...because it’s too expensive, or unavailable...

In recent days, multiple X accounts have become unavailable in Turkey.

Or perhaps our parental figure was constantly at the office or unavailable behind a locked study door. They might have had a violent, unpredictable temper or left us somehow feeling that we were just never good enough for them. As a result, to an extent we may not even have realised, we became experts at independence. We came to associate safety with a high degree of self-protective isolation. We might have become big readers or fascinated by the animal world or obsessed with music or computer games. Without quite knowing we had done so, we learnt never to trust a flesh-and-blood, three-dimensional human again. Our experiences may not have affected the strength of our longing for love, but they have heavily impacted our capacity to endure mutually satisfying relationships. We may now, as adults, tell ourselves that we want closeness and surrender. We will sob sincerely when we lose love, but we are continually taking steps to ensure we will never be at any sustained risk of finding it. The true terror for us is not that love should fail, but that it should, by some oversight on our part, succeed. For this would ask of us a level of defencelessness and exposure to another person and to a chance of happiness that has no precedent in our lives and poses immense, ego-shattering challenges to the armoured way our personalities have been structured.

but we may nevertheless feel a moment of recognition when we hear of the following: falling in love with unavailable people, ensuring our relationships always fail, underperforming at work, being very independent, addiction to alcohol, porn, exercise, work, feeling numb, hypervigilance, continuous anxiety, constant sadness, depression.

Because your father was demanding and your mother was emotionally unavailable?

Person whom you're trying to reach is currently unavailable.

Not coincidentally, he might previously have gone out with a number of women who were unavailable or offhand.

I wanted out of Office to represent being unavailable to everyone else in order to lock in on what's most important to you.

So the thought is that like once I apply the Moncton quartzite, which has high levels of potassium in relatively unavailable forms, that it'll slowly be available to plants versus like, uh, sulpomag or sulfate of potash that has readily available phosphorus or potassium in it that would not necessarily be, um, could be way too available, could leach.

It is privilege when parents don't set themselves up as perfect or, by being remote and unavailable, encourage us to idealise or demonise them.