Today is a sad day today, Vanessa Hudgens and Austin Butler Splitsville.

We're gonna break down what happened cause I got some inside him from my Shawn.

Plus, we're gonna talk about how to move on from a long term relationship and why it might not be a good idea to date someone in the same professional field as you.

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Anyway, we got the makeup retard babies.

We talk pregnancy.

We've covered a lot of ground.

Now let's talk about Austin and Vanessa because who saw this coming?

They've been together for nine years Like I knew it was a long time, but I'm like nine years.

Damn, he's 28.

So they started.

He was, like 19.

Like he was a young and she's 31.

She was also young, and they just kind of one of those low key Hollywood couples that you're like, Oh, yeah, those two and I could see at the time kind of like why she started dating him after the Zac Effron.

Thank Zach is a lot of problems.

A lot of problems.

We won't get into those because I don't want to get sued, but there they're not.

They're not good ones.

And Austin just seemed very like normal.

Very chill.

But we always got to remember how choking someone be.

If they're an actor, Do you know what I mean?

How normal can it would be a fair celebrity, but we're just always gonna pretend on this channel that all things are equal in there is normal as we are.

So this break up kind of came out of nowhere, but did it.

There's a few.

There's a few aspects I want to focus on.

The 1st 1 is how long term relationships change, and the 2nd 1 is professional sort of jealousy.

Let's talk about that one first, because that's where the tea comes in.

So Vanessa's career has been not going where she thought it was going to go, especially compared to Zac Effron Square.

And why is it important to compare them?

Because they had their big break at the same time with High School Musical, and she is very, very talented.

She can sing, she can dance, she can act.

He can, too.

But like she's just like I mean, come on, she's so cute.

She's so good at a lot of things.

And Zach's career has taken off.

I mean, he did.

They watch all the big things like we all still like, desperately want to sleep with Zac Efron.

Oh my God!

But Vanessa's is kind of flat line.

I mean, she did what?

That Christmas movie, The princess switch.

Where has she really been doing like before then, And Austin's has also kind of been like, What does he do?

I know he's had, like, parts here, and there is in once upon a Time in Hollywood, but like he also is not like this big star, this big household name.

And I think this contributed to the end of their relationship because she hasn't posted him on Instagram since Halloween.

That's that's a minute.

And he hasn't posted her since July.

What happened in July?

Well, once upon a time in Hollywood came out, and that's when he posted her.

But also it was announced that he was going to start an Elvis in Basel, Orman's like biopic of Elvis.

It's coming up.

It's going to be a huge movie.

It's going to get a ton of buzz.

It truly could rocket Austin to the A list kind of the way.

Like Rami, Malek is now a list because of the Queen bio pic.

You know who else is a big deal?

His co star and girlfriend, Lucy Boynton.

Mmm mmm mmm mmm.

What these two have to do with Austin and Vanessa?

Well, sometimes they're secondary gains.

And I've heard through my little web of sources that Vanessa was pushing really hard for him to get this part.

I mean, it's not like she had that control over it, but when he got that part, she saw.

This is like her secondary big break as well.

There were gonna be photo ops.

There were gonna be interviews.

She was gonna land magazine covers as a result of this the same way Lucy Boynton has.

And look, I'm not trying to n Fant allies.

Lucy Boyens career Although she's pretty manipulator, she's very weird.

Nor am I trying to infuse lies Vanessa's.

Neither one of these women need these men to elevate them.

But, I mean, maybe they dio if we're going.

By the last few years of Vanessa's career, which haven't been going great, kind of maybe they do need someone have pulled them from the B list up to the A.

And I wonder if Austin heard that loud and clear.

I don't think it's a coincidence that the last time he posted her was when that news broke.

I wonder if maybe she was a little too excited about this, a little too gang for him to get this part a little too focused on planning how this is gonna change both of their lives.

I wonder if he's like, Does she love me?

Is she's sticking with me, or is she sticking with my trajectory?

And there is a big difference.

This brings me to my secondary point dating people who you work with.

I guess that is my primary point.

Secondary points.

The long term relation.

Okay.

Dating people you work with, I have always said, is a recipe for disaster.

Like the relationship.

Like the TV relationship that has always made me cringe.

The hardest is Pam and Jim from the office dating co workers.

My fucking nightmare.

If I'm at work all day, the last thing I want to come Dio is like, see my bitch ass coworker who else have to sleep with and like, we're talking about work.

But we're not at work.

You might as well be.

It works.

It's all we talk about.

This is that we haven't comment.

Absolutely not.

And so on one hand, like I think it's so unhealthy for actors to date each other.

But then there universes so strange.

I get why it works.

Like I get wide, they're drawn to each other.

Who else could understand their lifestyle?

Who else could understand their goals?

Instagram trolls like stuff like that, except for another actor.

But I think dating someone who is in your same profession is so toxic.

Women are not that mean this isn't true.

But, like I don't feel like women compete against their partners away.

Guys compete against us like guys take it very, very personally.

If we do the same job and I do better me, I want to see my partner do well.

You know, I want them to do better.

And maybe there's a touch of Hudgens in me where I'm like, you know, if he does better than maybe I'll do better.

Maybe he can introduce me to better people.

So what element of God in a relationship if you are in the same field is to be expected and I think is fine and it kind of comes with the territory, But I wonder if maybe Vanessa suddenly took it a little too far.

Suddenly, maybe Austin got a little peek behind the curtain was like, uh why is she with me, like, is she gonna like, swoop in there and snake this opportunity?

Hopefully not.

But I think something else is going on with these two.

And I know that is something that goes on with you guys a lot because you tell me long term relationships.

It is psychological fact that every seven years we as humans go through kind of like a metamorphosis.

I mean, on a cellular level, they say yourselves, turn over every seven years.

So you, in fact, are like a brand new person.

All your skin's turn over like a snake.

Psychologically, this happens as well.

At age 14 we leave behind childhood, right who we were room for seven.

At 21 we leave behind those young teenagers we start to develop into an autonomous young adult at 28.

Re sort of Think about like OK, the wildness of our twenties might be over, like the testing different aspects of our personality.

Now we're forecasting into our thirties.

Where do we want to go?

What do we want to be?

Are we putting down roots are removing away from initial profession there like I don't really want to be a lawyer.

I'm gonna try something different.

Are we ready to leave our small town?

Maybe.

We're just graduating from medical school and now we're ready to move into a new space.

And how old is Austin?

28.

They have been together for so long and he was so young when they got together, and it's not like she was old.

They were both so young and so unformed is individuals.

I wonder if he now, at 28 is like, you know what that dynamic, that role that I've been in for the last nine years?

It's changing.

I have fundamentally changed.

I'm not doing this, and it's interesting that's happening at 28 not like 21.

It would be weird if they'd been together nine years and they were 21.

But I guess it happens because maybe he's doing what a lot of men his age do.

Forecasting into the future, thinking about a more serious relationship and settling down basically.

And maybe he's not looking at girlfriends.

Maybe he's looking at wives.

Maybe he's not looking, having fun.

Maybe he's looking at having kits.

Maybe not, But we're gonna say that he is because a lot of dudes at that age are doing that, and it's unconscious.

This is what we have to realize.

This shift happens unconsciously, especially at that age.

When you're 14 it's much more purposeful.

I'm not a kid anymore.

I'm a dance major, you know, like stuff like that same a 21.

It's like, Look, I'm a moon.

No, like, bro, you're not okay, but 28 you think, What's the difference?

28 27 29?

But there is.

There is a difference.

And your metric for how you examine relationship starts to shift right?

Very subtly, very subtly.