Name: How to Be Happy Single & Great On Your Own Overcoming Heartbreak
Uploaded: 2019-08-26T15:22:07.000Z
Duration: 17 min 28 s
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hope everyone's having a beautiful weekend.. day..

so today we're gonna talk about something that you guys seemed really excited about..

when I kind of alluded to this a few weeks ago

which is about relationships and being single

and overcoming heartbreak and all that good stuff

for this specific video, I thought I'd get into about 7 tips or just like the 7 processes

of how I personally got over heartbreak 4 years ago

for me to get to where I am to fully embrace what it means to be alone

and what it means to just be happy and content and good..

so a little context.. I've been single for about 4 years now

I didn't set out to be single and like not date for 4 years

it was more of a - I'm gonna work on myself until I meet someone else

I've been in two relationships spanning a total of about 7 years

heartbreak never really is an easy thing but if you can learn from it then..

it's actually a really really beautiful thing

and before I go on more and ramble more..

again, these tips were kind of in the order of how..

it's like the little nuggets of wisdom I enlightened to along the way

I tried to make it in that order as much as possible

"two mediocrities never make one great company"

this is actually a quote from one of my favorite business books called "Good To Great"

if two "meh" companies merged and become one company..

two mediocre things cannot make a great thing

and when I read this around the time when..

it was like the first time I broke up with my ex

and then didn't know if we're gonna get back together

and then we did end up kind of getting back together

so I'm sure many of you guys can relate to what I just said

that like forever dancing in the gray zone area

this was around 2014 and I was just like dude that is so true

two "okay" people aren't going to come together and become a great couple

and I think that's what I thought for most of my youth up until my early 20s

but as long as I have someone.. they'll make things okay for me

and that's very unrealistic and I guess kind of irresponsible because..

you're putting a lot of expectations and a lot of pressure on someone else..

when you being "okay" should be like an internal self thing

you know no matter how much you love someone

if you guys both aren't at a good place mentally, physically..

like if you're not grounded in who you are and what's important to you..

it doesn't really matter how great your significant other is

it doesn't really matter how much they love you

if you don't know yourself and if you don't love yourself..

I owe it to myself and I owe it to my future significant other, to my future husband..

that I spend this time that I have working on myself to figure out myself

assuming that he's doing the same thing wherever he is right now

I have no idea where he is but like wherever he is..

he's doing it too so that when two great people come together..

you help each other propel to become like even better versions of yourself

but that comes at the foundation of you're already trying to do that on your own

"Greatness is not a function of circumstances."

"Greatness, it turns out, is largely a matter of conscious choice and discipline."

so at the end of the day.. it really comes down to ourselves

and like what we want to do and what we want to see happen

the second thing is your "person" does not need to be your significant other

when I say "person" it's like.. I like having my person

I like knowing that I have someone there for me

regardless if they're physically there if they're whatever

I convinced myself again throughout my youth and throughout my early 20s..

that my "person" had to be my significant other..

and when I let go of this really odd notion my whole world just opened up

and my whole world completely changed because..

my "person" can be my family.. my cousins

ultimately the most important thing was that I realized my "person" can be myself

the person that I've been waiting for my whole life

the person that I've been looking for like..

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