Name: 【TED】Nora McInerny: We don't "move on" from grief. We move forward with it (We don't "move on" from grief. We move forward with it | Nora McInerny)
Uploaded: 2019-04-25T16:54:48.000Z
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Past simple

just like a big year, like a banner year?

And then October 8, my dad died of cancer.

And then on November 25, my husband Aaron died

after three years with stage-four glioblastoma,

which is just a fancy word for brain cancer.

People love to invite me out all the time.

Usually, when I talk about this period of my life,

because, someday, it's going to happen to you.

Maybe not these specific losses in this specific order or at this speed,

and the research that I have seen will stun you:

everyone you love has a 100 percent chance of dying.

I've made it a career to talk about death and loss,

not just my own, because it's pretty easy to recap,

but the losses and tragedies that other people have experienced.

It's a small niche, and I wish I made more money, but ...

host a very uplifting podcast, I started a little nonprofit.

to make more people comfortable with the uncomfortable,

It's so uncomfortable, especially if it's someone else's grief.

So part of that work is this group that I started with my friend Moe,

And when your person dies, your husband, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend,

literally don't care if you were married,

your friends and your family are just going to look around

through friends of friends of friends of friends

until they find someone who's gone through something similar,

and then they'll push you towards each other

so you can talk amongst yourselves and not get your sad on other people.

where men, women, gay, straight, married, partnered,

that the other people in their lives aren't ready or willing to hear yet.

I can't stop thinking about sex, is that normal?"

"What if it's one of the Property Brothers?"

Things like, "Look, when I'm out in public and I see old people holding hands,

couples who have clearly been together for decades,

all of the things they've been through together,

the arguments they've had over who should take out the trash ...

Most of the conversations that we have in the group

can and will just stay amongst ourselves,

that the rest of the world -- the world that is grief-adjacent

I'm only interested in, capable of unscientific studies,

so what I did was go to The Hot Young Widows Club

and say, "Hello, friends, remember when your person died?" They did.

"Do you remember all the things people said to you?"

I got a lot of comments, lot of answers, people say a lot of things,

I will tell you I have remarried a very handsome man named Matthew,

we have four children in our blended family,

we live in the suburbs of Minneapolis, Minnesota, USA.

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【TED】Nora McInerny: We don't "move on" from grief. We move forward with it (We don't "move on" from grief. We move forward with it | Nora McInerny)

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