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  • - There's one trick that will make you

  • rich, happy, and successful,

  • and it can make all of your dreams come true

  • and I'm gonna tell you what this trick is

  • by sharing with you a story

  • about how somebody learned this trick too late in life.

  • This is Lucas.

  • Lucas was born in the middle of America

  • to a man named John and a woman named Emily.

  • From a very early age, Lucas displayed signs of genius.

  • People would watch him in shock

  • as he solved these incredibly complex math equations

  • as if they were simple puzzle pieces

  • that he could easily fit together.

  • He had intelligence far beyond the other kids

  • and even most of his teachers.

  • It became clear to everyone

  • that Lucas would go on to do great things in this lifetime.

  • His parents were proud of him

  • and they loved him with all their hearts.

  • But one day, something happened to Lucas.

  • It was something that would leave a permanent scar

  • on the bright canvas of his life.

  • It was a moment that was truly unforgettable.

  • One foggy night,

  • Lucas' mother was working late in her office.

  • After she was done, she got into her car and she drove home

  • to see her loving family.

  • As she was driving through a green light,

  • she was hit directly in the driver side door

  • by an intoxicated driver.

  • While Lucas was reading a book in his room,

  • his dad came in and said,

  • "Son, your mother was in a car accident.

  • "She's in critical condition at the hospital."

  • When Lucas was looking at his mother's unconscious body

  • in that white bed, it didn't feel real.

  • This is something that only happens in the movies

  • in order to make you cry.

  • It's not something that is actually supposed to happen

  • in real life, Lucas thought to himself.

  • A few hours later, Lucas' mother was pronounced dead.

  • Lucas did not attend the funeral.

  • He didn't really talk to anyone.

  • It was all too painful for him.

  • The next few weeks were incredibly confusing for Lucas

  • which was something that he was not used to feeling.

  • He felt like there was this giant black hole inside of him

  • that he had no idea how to fill.

  • At first, he tried asking his dad questions like,

  • why did all of this happen?

  • What happens to mom now?

  • What is the meaning behind all of this?

  • But the only words his hurt father could really say were,

  • "Son, sometimes horrible things happen

  • "and there isn't always a clear reason why."

  • But Lucas' logical brain was not able to accept this answer.

  • He needed to uncover the why behind his mom's death

  • and uncover all the mysteries surrounding death.

  • There's no problem that is unsolvable,

  • Lucas thought to himself.

  • So he started to watch videos,

  • read books, read blogs, talked to people.

  • He even began studying the work

  • of Ancient Greek philosophers like Aristotle and Socrates,

  • but Lucas quickly realized

  • that the concept of death is not like his math equations

  • where everything is made up of simple 2D puzzle pieces

  • but rather it's made up of complex mind bending 4D pieces

  • that don't even conceptually make sense when you look at it.

  • As the weeks and months went by,

  • Lucas realized that no matter how much he read

  • or how much he studied,

  • he never really found the concrete undeniable answer

  • that he was looking for.

  • So he stopped searching.

  • His mom's death left Lucas in a constant state of pain.

  • So he set out on a self-destructive journey

  • to distract himself from this pain in any way that he could.

  • At first, it started off small

  • where he began to watch more TV and eat unhealthy food.

  • He then started to use social media more

  • like YouTube and Facebook and Instagram

  • and he would just sit on his bed for hours

  • just scrolling and scrolling and scrolling

  • consuming a seemingly endless amount of content.

  • But the more distractions that he consumed,

  • the more he craved.

  • Lucas began drinking on the weekends

  • which led him to drink on the occasional weekday

  • which led him to drink on most weekdays.

  • He soon began experimenting with drugs

  • which led him to abuse drugs.

  • There were even times

  • where he thought about physically hurting himself.

  • Lucas used these substances

  • because it allowed him to temporarily forget

  • about how hollow he felt.

  • And one night when he was really in pain,

  • Lucas abused so many substances that he almost OD'd.

  • It was so bad that he fell to the ground

  • and he began to have a seizure and then before he knew it,

  • he became unconscious.

  • The next thing he knew,

  • he woke up in a hospital to his dad by his side.

  • "Son, we are going to talk about this tomorrow.

  • "This behavior is obviously not okay,

  • "but I don't have time to figure this out right now, okay?"

  • "Sure."

  • Since his mom's passing,

  • the money had been a little bit more tight in the family

  • so his dad had to work overtime.

  • Seeing all the nurses and feeling the white bed on his skin

  • immediately reminded Lucas of his mother's death,

  • but Lucas did not have anything

  • to distract himself with this time.

  • He had no social media, no junk food,

  • and he certainly had no substances

  • and those horrible dark feelings came flooding back to him.

  • Lucas reached for the remote control frantically

  • trying to turn on the TV.

  • "It doesn't work," a mysterious voice said.

  • "Excuse me?" Lucas said.

  • "The TV, it doesn't work.

  • "You can click those buttons all you want.

  • "It still won't work."

  • "Um, and who are you?" Lucas said.

  • "Sarah, you?"

  • "No, I mean like who are you?

  • "Are you a nurse, a doctor?"

  • "Oh no, I'm a patient just like you."

  • "Oh God," Lucas said.

  • "That's not a very nice way

  • "to greet your bed neighbor," she said.

  • "Yeah, sorry, I'm used to talking to people's faces,

  • "not at a giant white curtain," Lucas said.

  • "Ah, I see, so you don't spend too much time

  • "in the hospital then, do you?"

  • "Nope, not really and you do?"

  • "Yeah, a little."

  • "Are you usually this chatty with your bed neighbors

  • "as you call them?"

