a little further to say that it also comes from the concept or the the issue of scarcity versus plenty.

  • We came from a scarcity mindset, so you went to butter to buy a pair of shoes and you ran it for as long as you could because they were just limited amount of things.

  • There was 1/4.

  • There were things that you have to, you know, It is not just about the money.

  • You've done your shorts, you changed your color.

  • You bought fewer things.

  • You made things last longer.

  • So your attitude, your approach to life or scarcity let right in terms of what you did.

  • There was always that thing off holding back.

  • But look it today.

  • I mean, do you really think about 30 brands of shoes that we can look at or the fact that we eat in multiple places?

  • The fact that we have so many choices in public transport?

  • But yes, we still get stuck in the same traffic that isn't or that I would really like to avoid.

  • But there is a certain expensive nous in the the mindset that we have now, which is off plenty.

  • So think about that while we talk about the end and the or are we sort of just getting a little bit more familiar about the way we look at and on?

  • Or and it affects us across multiple things In terms of attributes.

  • If I want to look at end what away?

  • What do I really see it?

  • And I see Ondas being Oh, uh, diverging Abby.

  • Limitless.

  • I see, or as being focused, singular leave you in some ways limited.

  • Am I saying it's good or bad?

  • Not really.

  • That times in your life when and is the only thing that works in their times when order the only decision you make.

  • And sometimes it's about figuring out what works for you, and that's okay.

  • Think about anything during the day that you had today yesterday where you had to choose, and the choice has been because of the way you've thought and what it's going to, what, where is going to take you.

  • But I go back to the conversation with my boss because for me that was a defining moment where I realized that I wanted to be more than nodding terms with and that had spent too much of my life in the or I've spent too much of my life making choices, being the good little girl you know, deciding one or the other.

  • There is so much of implied criticism that if you don't choose your going to fail it multiple things and you're not, you're not doing the right thing, you know you're not you're not directing your energy in the right place, and I think it's so limited.

  • But that was my my embracing me and saying, Hey, that's why I am That's what I want and I'm going to be these multiple people on DDE These are my different universes that I bring in to my workplace, to my home, to everywhere I go and that makes me who I am.

  • So when I moved on last year, year and 1/2 ago from my work and I decided to set up something of my own, I decided to do that with the end.

  • And I remember the fact that I came from multiple universes and I celebrated my multiple universes.

  • And this will.

  • When I set up multi verse in advisory, I was still focused on the one thing I do very well, which is executive search.

  • I am a senior level head hunter.

  • I love doing what I do.

  • I like the fact that it makes on companies and I follow this through for the last 15 years in executive search.

  • But I knew if I wanted to do executive search, I would have to do it the only way I knew how, which is my trying to make an impact by saying the same thing can be done doing what I do well, making money while I do it.

  • Creating change around me, building value to community and making an impact.

  • So that was my geeky guy moment, and it worked.

  • People joined.

  • People came and collaborative people worked because they felt they could do it.

  • I could give you examples of what multiverse advisory does where the end is celebrated, but I don't think I'll get into that.

  • All I want you to imagine is that we have a process that make sure that we're switching on as many lights in the room as a possible for us to bring in our different universes.

  • I am a career person.

  • I'm a scuba diver.

  • I'm not, but I'd like to be, so I'd like to see it.

  • So I'm this and I'm that that I'm this and I'm also that, um we've been doing this for years, right?

  • I want to be able to bring that in.

  • Companies have their personalities, too.

  • They have their culture, they have the different hats that they were.

  • Are we being respectful to get to that.

  • So at some point bringing in multiple universes to meet multiple universes, there can be only one thing that can happen.

  • Magic.

  • In fact, if it doesn't happen, okay, what we've tried And that is how, at some point in my life, where I will get up onto a table and jump up and down just like Tom Cruise did in over wouldn't be sure many, many years ago and say, I'm changing the world and I'd be right, all of us.

  • Good.

  • And we'll be right.

  • Let's take it up a notch to one thing that has the fact that and can be bought micro and mackerel, I have a minute.

  • Okay, Okay.

  • So if you look at women, we've had multiple roles.

  • All allies, right?

  • We've done this, that mother, wife and all the state of dies.

  • But let's move on from the Second World War, where we've done, we've had to get into the workplace, create economic value, being economic being, you know, create great numbers and look at the change that has happened after that, that the concept of leadership has changed the concept because of the more inclusive workplace that women have created lots of things that happened that the construct of leadership has changed to being assertive.

  • You know, I know how stereotypical the sons, but with the aggressive, dictatorial, singular side side of leadership today you want from leadership Oh, inspiring.

  • And you know God like and you still want accessibility?

  • This is the end that we're seeking.

  • And guess what?

  • It is starting to happen in the workplace.

  • Leadership has changed.

  • It is collaborative.

  • It is a collective.

  • It is making a difference.

  • Cos are embracing there and they want to be make money.

  • And they also want They want to also want to create value with the community.

  • And the end remains as a single large umbrella going across.

  • So look at how the end as a concept in the specific space of women making a difference to the workplace because off needs that women have had and that has impacted men also benefited.

  • And it has created economic value a cultural shift on an entire difference in the way leadership and companies are moving forward.

  • So Michael do macro and and really works there.

  • The only way that I think we can do this.

  • And we talked about it, you mentioned to me is to give ourselves permission to fail.

  • You can never do this and that and that.

  • This not just because you're greedy because you're stupid and you don't have to go and just because of the sake of it.

  • But when I choose, I have.

  • And if I can sit here and say this however horrendously, you know, beheaded itself.

  • If I want to be a portion of what place I am, if I want to be strong in and make a difference in the area of animal welfare, I will civic issues.

  • I will because I chose to.

  • If I believe in women empowerment and I want to push that needle ahead, I will.

  • That's what makes me back.

  • But I am going to fail often.

  • And if I don't have the ability to pick myself up and say, Okay, what's next?

  • I will never embrace the end.

  • I will never be able to step forward and do all the things that I wanted to do.

  • I will never be able to say I wanted to be a painter, wanted to be a real teacher, but I'm gonna regret the fact that I didn't have the time or the space to be able to do it because I waas always in the or so when you look forward and think integration.

  • I think the call of the universe, the fact that you know, you mentioned it as well.

  • Universe conspires to make things happen.

  • It's when you fling yourself off something in them.

  • Things just magically stopped coming together for you.

  • I'd like to look at integration part of the universe and and remind you that this is not again an either or just a way of thinking.

  • I'd like you just think about the power of the end.

  • And I'd like to think that somebody was talking to me yesterday and said, You know, it's important to focus because you know, we need time for ourselves said Who the hell cares?

  • I remember that lovely phrase where someone you know said I don't look at myself as you know, a journey where I want to come to the grave Well resolved of Christine, I want, um, I want to come to the end of my life.

  • Used up, absolutely buoyant, trying everything I possibly have, you know, with, you know, with chocolate one hand with the scepter and the other wide open eyes wide open mouth say, Whoa, What?

  • All right, so you decide.

  • I hope that you will have many ants in your life, and at least you'll be able to look ahead and see when it or comes in and hits you that it's time to embrace the end.

  • Thank you.

is it, Boss Twirls.

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