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  • How many times have you received a compliment and later doubted whether or not

  • it was truly sincere?

  • It's always good to assume that people have good intentions, but the sad reality is that

  • this isn't always the case.

  • Sometimes, people are just pretending to be nice to us, and it's a point to know the telltale

  • signs of this behavior.

  • Are you wondering whether or not the people around you are genuinely kind?

  • Here are 10 signs of fake nice people.

  • Humble bragging; humble bragging is a relatively new term, but it's been around for ages.

  • This is when people exhibit false modesty.

  • They pretend to downplay their own accomplishments while sully bragging about them at the same

  • time.

  • An example would be someone who says "I hate being beautiful because people flirt with

  • me all the time".

  • According to psychological studies, it's actually better if you go ahead and fully brag in these

  • situations, people like genuine bragging way more than humble bragging.

  • Passive-aggressive behavior; you'd be surprised how easy it is for some people to be extremely

  • aggressive while maintaining a guise of positive and nice behavior.

  • This is known as "passive-aggressive behavior" and it's one of the big signs of a fake nice

  • person.

  • According to research, this behavior is common with people who have suppressed their rage

  • and want to maintain civility and sophistication.

  • When they do let their anger out however, they can only do so by being passive-aggressive.

  • For example, someone might give you a compliment but it seems rather sarcastic and backhanded.

  • Ghosting; another big sign of fake nice people is ghosting.

  • This is when people completely fall off the radar, refusing to answer your calls or reply

  • to your text.

  • Ghosting often occurs right after the relationship is seemingly going pretty well.

  • The other person might even seem nice and polite, then all of a sudden, they completely

  • cut you out of their lives.

  • At this point, it becomes obvious that their nice behavior was just a big act.

  • Crocodile tears; the phrase "crocodile tears" is used to describe people who fake emotions;

  • usually, sadness or remorse.

  • We see it all the time with politicians and well-known public figures.

  • So, how do you spot crocodile tears?

  • Research has shown that people faking emotions like remorse and sadness tend to exaggerate

  • these emotions.

  • They also show a wide range of different emotions which don't always make sense.

  • For example, they might switch suddenly from being sad to being hopeful.

  • How to spot a fake smile; fake nice people are obviously very likely to show off a fake

  • smile.

  • But how do you tell the difference between their smiles and real smiles from genuine

  • happy and nice people?

  • According to psychologists, real smiles almost always use more facial muscles.

  • Specifically, you should be on the lookout for wrinkles around the eyes.

  • These are key signs of a real smile.

  • Fake nice people can't listen; genuinely nice people are always ready to lend an ear.

  • No matter what you're going through, they can sit and listen to what you have to say.

  • Fake nice people might have a hard time doing this however because they're usually very

  • self-centered people.

  • To put it simply, it's all about them.

  • Fake nice people might act the part, but they'll try their best to sway the conversation towards

  • topics that involved them, not you.

  • For example, you might be explaining struggles you have at school or work, and then someone

  • cuts in and starts giving you a long story about their personal experiences in that area.

  • They always seem to want something; there's usually a reason behind why fake nice people

  • are acting so kind and considerate.

  • In most cases, it's because they want something from you.

  • This might not be immediately obvious, but eventually they'll start slowly, steering

  • the conversation to their needs and desires.

  • Usually, they'll ask you to do something or you'll discover that you have something they

  • want.

  • They're only nice to people who have power; another big sign of a fake nice person is

  • that they only act in a positive way towards those with power.

  • It's always good to judge people based on how they treat people who are less fortunate

  • or less powerful than themselves.

  • If their nice behavior seems directed solely towards those with power, then that nice behavior

  • probably isn't genuine.

  • They like to gossip and criticize others; it's always easy to laugh at other peoples

  • expense, and you might even be fooled into thinking that nice people do this as well.

  • But, if someone is bringing other people down in an effort to get close to you, then you

  • know that deep inside they're not very nice people.

  • Fake nice people love to gossip and they might do so in a way that seems nice.

  • They might act with a false sense of concern over other people's misfortune.

  • For example, they might talk about someone else's substance issues with a gossipy and

  • unsympathetic tone, while pretending to be concerned.

  • Sometimes, it's hard to spot this behavior, but it's a big sign of fake niceness.

  • Fake nice people are actually pretty rare; although there are many signs of fake nice

  • people, they're actually not very common.

  • For the most part, when someone is acting nice towards you, they really mean it.

  • In fact, people have a tendency to view themselves as less likeable than others see them.

  • Fake nice people do exist, but people probably like you a lot more than you think.

  • That's why it's always a good idea to assume the best in people, because you might be irrationally

  • fearing the worst.

  • Do you have any experiences with fake nice people?

  • Let us know in the comments below.

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