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  • Guess what, I really don't like my best friend's boyfriend, but what do I do about it? Well,

  • often I think of telling her the truth, but you know the truth is pretty bitter, but I

  • have smart ways of telling the truth in a way that she doesn't even get hurt. Do you

  • also want to know any such ways in which you can tell the truth without hurting people?

  • Okay, so if you want to learn different ways of telling the truth in English or giving

  • a negative opinion, without making people hurt, then keep watching this lesson as I'm

  • going to tell you some expressions, to give out negative opinions. My name is Michelle

  • and this is such an awesome day, so let's start, okay so guys here we have certain expressions

  • that we can use to talk about giving negative opinion. So the first one that we have is

  • to be honest, well honesty is the best policy and if you are not honest, you cannot give

  • a negative opinion. Most of the times we try to hide our opinions because they are very,

  • very rude, but now that we've decided to give it away, let's start with this one, “to

  • be honest”, okay, so this is obviously very, very understood what it means, it means that

  • you're telling someone or you're giving a bad comment or a negative opinion about something.

  • So like I said, I don't like my best friend's boyfriend, I'd say, “to be honest, I really

  • don't like him”. Okay now that can get very rude, so sometimes because I'm way too honest,

  • I might want to add brutally, brutally means so much that it can even hurt her, okay? So

  • I'm already giving her a warning that I'm going to be brutally honest with you, which

  • means extremely honest, so much that it can even hurt you. So you could either say, “to

  • be honest”, or if you're way too honest and you could hurt someone, you could say,

  • to be brutally honest, I don't like him”. Okay, you could also give an explanation for

  • this and for giving an explanation, we need a different phrase which we'll come to later

  • in the lesson. Let's look at the next one for now, “if I'm honest with you”. Now

  • this is also another way of saying the same thing, ‘to be honest’, so you're trying

  • to give away your opinion by saying the second phrase which is, ‘if I am honest’. So

  • if you think that someone is not right for a job, okay and you have to convey this message

  • you could say that, “if I'm honest, I don't think you suit this job role”, okay? So

  • this way you're talking about giving your opinion and a very calm and delicate, gentle

  • way. So, ‘if I am honest’, ‘if I'm honest with you’, so if you only say, “If I'm

  • honest, you're not suited for this job role”, it's not wrong, but grammatically we always

  • add with you, withif I'm honest’, okay? Now with this well look at the next one,

  • now we are trying to tell the truth, we are trying to be honest with someone, so we could

  • also say, “to tell you the truth”, so truth, you know what it means, being true

  • to somebody. Soto tell you the truth’, is also an expression with a similar meaning

  • like, ‘to be honestorif I'm honestand again you could use this by saying, “to

  • tell you the truth, I don't think you're telling me correctly about what happened”, so here

  • you're doubting someone, doubting what they are telling you and you are telling your opinion

  • very truthfully. So you are saying this to give a negative opinion or you could also

  • say, “to tell you the truth, I think you should try a different career because I don't

  • think you will be successful in this career”, so that is again a negative opinion, a criticism,

  • so we go with, ‘to tell you the truth’. Now the next one is, “to be fair”, okay

  • now here as I told you that we will look at a phrase which we use to give an explanation

  • about why we are saying this negative opinion. So if you tell a person that they don't suit

  • the job roles, so you can say, “I don't think you suit the job role to be fair, I

  • think you'd be better as a doctor”, okay? So this way you are trying to give an explanation

  • of why you think that they don't suit that job role, soto be fairis used for

  • explanation. Now you can use, ‘to be fairin one more way, as an example you could also

  • say that, “this is not the best talk I've ever given, to be fair I didn't have enough

  • time to prepare”. So being fair means you're being honest, you are not being biased, you

  • are telling the truth, so if you've prepared for a talk and you think you did not deliver

  • it too well, you're giving a reason, I could not do it because I didn't get time to prepare.

  • But you are connecting these two sentences with, ‘to be fair’. Now similar to, ‘to

  • be fairis, “in all fairness”, you use this again for giving explanations and

  • in a sentence you could use it as, “I wasn't quite impressed by her recent album, in all

  • fairness, I have seen the reviews, but she doesn't justify them”. So here you're giving

  • an explanation of why you don't like a particular artist’s current album or recent album,

  • well because you read the reviews and the reviews were great, but you don't think it

  • was great enough. Okay, now what does we move to the next one, “don't get me wrong”,

  • I love teaching you guys. Sodon't get me wrongis either used in the beginning

  • of a sentence or it's used in the middle of the sentence and we use this when we are giving

  • a negative opinion and after this phrase we also give a positive opinion. Okay, I think

  • you're getting too confused, so here's an example for you, as we were already talking

  • about the job roles, we could say that, “I don't think you suit this job role, don't

  • me wrong, you're a great guy, but I just feel you don't have the skills”, okay? So here

  • you don't want someone to misunderstand you, that's why you're saying, don't get me wrong

  • which usually comes in the middle of a sentence, to introduce a positive opinion after giving

  • a negative opinion. To introduce a positive opinion, great! Now, we

  • look at the last two and this is, “I must say that”. Somustmeans necessity,

  • which is something which you're required to do, something which is necessary. Must mean,

  • something is necessary. So we use, ‘I must say thatand “I have to say that”,

  • when we are trying to soften a negative comment, so let's say you went out for dinner, okay

  • at your friend's place, but you did not like the meal too much, so you could say, “I

  • must say that I have had better meals”. Okay I know that is rude, but yeah, so ‘I

  • must say that’, will at least soften what you are saying, if you have to at all give

  • a comment like that. But I recommend you don't say something like that to your friend, otherwise

  • she'll never call you for a dinner again. Okay now the next one is, “I have to say

  • thatand it's obviously short for it ‘I haveokay ‘I have to say thatand

  • it has the same meaning as, ‘I must say thatand if you want to use it in the sentence

  • you could say that, I have to say that the dinner wasn't that great”, which means you

  • did not like the food. So these are two phrases which you use as softeners before giving the

  • comment, okay? Anddon't get me wrong’, you use in the middle of the sentence, to

  • give a positive opinion after it, so first you give a negative opinion and then you give

  • a positive opinion and you join these two by saying, ‘don't get me wrong’. Okay

  • now these two, ‘in all fairnessandto be fairis used for giving explain about

  • why do you think you're giving the negative comment, so like I said, I gave you an example

  • that, “this is not the best talk I've ever given, to be fair I didn't have enough time

  • to prepareso here you're giving an explanation and all these three are very simple ways which

  • you can use in your everyday conversations, where you can generally give negative comment

  • starting with, ‘to be honestorif I'm honest with youorto tell you the

  • truth’. Okay now, honesty is the best policy as I said, if you do have a negative opinion

  • or a negative comment to make then what are you waiting for? You've got the right vocabulary

  • and the right time, so make sure that you give that comment that you've been waiting

  • for, and you can use any of these phrases that you want to use. Okay and thank you so

  • much for having me, I'll see you guys very soon, till then you take care, bye-bye.

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