it's not necessarily that they're just stubborn.

not necessarily that they're just stubborn.

Now grab the toilet brush and wipe through again thoroughly, you will see that you can really get all the dirt out, even the more stubborn ones.

I knew you'd be too stubborn to turn the heat up.

Now the calves are just a stubborn muscle.

Total show off, lazy, not outgoing enough, stubborn, self-centered, a bit flaky.

But this doesn't perhaps have to be the measure of everything. We don't need to be constantly offended by our agitations. Our day-to-day troubles don't have to be the yardstick by which we judge the value of our lives. Given where we've come from and how we're constituted, we were never going to be happy in any obvious way. But perhaps a good life can in the end be compatible with being fairly perturbed most days of the week. Perhaps it doesn't matter that a relationship has failed once more. Perhaps it isn't appalling that our business doesn't deliver us the returns we might have had in our old job. We've stretched ourselves, we've learned to raise our voices, we've developed courage. We don't have to see marks of grief and trouble as some kind of a violation of a pristine contract, but as the logical and immovable consequences of our stubborn and subtle natures interacting with the complexities of existence. We're sometimes frightened into reorienting our lives by being asked to contemplate how we might feel about them from the vantage point of our deathbeds. But if on this bed we were to look back at a rollercoaster of emotions and events, we might have got married for the fifth time recently, we might smile to ourselves and, to the beeping of the heart monitor beside us, say with wisdom and compassion, it wasn't a calm life for sure, it wasn't for the most part even a happy one, but heaven knows it was a truly and properly interesting one. And with this as our measure, we might meet our end with all the satisfaction and self-acceptance we could hope for.

But for those who are thinking of getting back together, there is no alternative but to focus with immense intent on one aspect only of the relationship, what was properly awful about it. And there would have been a lot that was, given that people don't ever sever a tight bond lightly. The priority is to identify and then submit to rigorous analysis all that was most nightmarish, all that it remains extremely painful and eerie to summon. A couple's right to resume is to be measured against their courage in exploring why they failed. Then, what can't I change? But also, what coping mechanisms might we arrive at to deal with these unchangeable aspects? We need to acknowledge that almost certainly we won't be able to alter all of our personalities and this is the moment to get clear with our ex about what is and isn't possible. Broken promises always exact a worse toll than pre-emptively lowered expectations. What do we feel that we aren't, despite a lot of goodwill, going to be able to overcome? And how, if at all, can these stubborn bits of our personalities be handled? Then, how much can we each bear of what won't change?

But I'm very happy that inside my mind, I'm a very stubborn kid.

Long crosses show that you are determined and enthusiastic, even if you may be stubborn at times.