Name: How to be more attractive using simple psychology - The Psychology of Attraction
Uploaded: 2019-01-08T11:10:53.000Z
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everyone wants to be attractive whether
you're getting back into the dating

Adverbs of manner

world or you want to move up in your
career being attractive probably won't

hurt your chances of success when people
feel attractive they generally feel

better about themselves and have a more
positive outlook on life people go

through great lengths to feel more
attractive plastic surgeons and dietary

supplements make millions of dollars
other people who feel unattractive but

the key to being an attractive person is
not weight loss of smaller nose or

bigger muscles attractive people come in
all shapes and sizes the key to being

more attractive is the energy that you
carry within and share with the people

around you if people are attracted to
your energy they might overlook physical

flaws use the tips in this video to
become a more attractive person inside

and out - number one accept your
features and work with them an

overweight person who knows how to dress
for their figure will always look more

attractive than a skinnier person who
puts no effort into how they present

themselves so don't worry so much about
whether your physical features fit

traditional beauty standards there are
haircuts and outfits that fit every

shape and size if big curly hair frames
your face better than a bob let your

frizz fly buy clothes that show off your
shape no matter what your shape is you

might need to consult with an expert
about this though personalized tips and

tricks can be found online in magazines
and through the help of your

hairdressers or personal shoppers when
you start to make your appearance work

for you you'll discover natural beauty
and attractiveness that might have been

hiding before it also helps increase
your own confidence

tip number two is to pay attention to
details in the book the magic of

thinking big one of the world's most
famous self-help books the author pairs

fears with simple actions that can put
those fears to rest the first fear that

he lists is the embarrassment because of
your personal appearance which is known

to a lot of people we have all
experienced this type of embarrassment

and sought out ways to improve our
appearance so what actions does the

author suggest taking you can go to the
barber shop or a beauty salon you can

shine your shoes you can get your
clothes cleaned and pressed and you can

practice better grooming now these are
just simple actions that can make a big

difference because the best way to cure
fear is through action not only will

your haircut look sharper or your
clothes look neater but you'll also

spend some of that time consciously
improving your appearance in the half

hour that you spend at the nail salon or
an hour at the barber you will be

present in a space where you know that
you are becoming more attractive putting

yourself in a positive and attractive
mental state is just as important as

physically making improvements to your
appearance remember from the book atomic

habits the more evidence you give
yourself of believing that you're an

attractive person the more you
actually believe in tip number three is

a little cheesy but it's to use
attractive affirmations the more you

tell yourself something the more you'll
believe it the more you tell other

people something the more they'll
believe it when you tell yourself that

you're attractive you'll start to
believe it and communicate your own

message to others but how can you
actually do that without directly

telling people that you think you're hot
well I'll give you an example in the

next section
your actions shape your thoughts your

thoughts shape your reality you can use
affirmations to shape a reality where

you feel confident and optimistic about
your appearance and the energy that you

share with others so when you catch
yourself feeling unattractive turn your

perspective around look in the mirror
and tell yourself that you're an

attractive person even if you don't
believe it say it again keep telling

yourself that you're attractive until
you let go of the ego that's telling you

that you're not the sooner you open
yourself up to the idea that you are

attractive the sooner you will start to
believe it and the sooner that others

will start to believe it too even better
than an affirmation is to do something

that you think an attractive person
would do go get a haircut go to the gym

put some action behind your affirmation
tip number four is pretty simple but it

might not be easy it's to project
confidence the secret of being

attractive doesn't lie in the size of
your nose or the cut of your hair the

mind contributes as much of a person's
attractiveness as their face our body

the confidence and presence that a
person projects with their attitude can

turn up 4 into a 10 just think about the
classic rock stars and actors Iggy Pop

for example isn't a classically
attractive man but at the ripe age of 71

you can go to one of his concerts and
women will still be following over him

why because his stage presence and rock
star status turns heads you don't have

to be a rock star to project confidence
or to boost your attractiveness and you

certainly don't have to try to look more
like Iggy Pop if you just feel like a

rock star you're confident energy will
be felt by everyone in the room this

becomes more evident when you read
Jordan Peterson's 12 rules for life

chapter 1 about standing straight up
with your shoulders back so are you

projecting confidence when you walk into
a room confidence is just a state of

mind but it has an effect on the way
that we carry ourselves take a look at

yourself in the mirror or maybe in a
photo even a quick glance will be able

to show you whether or not you're moving
with confidence or insecurity so to

improve your body language number one
ask how is your posture standing up

straight with your shoulders back makes
you a taller person that takes up more

space when you have the confidence to
take up this space and walk tall people

will start to notice and conversely
shrinking back into the corner with

slumped shoulders gives off a very
sheepish and negative vibe no one was

ever attractive to someone because they
were acting sheepishly well actually I

have heard
serial killers are because they might be

searching for easy victims but all the
more reason to stand up straight also

ask yourself are you present when people
feel insecure they may retreat inside

their head it's not hard to recognize
when someone is focused on other things

rather than being present in the moment
it might have that dole stare when you

enter a room are you present and paying
attention to what is actually happening

within the room if you're in a
conversation are you actively listening

and engaged these qualities are seen as
attractive not because they improve your

physical appearance but because they
show people that you value them and are

genuinely interested in what is
happening around you and another

question you can ask yourself about body
languages are you smiling confidence and

optimistic people can't help but smile
all the time

smiling is contagious and your smile can
boost another person's mood also people

want to be around other people that make
them feel happy and comfortable smiling

is another quick improvement to your
appearance that requires less than two

minutes of your time even if you're
feeling a little bit nervous a smile is

one of those things you can truly fake
it until you make it pop in the bathroom

and smile in a mirror even if it's
forced it won't take long before you