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  • Hello.

  • Are you on Tinder?

  • Have you ever tried internet dating?

  • If you have or if you are, good luck; and I mean that sincerely, but there's going to

  • be a lot of terms or things that you probably don't know what they mean, and they're kind

  • of important.

  • So, because of this new... well, not so new, but because of the invention of Tinder or

  • internet-dating sites, they've actually made a whole new language because of this, which

  • is cool.

  • This is how English progresses, this is how language changes, this is how new slang is made.

  • So, I'm going to teach you some internet-dating slang.

  • The first column we have are just letters.

  • So, maybe you're looking at someone's profile, which means their picture and their information,

  • and you have some crazy A, B, W, D, DD-what?-letters.

  • This is what they mean: "A" means Asian - yay.

  • So, "Asian" means you are from Asia.

  • "B" means black; "W" means white.

  • Now, it's funny because I was reading recently about being politically correct, and apparently

  • being politically correct you're not allowed to say: "black" or "white", but you can still

  • say "Asian".

  • They want to say things, like: "Caucasian".

  • But I think if you put: "A", "B", "C", people would get confused.

  • So, we have Asian, black, and white.

  • Then we also have our sexual orientation.

  • So, for example: "Bi" means bi-sexual.

  • "Bi-sexual" means you like both males and females.

  • So, if you look at these acronyms... if you look at these acronyms, we have: "BGM", so

  • this would be a black gay male.

  • Then we have an "AGF" - this would be an Asian gay female.

  • So, you can use these acronyms to tell the person your race and also your sexual orientation.

  • I don't know.

  • Probably we would have "S" for... we would have "S" for straight, but usually that's

  • known.

  • We have "D" for divorced.

  • "N/S" means a non-smoker.

  • Now, it doesn't specify if they don't smoke cigarettes or if they don't smoke drugs, but

  • "non-smoker" usually means they don't smoke cigarettes; if they smoke drugs, that's something

  • different.

  • They might have something like: "420-friendly".

  • If someone says on their profile that they are 420-friendly, it means that they smoke

  • marijuana or they smoke weed, but not cigarettes.

  • "N/K" means no kids.

  • "D&D free" - this is not Dungeons and Dragons, okay?

  • Please don't get excited, but you should get excited.

  • I don't know why this has to be on a profile, but drug and disease free.

  • Congratulations.

  • This is an accomplishment.

  • Then we have ways to define what we are looking for in the relationship.

  • We have the "LTR".

  • Is that a light-train railroad?

  • No.

  • An "LTR" means someone's looking for a long-term relationship.

  • This means they're looking for someone to have a proper relationship for over a long

  • period of time.

  • It's always curious: How can you determine that?

  • Like, this is what you want, but I mean, like: What's forever?

  • The next one is "FWB".

  • This means friends with benefits.

  • Now, these benefits do not mean healthcare or dental care.

  • "Friends with benefits" mean this is going to be your friend, but you have sex with your

  • friend.

  • So, you're not looking for a long-term relationship; you're probably not looking for a relationship

  • at all; all you are looking for is a friend to have sex with.

  • So: "FWB" - friends with benefits.

  • And the other problem is that a lot of people lie and they say they want a long-term relationship,

  • but they just want friends with benefits; it's crazy.

  • I hope you're getting some dental care in there.

  • Another kind of relationship we have, we don't have an acronym for this (we don't have initials

  • for this), it's called a "casual relationship", so casual sex.

  • This means two people... three?

  • Two people hang out, they maybe have sex regularly, but they're not interested in a serious relationship.

  • So, basically you don't know their friends, you're not introduced to their family; you're

  • just there - it's basically you're friends with benefits.

  • So, I think a casual relationship and friends with benefits might be the same, but this

  • might be that you just have one friend that you see, but you're not interested in a long-term

  • relationship.

  • Be careful: "Hook-ups" in the world of internet-dating slang just means sex.

  • So, some people might put in their profile: "Looking for hook-ups."

  • That just means that they're interested in only sex.

  • They don't even want to be your friend; they just want to have sex with you.

  • Then we get into some really crazy terms.

  • These are all new to me, and most of them are pretty negative.

