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  • Hey, sisters.

  • So my God, I hate myself.

  • I asked you guys on my story for questions, and there were a lot of really good personal ones I want to answer in another video.

  • But I noticed that a lot of them had to do with, like, advice and kind of figuring your life out.

  • Because for some reason, I think you guys have the impression that I have my shit together, which trust me, I do not.

  • And I mean that literally, too, because I don't have enough fiber in my diet.

  • But we're off to a great start in this video.

  • So my first and most ass category of questions or about dating.

  • So I thought for this I would bring in our resident male slash dating expert to help me answer, though.

  • Hey, it is your favorite.

  • There's, like behind the chair.

  • Oh, that's terrifying.

  • I feel like this is already too sexual.

  • My ass is too fat.

  • It looks like you're wearing a day.

  • I'm like crushing.

  • My chair was not made for big sis survives because of you.

  • But that's OK.

  • We're sister.

  • Stop it!

  • Get out of here.

  • I also answered all of these questions.

  • Before David came, I answered them by myself so I might kind of cut back and forth.

  • So don't like freak out if the camera angle changes and David disappears every so often, but he'll probably come back unless you don't say anything useful.

  • Nothing.

  • My first question is how to tell if a guy likes you guys are pretty obvious.

  • How do you think if his name is David, then he's definitely into me.

  • This'll is something that I wish I had gotten real advice on when I was in middle school and high school, because I spent so many of those years trying to look up online articles or, like, fill out a buzzfeed quiz.

  • That's like, Oh, he never talks to me.

  • But he made 5.9 seconds of eye contact with me across the room and chemistry class.

  • So math totals up.

  • He must like me.

  • Now that I think about it, those articles always had a weird emphasis on exactly how long he shared it.

  • You 2.9 seconds and below.

  • Get out of here.

  • 3.21 above.

  • He wants to have your babies.

  • You know I don't want my Davies.

  • Does he text you back?

  • Do you have a good time hanging out?

  • Does he not flake on plans?

  • Laughing at everything When you try to be funny, even if you're not funny, I'm sure we've all experienced that like you say a joke.

  • And you're like, Wow, that was right down there.

  • Just, like crack up first.

  • I thought you were actually funny.

  • She's like, Did you not think I was funny?

  • What?

  • You were laughing because you liked me?

  • No, you're very funny.

  • Those are all good signals.

  • But you know your situation best, and you're smart.

  • Just be honest with yourself.

  • In high school and middle school, I like so many different guys.

  • And I had a really intense crushes, but I always had to spend so much effort convincing myself that maybe he still liked me.

  • All of the evidence I knew deep down pointed otherwise he probably wasn't interested.

  • Next question is kind of related.

  • How to get a boyfriend?

  • Trust me, girl.

  • I have been through this struggle to I've always been single the majority of my life.

  • My relationships haven't been that long, so I don't know that I have been single and mingling around for quite a while before I found David.

  • My advice is the advice that everybody fucking gives, but it's so true, you have to be totally okay.

  • Being single.

  • You really have to feel confident in yourself and feel like you have your own purpose in life before you dive into a relationship.

  • Love yourself.

  • Trust yourself before you can trust someone else.

  • Love someone else.

  • If you're not happy with yourself, how someone else gonna be happy with you?

  • When I was younger, I used to hate hearing this advice, especially in my earlier years of college, where I was really like Thurston for a boyfriend.

  • I really just wanted a relationship Thio Fill the time or feel some kind of void in myself.

  • Relationships will never solve your problem.

  • Yeah, exactly.

  • It's a Band Aid that, like graphic.

  • It's like a Band Aid, but it looks like it will eventually get words are like a bandit.

  • Yeah, okay.

  • I think this this metaphor has gone too far, too.

  • Next time for wound care 102 over this past summer, where I started working for myself and really dedicating myself to my YouTube channel in putting effort into my videos.

  • I was living on my own for the first time.

  • I really found who I was when I was alone.

  • And I think that it made me such a better dater slash girlfriend.

  • I realized the sound super obnoxious because I'm, like, newly in a relationship.

  • And I'm like, Oh, well, we have everything figured out.

  • But obviously, even after you feel confident in your single south, there is a whole lot of luck involved.

  • My other advice.

  • My earthquake.

  • I know you have to sift through a bunch of people who are gonna be bad for you in order to find somebody who's right there in the dates of people that are not compatible at all.

  • You're gonna go to a restaurant, sit there for two hours.

  • It seems like an eternity because it's such a struggle.

  • You're like, Oh, yeah, yeah.

