However, I guessagreement, onsomethings, mayhaveprevented a fewwars.
Indeed, butitis a fascinatingsubjectandit's somethingtheBBCRadio 4 programme “A GuidetoDisagreeingBetter” lookedat.
I thinkweshouldhearabouthowNOTtodisagreefirst.
Thisiscouples' therapist, author, andspeaker, EstherPerel, whoknows a thingortwoaboutthat.
In a battle, youpositionyourselfin a hierarchy, oneisontopoftheother.
Andthenthereisarguingthatcomeswith a contemptinwhichit's notjustthat I don't acceptyourpointofview, isthat, I actuallyreallythinkyou're a lesserhumanbeing.
Right, soEstherexplainsthatbaddisagreementis a battle—onepersontriestotake a higherpositioninthehierarchy.
A hierarchyis a wayoforganisingpeopleaccordingtotheirimportance.
So, a disagreementdoesn't gowellifonepersonthinksthey'remoreimportantthansomeoneelse.
AndaccordingtoEsther, thingsalsodon't gowellifsomeonehascontempt, whichis a dislikeorlackofrespectforsomeoneorsomething.
Andcontemptin a baddisagreementcanbemorethanjustnotlikingsomebody's pointofview—theirperspectiveonsomething.