  • "Just the ones who are in a bad mood."

  • "Well, I'm sitting here with nothing to do,

  • "with a horrible headache

  • "so yeah, I'm not exactly very happy right now."

  • "There are always reasons to be happy.

  • "If you are bored, I can lend you my favorite book.

  • "Whenever I feel down,

  • "it makes me feel a little bit better, here."

  • A book came sliding under the curtain towards Lucas' bed.

  • He picked it up.

  • "The Power of Now," Lucas said.

  • "That's right.

  • "Most people hate what's in that book

  • "and they get really triggered

  • "when they find out what's in that book,

  • "but I think every single person on Earth should read it.

  • "Anyways, I'm feeling pretty tired so I'm going to sleep.

  • "I didn't catch your name?"

  • "It's Lucas."

  • "Well, it's great to meet you Lucas.

  • "I hope you feel better."

  • "Thanks, you too Sarah."

  • When Lucas got home, his dad immediately grounded him

  • until he could figure out how to proceed with Lucas.

  • So Lucas spent the next few days glued to this book,

  • but he noticed that it wasn't based on facts or data

  • like he was used to,

  • but rather it was based on ideas and perspectives.

  • He'd liked the book until he got to the section called

  • what to do when a loved one dies.

  • The book said great loss ends

  • with a great feeling of emptiness and nothingness,

  • but if you surrender into the nothingness,

  • there is a fullness waiting for you there.

  • But the only way to do this is to fully embrace

  • and accept all the pain that you feel.

  • Lucas closed the book and he immediately thought of the fact

  • that he had not gone to his mother's funeral

  • because it was too painful.

  • He felt like the book was telling him

  • to go to your mom's tombstone and surrender to the pain,

  • but this was out of the question for Lucas.

  • The mere thought of doing this

  • was almost unbearable for him.

  • "I'm done with this book.

  • "It's time to return it to Sarah," Lucas said to himself.

  • "Hi there, I'm here to see, um, my friend.

  • "Her name is Sarah.

  • "She's in room 112,"

  • Lucas said to the receptionist at the hospital.

  • "Sure, no problem."

  • She logged onto her computer and then she said,

  • "Um, you said you were her friend?"

  • "Yeah, I'm here to return the book she lent me."

  • "Uh, I'm not exactly sure how to say this,

  • "but she passed a few days ago."

  • "She passed?

  • "Passed where?

  • "What do you mean?"

  • "Sir, she had stage four terminal cancer.

  • "She died."

  • Lucas turned around and sat down in the chair behind him.

  • "The girl who told me there are always reasons to be happy

  • "was dying of cancer?"

  • Lucas thought to himself.

  • He sat there for about 30 minutes

  • replaying the conversation with Sarah over and over

  • and he deeply regretted how unsympathetic he was.

  • As a tear fell from Lucas' face,

  • he looked down at the book and he knew what he had to do.

  • The moment when he started walking towards it,

  • he felt immense pain.

  • Every breath that he took felt like somebody was placing

  • a 10 pound weight on his back

  • and every step that he took

  • felt like somebody was stabbing him in his stomach

  • with a small sharp knife,

  • but he just put his head down

  • and he kept walking one foot in front of the other.

  • Finally, he opened his eyes

  • and he saw the thing that he had been fearing most,

  • his mom's tombstone.

  • He immediately felt a hot searing pain in his stomach

  • that made him fall to his knees

  • and then within seconds this pain became so intense

  • that his vision went blurry

  • and his muscles began to seize up

  • and all he could feel was this overwhelming pain

  • that echoed throughout his entire mind and body.

  • Lucas sat there for hours slowly bleeding out his emotions.

  • Eventually, he had nothing left inside him.

  • He felt like a soulless, empty human being.

  • And over the next few months,

  • Lucas would go to his mother's tombstone everyday

  • to put himself through this misery.

  • But every time that he did this,

  • the pain would slowly go down inch by inch

  • and he would feel just a little bit better.

  • And eventually after months of this torture,

  • Lucas got to the point where he could finally

  • accept the reality that she was gone.

  • He finally got to the point where he could let her go.

  • Every single one of us have painful memories

  • and traumas from our past.

  • Some are big and some are small,

  • but very few of us make the decision

  • to consciously engage with these bad feelings.

  • We would rather choose to forget about them

  • or we bury them deep inside our subconscious

  • where nobody can find them

  • and then we walk around in this emotionally paralyzed state

  • that we aren't even really aware of.

  • This is why we see people who seemingly have it all.

  • They have money, good looks, women, fame,

  • yet they still aren't happy.

  • This is because they still have issues inside them

  • that they have not let go of.

  • Maybe as a kid they didn't get enough attention

  • from their parents so now they are addicted

  • to getting attention from other people

  • or maybe a girl cheated on them when they were younger

  • with some other guy who was way more cooler

  • or way more muscular than they were

  • and now the guy is addicted to going to the gym

  • seven days per week in order to make himself feel good

  • or worthy enough to have another girlfriend.

  • But most people will go their entire lives

  • totally unaware of these kinds of things.

  • So if you want to become authentically rich

  • or authentically successful,

  • you need to let go of your past traumas.

  • Otherwise, you will live a life

  • where you are constantly distracting yourself

  • just like Lucas

  • or a life where your traumas

  • will dictate everything that you do.

  • Letting go is the first and only step

  • towards authentic happiness.

  • If you enjoyed this video,

  • I promise that you will love the one on the screen.

  • It will inspire you to do anything.

  • Thanks for watching and I'll see you soon.

- There's one trick that will make you

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