  • That too.

  • Yeah.

  • One in 20 people you go out on a date with you could end up like dating for a while.

  • That's right.

  • All right.

  • Don't get discouraged.

  • It doesn't work out right away, because, I mean, I use them for years before I found someone.

  • That's great.

  • Well, you didn't know it was like your second book all day.

  • I mean, I use them like Did you want to eat?

  • No.

  • So it's just a matter of putting yourself out there trying to be the best human you can be.

  • Yeah, And even though having a boyfriend is really nice, remember that you don't need one.

  • You are a complete human without anybody else.

  • I feel like there's so much pressure to be in a relationship.

  • Being in a good relationship is better than being single.

  • But being in a bad relationship far worse than being single, that's true.

  • Actually, my first girlfriend, you are the first boy I ever looked at.

  • So I'm offended.

  • I stayed in multiple bad relationship for way longer than I should have just because I don't want to be alone.

  • I don't wanna be single.

  • I thought that being single with somehow be worse than being in a terrible relationship, and it's totally not next up, how to get over a break up.

  • I have been dumped once and had a mutual break up once, and I know that getting broken up with it's so fucking shitty thing about a break up is it feels awful, but it feels really awful.

  • Physical pain.

  • Yes, you get physical even when you do the breaking up.

  • Normally, you've been dating this person for at least a couple months.

  • They've been a really big part of your life.

  • You might have loved them.

  • It physically hurts, and it feels a lot worse than it actually is for me.

  • I'd really like to keep myself busy, because if I give myself too much time, I will just wallow for days, weeks, months.

  • I have a lot of tears stored in these tear ducts, and they're ready to fucking come out.

  • After my first break up, which I was still in high school, pretty messy went to class, went home, just binged animal.

  • So don't do that.

  • Give yourself enough time to process.

  • But right after a break up is also a great time to really throw yourself into work or hobbies or school because you have so much emotional angst that you just want, like power into something you know, texting and talking after a relationship.

  • I think it's a horrible idea.

  • Everyone's ready.

  • Thio talk to their ex at some point until that time comes which is different for everyone.

  • Do not talk to them.

  • It's so easy to fall back into the same patterns, saying romantic things to each other, saying nice things to each other.

  • If you're close, fine when you're actually throws in a babe and you get the fuck out of here.

  • It is so toxic to still be following your ex on social media because you're constantly gonna be reloading every time you go on instagram, you're gonna be like, Oh, did they post something?

  • You're going to analyze all of their comments and all of their likes, see if they're liking a new girl's photo.

  • But after a break up is also a great time to reconnect with friends or to reach out to new friends or cool people that you know that you'd like to hang out with.

  • You still have a support system, even though your significant other is no longer in your life.

  • And fourthly, it is just kind of a matter of time.

  • I remember feeling like I could never stop being sad because I'd still be clinging onto all of these memories of my ex, but thank God for my fucking short term memory, because over time.

  • I just can't recall them anymore.

  • I don't remember what it was like being with him.

  • I don't have these vivid memories of our dates together.

  • He was just like, Oh, that was my ex.

  • You know, every relationship teaches you a lesson.

  • Whether it was good or bad or no matter how it ended, you come out a stronger person and knowing even Maur what you want in your next relationship.

  • So trust me your next one movie that are, in the meantime, take care of yourself, ma'am.

  • Oh, the American educational system.

  • I love you so much.

  • No, I don't fucking suck.

  • My first question is advice for high schoolers.

  • High school was kind of a wild fried for me from start to finish.

  • There were times where I had a friend group where I was rejected from the front group where I felt really lonely and depressed.

  • I wanted to drop out where I had a great time at the end of senior year and didn't want to leave.

  • So I feel like I have done it all.

  • Firstly, don't stress out too much.

  • I was such a little stressed being all of high school I worked like 3 to 4 jobs at a time, on top of getting always I wish I had the confidence in myself earlier on to really dive into creative endeavors Maur rather than spending all my time on grades.

  • But you know, say lovey, I think is what they say.

  • The French are screaming.

  • Remember that you're a teenager and have fun in high school while you can.

  • I always have the mentality that was like Fuck high school.

  • It's the worst four years of my life.

  • I got to get out of here, but by the end, I really learned to enjoy it for what it waas.

  • It's the last time that your mom's gonna cook all your meals for you.

  • You don't have to pay.

  • Read that.

  • You get to see the same people every single day and kind of fuck around in class.

  • And I kind of miss that part of high school even though I was so bored for a lot of it.

  • Even if you're a little bit antisocial like me, go to the dance