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  • How do I talk to my kid about gender?

  • Little kids get ideas about what it means to be a girl or boy from the world around them.

  • From you and from other people in your family.

  • From TV, books, and movies.

  • And from other kids they know.

  • It starts from the moment they're born.

  • Think, gender reveal parties: pink nurseries for girls, blue ones for boys; princesses for girls, and superheroes for boys.

  • There's nothing wrong with blue or pink.

  • But sometimes the toys, books, and words you choose can send the message that there's a right and wrong way for them to be a boy or girl.

  • For example, if only little girls play with princess dolls and only little boys play with superheroes;

  • It sends the message that girls should focus on looking pretty and finding a prince, while boys should focus on fighting and winning.

  • When you pick a new toy or book, or sign your kid up for a new activity, ask yourself these questions:

  • Would I feel comfortable with this if my kid wasn't the gender they are?

  • Why or why not?

  • Does this expand or limit my kid's expectations of who they could grow up to be?

  • Does my kid already like things like this, or am I picking it because of their gender?

  • Making choices that defy gender stereotypes can help your kid grow up feeling like their gender won't limit what they can do with their lives.

  • And that's a good thing if we want to live in a world where everyone has a shot at achieving their dreams.

  • The idea is to make sure that whether your daughter dreams of being a firefighter, a scientist, or a parent;

  • And whether your son dreams of being a teacher, a parent, or a professional athlete;

  • That they feel loved and supported in following what they're passionate about.

  • So give them choices, follow their interests, and let their imaginations lead the way.

  • Want to learn more?

  • Check out plannedparenthood.org/parents.

How do I talk to my kid about gender?

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