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  • If you haven't gotten to your midlife crisis yet, you're probably not looking forward to it.

  • According to pop culture, people hit their forties and suddenly become miserable.

  • And to deal with it, they quit their jobs, buy sports cars they can't afford, and have affairs with much younger people.

  • Still, if you think about it, it's pretty weird to think that turning a specific age would be enough to make us upend our lives.

  • So is the midlife crisis really a thing?

  • Well, it's kind of complicated, but there's probably less to worry about than you think.

  • The term "midlife crisis" was coined by psychoanalyst Elliott Jaques in 1965.

  • He believed that you had your crisis when you realized that you'd already lived more than half your life.

  • He studied quote-unquote geniuses, like Bach, Shakespeare, and Mozart, most of whom either died tragically, or became much more prolific after their late 30s.

  • He thought that the fear of not accomplishing everything they wanted to either killed them or lit a fire under them.

  • Admittedly, he also thought that this didn't really apply to women because they went through menopause instead.

  • That's clearly not accurate.

  • But because of it, most midlife crisis stereotypes today are still about men.

  • Of course, other thinkers at that time were also talking about developmental crises.

  • And the one who really popularized the idea of the midlife crisis was researcher Daniel Levinson.

  • In 1975, he proposed that life was made up of a series of stable periods interspersed with crises known as transitional periods.

  • He based his stages on work from previous psychologists and on his own study of 40 American men aged 35 to 45.

  • Levinson thought that the biggest transition, which happened in middle age, had to do with a sense of not accomplishing enough.

  • He believed it could be dealt with by learning to set more reasonable goals.

  • Still, tiny sample sizes of one group aren't always reliable.

  • so more recently, researchers have tried looking for the midlife crisis in bigger, more diverse samples.

  • And they seem to have found it.

  • One trend that has emerged is a U-curve in reported happiness levels.

  • People seem to be happy early in life and at the end of it, but they slump in the middle.

  • This trend has been found in multiple studies, looking at over a million people in more than 50 countries.

  • In 2013, one researcher proposed a possible explanation for the U-curve pattern, after analyzing a 13-year-long German study of 23,000 people.

  • He said it had to do with expectations.

  • According to his hypothesis, young people expect to beat the average when it comes to careers and happy relationships.

  • And when things don't quite work out that way, they're disappointed.

  • They do eventually adjust their expectations, but not always fast enough to prevent that disappointment.

  • The result is pessimism and dissatisfaction, a double whammy of misery.

  • But at some point, as they get older, those expectations do align with reality, possibly because, according to some research, the aging brain is less prone to regret.

  • Life starts getting better.

  • And because expectations are lower, it's a pleasant surprise that brings people back up the curve.

  • Now, if this all sounds pretty depressing, it is worth mentioning that the U-curve isn't set in stone.

  • It's still pretty hotly debated for a number of reasons.

  • For one, several recent studies have found that well-being simply increases as we age, without the middle-age dip.

  • And there are some issues with the studies that showed the U-curve, too.

  • Many of them are cross-sectional studies, meaning that they look at lots of different-aged people and use them to estimate trends over the lifespan.

  • This is different from a longitudinal study, which follows the same subjects over a long period of time.

  • Longitudinal studies can be more accurate for long-term research, but not many have been done about midlife crises.

  • Until recently, old age, childhood, and adolescence were studied much more often than middle age.

  • Still, the longitudinal studies that have been done tend to show that steady increase in well-being.

  • That could mean cross-sectional studies aren't entirely accurate, but we'll need to do more research to know for sure.

  • There's also an issue of definitions.

  • You might call a midlife crisis a difficult transition that occurs around age 40.

  • But different researchers have different criteria.

  • Is it stressful?

  • Is it eventful?

  • Is it internally or externally-driven?

  • Even when researchers do agree, the public's definition tends to be much broader.

  • A 1992 study found that just 10% of people had had midlife crises when the researcher determined whether they met the right criteria.

  • But, in a 2000 study, when people were directly asked if they'd had a midlife crisis, 26% of them said yes.

  • The public's definition of this is similar to researchers', but tends to include any stress or turmoil encountered between 30 and 65.

  • So the idea of the midlife crisis may prevail in pop culture partly because we take any stressful event in the middle of our lives and slap that label on it.

  • One way or another, this is definitely a topic that needs more investigation.

  • But the good news is that even if the U-curve does exist, it doesn't mean that middle-aged people are all miserable.

  • On average, studies so far have shown it's actually a pretty small decrease in happiness.

  • Not the life-altering angst we associate with the stereotype.

  • So don't worry about it too much.

  • Your job-quitting, Ferrari-buying phase might never arrive.

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If you haven't gotten to your midlife crisis yet, you're probably not looking forward to it.

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