Name: How to Stop Being Taken Advantage of | Stop People From Taking Advantage of You at Work
Uploaded: 2020-03-14T05:10:25.000Z
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Hey Ambitious professionals it's Linda Raynier of lindaraynier.com guiding you

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to a career and life you'll truly enjoy. Now if you are someone who is currently

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in a situation where you feel as though others are constantly taking advantage

of you you feel like a doormat sometimes and

you find yourself always putting yourself last in every situation then

this video is for you I'm going to share with you my three tips on how to

officially end this unhealthy way of living so that you can become more

confident and be in a situation where no one can take advantage of you any longer

now as a career strategist I've had the ability to help numerous corporate

ambitious professionals just like you to land their dream job offers and if this

is something that you're interested learning more about I can give you

details about my free resources as well as about how to work with me at the end

of this video if you're feeling as though you're being taking advantage of

this is a huge issue that you need to address especially if it's happening to

you at work for example I once had a client who was smart capable she knew

her stuff she had strong technical expertise and at her company anytime

that there was a little issue that came up or there was an additional random

assignment that needed to be done her managers and even co-workers would

simply flock to her and ask her to get it done and the thing about it was that

she would do it she would do it because she felt well they're relying upon me

they know that I have the right experience and expertise to do this and

hopefully me taking on all of these tasks for all these other people will

eventually lead to further career growth and promotion opportunities and guess

what happened months went by years went by and promotions also went by they came

and went and they were never offered to her so why do you think that's the case

the reason for that is because when you allow yourself to be taken advantage of

at work for example what can happen is that it can create a certain image of

who you are to the rest of your team and to the rest of the company you might be

seen as someone yes who's very good at her job or his job you're very good at

doing the tasks but you are simply just that you're just a doer you're not

someone who goes above and beyond because you simply just do what you're

told that is the downfall and the downside to

being someone who allows others to take advantage of them so to go full circle

if you are someone who feels that you need to do things to make other people

happy you need to put other people's needs ahead of your own and that you

need to put yourself that is what you need to change my

friend so here are my three tips on how to overcome feeling taken advantage of

by others at work tip number one show them how to do it rather than doing it

yourself this first tip is so important because it is key what you need to

understand is that when you are in a position where you're teaching others

how to do something rather than just doing it for them you are rewarded with

respect because what happens is when you can empower others you teach others you

instruct others you give them skills that they didn't have before they're

able to respect you more and on top of that they know that they can't just ask

you to just do it for them on the other hand if someone asks you to do something

because they don't know how to do it and you just do it for them then that same

level of respect isn't there because they feel then in that sense that

they're at a higher level and that you're just gonna do what they ask you

to do but if instead they don't know how to do something and you become the

advisor and the teacher and the guide in this sense then you are much more likely

to be seen as someone who is respected and who is knowledgeable in the area of

expertise that you have so the next time that your coworker comes to you and says

hey I don't know how to do this can you do it for me instead of you saying sure

I'll do it for you you're gonna say how about I show you how tip number 2 is to

communicate your boundaries and priorities so what happens a lot of the

time if you find yourself being taken advantage of is that you find yourself

agreeing to take on others work silently you just give a simple head nod and all

of a sudden you have ten more tasks that you didn't have the day before if this

is you it means you're not speaking up or communicating enough so if you find

that your manager or boss is constantly giving you item after item after item to

work on instead of silently saying yes and taking it on you are going to now

communicate what your limits are so what you can

is sure I can do that for you but just so you're aware I'm also working on

tasks a B and C which you've asked me to complete if I take on task D it will

conflict with my ability to complete task C on time so what do you suggest I

do about task C should I speak to someone else to get Tessy done or should

we move the deadline for task C this framework of answering to your boss and

communicating your boundaries to your boss is extremely helpful not just for

you but for your boss and manager as well to understand what's on your plate

you're never gonna say no I'm not going to do that task because of course you

just have to do it but you have to be realistic about it and you have to let

others know that you're being realistic as well and what's going to happen most

likely is that your boss or manager is going to say okay let's come up with a

plan on how you complete task a B C and D completely done in the right timeframe

or they'll come up with an alternative plan to help you get things done that's

all it takes is communicating your boundaries communicating what's on your

plate communicating your limits and being realistic about that you don't

have to feel scared about saying that you won't be able to get things done in

time if you're just upfront about it and transparent about it it shows that you

know how to prioritize and you have the confidence to communicate your

priorities and finally tip number three to not be taken advantage of by others

at work is to simply say no now typically this only really applies for

anyone who is not your direct manager or your managers manager basically anyone

who you are not reporting into you have the opportunity to say no to them when

you get asked to do something that is outside of what you're normally supposed

to do you need to evaluate for yourself whether it's worth it for you to do that

you have to be realistic and ask yourself is this going to benefit me is

it going to help me achieve my goals or the goals of the team and the

organization is it going to help me with my well-being in

some sense or my career because if it's only benefiting the person that you are

doing it for and that person isn't your direct boss or boss's boss then you

really want to consider saying no in that case because it's not helping you

it's just helping them and that's not fair now mind you I have nothing against

being helpful to your co-workers and to people you work with but if you are

feeling taking advantage of it probably means that you have an overloaded plate

so this is one way and it is the way to get rid of unnecessary items on your

plate so there you have it those are my three tips on how to help you to

hopefully feel more empowered and stop others from taking advantage of you at

work now if you're someone who is currently looking for a new job maybe

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