  • People are kind of weird out there.

  • The first one is "ghosting" - oo!

  • So, basically this means that you... the person you're talking to disappears; they become

  • a ghost.

  • So, you start to communicate with someone, then the person texts you back, but they never

  • text back after a while and they don't give you a reason.

  • So, maybe for a couple of days you're texting back and forth, and then you send them a text

  • and they never text you back.

  • Did they die?

  • Probably not; they may be breadcrumbing or benching.

  • So, basically they become a ghost; they disappear from your life.

  • This is normal.

  • I...

  • I mean, we do this all the time.

  • We did this before internet dating, but now we have a term for it - yay!

  • Ghosts - so scary.

  • Next one is "benching".

  • Now, if you play sports or if you don't play sports, maybe you are a bench warmer.

  • So, a "benchwarmer" is a person who sits on the bench and is ready to play in the game

  • if another player gets injured or if they need to substitute a player.

  • This works the same way in the world of dating.

  • So, a "bench warmer"... sorry, "benching" is... you're a "benchwarmer".

  • You keep a person interested-maybe you text them every once in a while-but you keep a

  • person ready just in case your relationship fails.

  • So, maybe you're in a relationship, you have a boyfriend or girlfriend, but you still text

  • a couple people on the side just in case your relationship falls through.

  • These people are warming your bench.

  • Thank you, benchwarmers.

  • The next one: "Breadcrumbing".

  • Do you know the fable of Hansel and Gretel?

  • Bread crumbs are little pieces of bread.

  • So, this means sexting.

  • Oo, do you know what "sexting" means?

  • "Sexting" means you text people, but you're talking about sexual things - oo; not about

  • cats and dogs.

  • Okay?

  • You're not talking about cats and dogs; you're singing... you're sending sexual messages.

  • So, "breadcrumbing" means you talk to the person, maybe you send them flirty texts:

  • "Hi.

  • How are you?

  • What are you wearing tonight?" but you have no intent or intention of actually meeting

  • them.

  • So, it's basically a person that you're texting that doesn't exist in real life.

  • They're in your imagination and on your phone; you text them: "Oh, ha-ha-ha-ha", but you

  • will never, ever want to meet them.

  • It's like an imaginary friend, I guess.

  • It's imaginary friend for the year 2018 or whatever year you're watching in.

  • So, "breadcrumbing" - imaginary friend.

  • Next one: If someone has written in their profile: "Netflix and chill" - hey, guess

  • what?

  • This means they want to have sex.

  • So, you could think of it like a home date.

  • They'll invite you to their house for Netflix and chill.

  • Maybe you get to watch some Netflix, but "chill" basically means they want to have sex.

  • Watch a movie and have sex - Netflix and chill.

  • Next one.

  • Meow.

  • This one has become so popular-common-that it's now a TV show.

  • And I think the TV show is called Catfish.

  • Meow.

  • So, "catfishing" is when someone uses maybe a fake profile picture or a completely fake

  • profile.

  • So, they pretend to be someone else.

  • They pretend to be someone they're not.

  • They lie to you.

  • Maybe they are married, maybe they have children but they don't tell you you have children.

  • So, it's basically like they have a secret life.

  • So, on the internet they're single, blah, blah, blah; but actually they're married with

  • 12 kids and they live in Alaska, but you think they're your neighbour.

  • So, catfishing: If you watch it on TV, I'm sure it's very fun and entertaining.

  • Be careful; this is just straight-out lying, but instead of saying "lying", they say "catfishing".

  • I don't know why it's a catfish.

  • The next technique we have is called "cushioning".

  • Now, "cushion" is something that's soft on the seat.

  • Okay?

  • So, "cushioning" means you are communicating with many different romantic prospects.

  • This is what internet dating is all about.

  • I've written like a to-do list; so maybe you have a date with one person-chh-didn't work.

  • Next on the list.

  • Internet dating gives you the ability to do this.

  • And I don't know, is that good for society?

  • Does it help us take people for granted?

  • I'm not too sure, but that's what "cushioning" means.

  • So you just... you go through people and go: "This one?

  • No.

  • This one?

  • No."

  • Good.