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  • hey everyone thanks for checking back.

  • now this weeks video is something that you have asked

  • for alot and it has to do with my borderline personality

  • disorder video the BPD video that I put up

  • so if you havent watched that, check that out.

  • but this is kind of diving deeper into DBT therapy

  • Dialectical and Behavioural therapy.

  • now DBT therapy is a type of therapy that is used alot for Borderline Personality Disorder patients

  • and theres a woman Martia Lineham and I never know if i say her last name right.

  • Martia wrote a lot of books about it and created DBT therapy

  • and one of the main components of DBT therapy is mindfulnes.

  • ok so what is mindfulness? im being mindful right now, that word is used a lot

  • but in DBT therapy its very specific and its very detailed. like, way too detailed

  • but, today im going to talk to you about kind of the'what' skills of mindfulness

  • and mindfulness is broken down into about 6 different skill sets

  • and today im just going to talk about 3. so you can see why DBT is a practice. its

  • something that you, as a clinician, study, eat, breathe, sleep if thats all you do

  • 9 til 5 or 9 til 6.30 or whatever your work day is, every day, all day.

  • so mindfulness is a way we can help regulate our emotions

  • and to that i mean if we're feeling, honestly if we have borderline personality

  • disorder we're like i dont know how I feel, i just feel overwhelmed, thats how I feel

  • but, if we're feeling a lot of emotions and theyre just building up and waah we feel overwhelmed,

  • mindfulness will help bring us back down. and the first thing we want to do is observe.

  • and i know that seems really bizarre, but what i mean is, if you start

  • feeling anxious, but you dont quite know what it is yet. you just have that sense

  • tat somethings building, right. we start to notice. hey my palms are getting sweaty,

  • my heart is racing, im breathing faster and my thoughts are going a million miles a minute

  • and all this stuff is happening. we need to notice that right. we dont need to control it.

  • we dont need to control whats happening. we can control our focus of it but we dont have to control the actual emotion

  • does that make sense, we're just watching and we're noticing.

  • and i read a couple of articles and people describe it as having almost like

  • a teflon mind. teflon being those frying pans that nothing sticks to cos we're not letting

  • anything take hold of us, we're not ruminating about being angry, sad,mad

  • happy,elated, whatever we feel we're not sticking on it we're just noticing.

  • ok? and that even in itself with my clients, thats months of work.

  • right, just to observe, but thats something we can do slowly but surely. we just take note

  • observe whats happening, when we have those kind of breakdowns where you feel

  • like your heads going to explode, notice what that was like, how did it build up. what happened today and yesterday

  • and you kind of go back and observe. then, and i made notes because sometimes this gets a little tricky

  • so after we've observed then we need to describe the experience.

  • so like i was saying after we've looked inside ourselves and noticed our palms were

  • sweaty this is happening, then try to put words to it. we dont have to know the emotion yet

  • because a lot of times, and for many of you, i know Jess, we've talked a lot and you're

  • like, i dont know how im feeling and we have those happy and sad pictures you put up.

  • this is the time when you have to put words to it. those words being my heart was racing, i felt this, i felt this.

  • it doesnt have to be an emmotional description, how was our body responding?

  • ok so try to put words to your experience. now that takes some time aswell, but you can ]

  • see how they kind of go hand in hand, how the observe goes hand in hand with the

  • describing and putting words to it. so the last portion that im going to talk

  • about today is participate, and im reading my notes cos like i said there are 6 parts

  • of just this portion. so this is kind of letting yourself act intuitively and participate in life

  • so FEEl angry, FEEL sad, FEEL elated, FEEL in love, feel whatever, right

  • whatever youre feeling, feel it. come from your wise mind, and we'll talk about that in another video

  • stay tuned for wise mind. but come from a place of the observe and the putting words

  • to the experience, but still have the experience, you dont need to hold back and not

  • allow yourself it and be so controlled we're not controlling our emotions, we're controlling

  • how long we allow ourselves to deal with it and ruminate on it. does that make sense?

  • the difference between participating and responding to it? thats almost like

  • i guess if i was going to give youa good analogy. i get a ticket on my car come out and the parking metre is up

  • and i got a ticket and im like son of a hfkshfgashfbakh right, i respond immediately.

  • and lets say i see the metre maid and im like, you son of a bitch sfkjanfjn and i just lose

  • it, that would be responding. but if im going to participate i would say to myself,

  • that really sucks! I dont have 65 bucks thats so frustrating i should have planned better

  • and i just allow myself to feel upset, but im not ruminating im not responding

  • im not reacting i guess is the best word, im just participating ok?

  • so this is gonna be a very long period of time we're going to do many videos on this topic

  • because its very haard to comprehend and it takes time and practise. but this week we're

  • going to practice mindfulness. so i want you this week to observe. lets just do number 1

  • i know we had 3 things we had observe, then we would describe it and put words to it. then

  • we would participate, but this week we're just going to observe. so notice how youre feeling in your

  • body and whats going on, before you reach that overwhelmed stage. and leave comments below if any of you have done

  • DBT therapy i know many of you have and youve had great results. leave your tips and

  • tricks and things that have helped and how helpful DBT therapy was and if it wasnt let me know.

  • like hey i like THIS kind of therapy better and we can do videos on that too cos thats what we do

  • i listen to you you speak to me and i do the videos that people want most, and if you like this video

  • give it a thumbs up and let me know, and dont forget to check out my borderline video that i talked about earlier

  • and dont forget to subscribe to my channel because like i said i'll be putting out many videos

  • on this topic so you want to make sure to stay tuned and catch it, and keep working

  • with me towards a healthy mind and a healthy body

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