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  • - [Narrator] Have you ever felt the urge to cry

  • but decided not to because you were afraid

  • of what you would think of yourself

  • or what other people would think of you?

  • What if a girl heard that you were crying?

  • Would she even think that you were a real man anymore?

  • In this video, I'm going to break down exactly

  • why you should cry and why believe it's only the weak men

  • who think it's not masculine to cry

  • and to hold back his emotions.

  • To illustrate my point,

  • I'm going to tell you a personal story

  • about my friend Chris.

  • Chris was a guy who was incredibly good looking,

  • confident, funny, smooth,

  • and he always did phenomenally well with girls.

  • One day, Chris met this beautiful Brazilian girl

  • named Andrea.

  • She had long brown hair, brown eyes, dark skin,

  • and a very warm smile.

  • Chris and Andrea immediately got along

  • and they started to date each other for about two months.

  • They were not officially boyfriend and girlfriend

  • but Chris was experiencing real emotion

  • towards a girl for the first time in many many years.

  • One day Chris is walking home from his bartending job

  • and he decided to stop by Andrea's house to say hi.

  • When he got there, he noticed that she was not there

  • which was strange because it was so late at night.

  • He didn't think much of it

  • and then the next day he texted her asking her

  • how it was going.

  • But she did not reply.

  • He then texted her again the following day

  • but no response.

  • And he did this for the next three to four days.

  • And then finally, Chris receives a text

  • from her saying, "Sorry, I've been very busy

  • over the past few days and I was with a friend

  • that night you came by."

  • When Chris asked her to hang out,

  • she responded with, "Sorry, I'm also very busy

  • for the rest of the week."

  • Chris continued to try to plan a date with her

  • but Andrea kept blowing him off last minute saying

  • that something had come up like a last minute dinner,

  • a last minute surprise party, that kind of thing.

  • After about three weeks of her continually canceling

  • on him, he finally gave up trying to organize a time

  • to meet up because it was torture for him

  • to keep making plans only for her to break them last minute.

  • So eventually they stopped messaging

  • and just like that it was over.

  • When Chris told me the story,

  • I could tell that he was very upset.

  • I told him that he needs to cry or hit a punching bag

  • or something to release these bad emotions

  • that are currently inside of him

  • but he kept telling me, "Nah, I'm fine.

  • I just want to forget her.

  • Thinking about this really puts me off."

  • I think we all have seen a friend who has been very hurt

  • over someone or a bad break up to the point

  • where he or she was so quiet and not acting

  • like their normal selves, they are almost unrecognizable.

  • You can often tell just by looking at someone

  • that they have some bad emotions in them.

  • This can appear through their posture, facial expressions,

  • the inability to smile, and even the way they look at you.

  • Bad emotions will keep you down just like chains.

  • I'm also sure we all know someone

  • who has never really 100 percent recovered

  • from a bad breakup even years after it happened.

  • Some people go their whole lives still torn up

  • about a bad breakup.

  • The thing that most people don't understand

  • about emotions is that you need to take the necessary steps

  • to get them out of your body,

  • but if you don't, they will always stay inside of you.

  • Releasing these bad emotions can be done

  • in a variety of ways.

  • You can yell, you can workout, you can laugh,

  • you can even have sex.

  • But the most effective way to release these emotions

  • is the one most men stay away from which is crying

  • and this is because men do not think it is masculine to cry.

  • So let's go back to my friend Chris.

  • Out of these two options,

  • what sounds like the more masculine thing to do?

  • Option one: run away and hide from sad emotions

  • because thinking about them is too difficult

  • and he does not want to deal with them.

  • Or option two: he looks inside of himself

  • and faces his sad emotions head on.

  • He does not hide from them.

  • He is not embarrassed by them

  • and he knows it will probably make him cry

  • but he understands that in order to move on

  • he has to deal with them even though it's really hard

  • and it's going to really hurt him.

  • Strong people confront their fears and emotions.

  • Weak people run away from them.

  • You have to deal with your emotions

  • because that is the only option if you want to move forward

  • and be happy.

  • So if you're watching this and you have some sadness

  • that is laying within you,

  • this is what I'll invite you to do.

  • Go to your room, close the door, put on some headphones,

  • and listen to some really sad music

  • and think really deep and hard about that sad thing

  • that has been bothering you.

  • When you do this, you will feel that emotion come up

  • and you could feel these tears come up

  • but this time, do not fight it, do not block it off.

  • I want you to embrace the emotion and embrace the tears.

  • Confront your emotions and move on.

  • Share this video with a friend who needs to see it.

  • Thanks again for watching and I'll see you in the next one.

  • (soft piano music)

- [Narrator] Have you ever felt the urge to cry

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