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  • How do I get over someone I never even officially dated?

  • My god. That's me!

  • Lele Pons is typing

  • Hey guys, I'm Lele Pons. You guys submitted your dating questions and I'm here to answer them.

  • I am here to give you guys dating advice because I have been through so much.

  • I mean, I live in a telenovela. So I've been: the side chick, the one that has been cheated on, the one that cheats.

  • And I can tell you what I've learned through those relationships

  • So I think I know a little bit and I hope I can help.

  • What are your thoughts on long distance relationships that which started out that way from the very beginning?

  • Alright let me tell you something.

  • All my relationships have always been long distance relationships.

  • I haven't had a boyfriend in like the same city ever.

  • So which is true so long-distance relationships...

  • It's very hard.

  • I can't say that mine have been successful.

  • Try to see each other, try to talk to each other as much as possible

  • But if they end up bad it's not because you stopped loving the person

  • it's because of the distance and it's too hard so you start moving on.

  • When texting someone new, is it better to be nice and straight to the point or to be the Alpha?

  • Do not be the Alpha!

  • When you start texting someone new, be funny, be clever.

  • Don't be the Alpha, but be clever, be funny, be different. You know?

  • Make jokes with them but do not me straight to the point. Calm down.

  • If you want something serious, you should be smooth.

  • What is your ideal first date?

  • My ideal first date...

  • Well, definitely, my ideal first date is to do an adventure.

  • Like I wouldn't want my first date just to go on dinner.

  • I want to go like rock climbing.

  • Do something that they've never done before.

  • Scuba diving. You know like I want to plan my first date.

  • I don't like the guys planning my first date actually because I have so many ideas I want to do it.

  • But if a guy's trying to do it, he can be romantic.

  • You know what you know what, whatever he wants he can do.

  • But if I was doing a first date I will go and think outside the box.

  • My least favorite first date was like this guy was just like... he took me to eat.

  • Yes that was amazing, but then we just like drove around and we didn't know what to do.

  • Then that's it and then he took me home. What? Like... no.

  • Oh... I'm shy and lack confidence. How do I start a conversation with someone I match with?

  • I love you Trevor.

  • You know what? Sometimes girls like shy guys and guys that are not too cocky.

  • And for example I love that and I think you should be shy.

  • But the confidence, you know, you should believe in yourself and you should try it because what's the worst that can happen?

  • I mean I've got every single guy basically says no to me. So it's okay.

  • You're in my club.

  • When using dating apps, how many people should you be talking to at a time?

  • According to my calculations 3.

  • If one doesn't work you still have 2.

  • But if 2 don''t work you still have 1.

  • Sometimes one does... I don't know how to explain this

  • my teacher explained it better... what is that thing of 3?

  • You guys don't know the theory of 3? I don't know.

  • What is the first thing a woman notices on a date?

  • The first thing I notice is the screensaver.

  • The screensaver is so important. you have to see if his screen saver is with a girl...

  • with the mom, with his best friends...

  • It depends you know like sometimes his screensaver is him meaning he's kind of cocky.

  • So, I look at the screensaver of his phone.

  • What if I''m into the guy and not into the guy at the same time?

  • Get out!

  • Alright don't play games.

  • Because that never works out.

  • I find dating intimidating. Any cues for taking it smoothly?

  • I think getting to know the person first.

  • Not only dating like alone.

  • Going in groups of people

  • Doing like group dates first

  • And that's gonna make it more smoothly like if you need help your friend is right there to help you out.

  • And then you can go on individual dates

  • Oh, this one is interesting.

  • I texted a girl after hooking up but she didn't reply.

  • Should I text again?

  • I think you should text one more time.

  • If that person doesn't reply I think you shouldn't act desperate.

  • So you just let it go and wait for her to text you or not wait.

  • Because it wasn't meant to be.

  • What is the biggest red flag to run from when you start seeing someone new?

  • The way he treats his mom.

  • The way the person treats the parents is the way that he is eventually going to be treating you.

  • Or she's gonna be treating you.

  • So if you see that person is caring for the mom, and does a lot for the family. That means that he is great.

  • That means he is going to treat you like a princess.

  • But if you see that person has conflicts with the parents and likes to fight, then you should get ready for that.

  • Because that's most likely gonna happen in your relationship

  • What should include on my profile?

  • I think you should include hobbies that you have.

  • Pictures with your friends.

  • Whatever makes you feel comfortable.

  • How do you know if someone is interested in you after the first date?

  • Well if they text you after or they call you and keep wanting to hang out with you, that's how you'll know.

  • How do I open a conversation with someone that doesn't have a bio?

  • You can ask and say: why don't you have a bio?

  • vI'm titled as a best friend by a girl but I want to date her. What are your thoughts?

  • Tell her.

  • It might not go the way that you want it to, but tell her.

  • I've been there.

  • It's obvious you like her or he likes you.

  • It's just obvious you can't you can't hide your feelings that well.

  • So I think maybe that person knows you never, you never know.

  • How do I get over someone I never even officially dated.

  • My god... that's me.

  • There's just no way that I can tell you to get over someone, because that's up to you.

  • I've tried many things to get over someone.

  • For example going out with somebody else.

  • That's not the answer. You shouldn't do that.

  • I think just focusing on yourself.

  • Working really hard, and being with friends...

  • And actually having the courage and willingness not to answer the person that you like?

  • Is the way that you're going to eventually get over him.

  • I'm not going tell you that's gonna be in a week

  • but if you do that and you're willing to actually push yourself not to engage in whatever that other person is

  • doing and checking up on him or her

  • You're going to get over it in like two months

  • Next one is: what sweeps me off my feet?

  • Boys who sing me serenatas.

  • Boys who get mariachi bands and sing to me.

  • That has happened to me before where a guy gets a mariachi band and just sings me songs I don't know.

  • But it's so cute.

  • Thank you guys so much for writing into Tinder.

  • I hope that my answers helped you.

  • Or I gave you a good advice.

  • Even though it's hard, don't give up.

  • Put yourself out there and get on Tinder. And try to find the perfect relationship for you.

  • Good luck!

How do I get over someone I never even officially dated?

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