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  • Hey guys, it's JR right here

  • Today let's talk about how to be happy

  • Scientifically

  • You've probably already heard of the most popular class in Yale University, within its 317 year old history

  • 1 out of 4 Yale students have attended this class called "Psychology and the Good Life"

  • Sounds like something I would sign up for

  • If I were back in college

  • And if I could make it into Yale in the first place

  • Psychology and the good life is taught by professor Laurie Santos

  • She's a professor in psychology

  • She doesn't just teach in class though

  • She actually lives on campus with the students

  • so that she has a good picture of what campus life is about these days

  • But what she found she wasn't happy about

  • Yale students are extremely privileged

  • They have all these abundant resources, opportunities

  • Their future is literally shining bright like a diamond

  • But how they react to this is with

  • Anxiety

  • They're just too stressed out to even enjoy life on campus

  • And the thing is, it's not just Yale

  • This is a widely seen phenomenon across

  • all schools, all organizations, all workplaces, all ages

  • And I bet it's even worse here in Asia

  • So today let's talk about how to be happy with a good life

  • Now this is a whole semester's course at Yale University with all sorts of practices

  • You can also get it free on the internet, which is a free condensed version of it

  • Maybe 30 40 hours I think

  • I viewed the crash course, which is a one-hour lecture on YouTube

  • So this video is like a crash course of a crash course

  • How would you put it?

  • crash crash course?

  • crash crash crash course?

  • Anyways, the course is based on two domains of psychology

  • The first is "positive psychology", which is basically research on what happy people do to become happy

  • And then there's the second domain

  • Behavioral Change

  • Now that you know the theories of becoming happy

  • you have to actually alter your behavior in order to make a change in your daily life

  • The course puts it down into ten insights

  • The first four points are these psychological theories and the rest are the actual practices

  • Today we'll talk about half of these insights

  • starting with the theories, and we'll give you a heads up on the actual practices starting from point 5

  • As for the rest, we'll leave it to the next video

  • cuz we don't want to make this video too long, right?

  • So here they are

  • #1 We can control a lot more happiness than we think

  • This is gonna surprise you

  • But according to research, 50% of our happiness lies within the genes

  • In other words, we get it from our parents

  • Wow, like 50% of that! That is quite a lot!

  • I'm pretty happy that my parents seem like to be quite happy people

  • I think

  • But if you see it the other way around

  • we actually get control over the other 50%

  • It's kind of like seeing the glass half-full or half-empty

  • Pretty much up to you

  • And that 50% is the area where we can work on

  • #2 The things we think matter a lot about our well-being are usually overestimated

  • Now we've got 50% of space to work on now, right?

  • We're thinking of getting rid of the bad things in life

  • bringing in more good stuff

  • Good in, bad out

  • Simple logic

  • But research shows that either in good or bad circumstances

  • The positive or negative effect only lasts for a short amount of time

  • Say for example, people who've won the lottery, they go bonkers on the day they've won

  • Like who wouldn't?

  • Or else give me your money

  • But that sort of happiness only lasts for an average of six months

  • After that, their happiness level is indistinguishable from controls

  • So in other words, these things..

  • material, money, a promotion, college admission, a boy or girlfriend

  • These might have a certain degree of influence over your happiness

  • But the influence is way smaller in proportion than we think

  • And it lasts way shorter than we think

  • So what are the crucial factors to happiness then?

  • We'll get to that soon

  • But first, walk with me

  • #3 Becoming happier takes a lot of effort. It takes a lot of daily work.

  • Namely, you got to walk the walk

  • You can't just talk to talk

  • Just by watching this video alone won't make you a happier person

  • And that is a guarantee

  • Imagine yourself going to a class on exercise

  • You want to get fit. You want to build those muscles

  • You don't grow muscles just by attending class alone

  • You grow muscles by attending class

  • learning the basics, the knowledge, the know-how on how to get your body fit

  • And then putting it into practice

  • Not just once, but repeatedly every single day

  • That's how you get fit

  • And it's the same in pursuing happiness

  • First, well we gotta sit down cuz I'm getting a little bit tired

  • First, you gotta learn the basics, the know-how, the positive psychology

  • on how happy people become happy

  • And then you got to put it into practice in your daily life

  • That's how it works

  • And that leads us to number four

  • Let us just recognize that..

  • The mind lies a lot of the time about what it means to be happy

  • Our minds forecast on what will make us happy

  • But oftentimes, the fact is..

  • We don't turn out as happy as we assume we would be

  • And the most obvious example would probably be the expectations of happiness coming from our salary

  • According to research in the U.S.

  • if you are below the poverty line

  • there will be a significant bump up in your happiness level if your salary jumps up from 10,000 to 20,000 US dollars

  • But from a certain point on, that effect levels off very quickly

  • We think that if we get twice the salary or twice the material possessions than we have now

  • we will be twice as happy, right?

  • But wrong! That is a wrong assumption that your mind is telling you

  • I think it's fair to say that material can bring you happiness

  • But at a very very basic level

  • And beyond that

  • Happiness relies in other factors in life

  • So so far we've shed light on the four theories

  • First of all, number one

  • 50% of happiness is inherited in the genes

  • but on the other hand

  • That means we have control over the other 50%

  • Number two

  • Either in good or bad circumstances

  • the positive or negative effects only last for a short amount of time

  • Number three, if you want to be happy, you gotta learn the know-how and then you gotta to walk the walk

  • Number four, our mind lies to us about what it means to be happy

  • So you got to quit chasing those delusional thoughts

  • And starting from point five

  • These are the actual things you can do to boost your happiness in your daily life

  • So #5

  • Very happy people make time for social connection

  • Happy people tend to spend more time with family, close friends, loved ones

  • They prioritize spending time with people they care of

  • What's funny is, according to research..

  • Even interacting with strangers can boost up your happiness level

  • And this really strikes a chord with me

  • Cuz you know, the essence of my work doesn't really give me much time to hang out with people

  • I do have some friends that I regularly do sports with or go out to lunch for dinner with

  • And whenever I have an appointment in the evening

  • It gives me this great momentum to work even harder during daytime

  • because I'm looking forward to something good in the evening

  • It gets me all pumped up

  • But even when I don't have plans for the day.. I don't have an arrangement with someone..

  • what I usually do to recharge my batteries is..

  • I take a walk outside

  • Just to get a feel of people

  • Cuz when you're around people, you feel this good feeling inside of you

  • I don't even have to literally talk to someone

  • Actually I'm quite of an introvert

  • So you know, striking up a conversation with a stranger

  • Not quite suitable for me

  • But as I said, just by being around people gives you this good feeling

  • And that is not something that can be replaced by social media

  • If interaction on the Internet could boost up your happiness

  • Then I'd be a fluent in happiness

  • Cuz I get tons of mail and messages from my fans every single day

  • Thank you guys for the support, by the way. Love you guys!

  • But just saying, you just can't compare it to real life face-to-face connection

  • And that's why I encourage you.. I urge you..

  • to put down your phone and hang out with real people

  • Social connections is a crucial factor to happiness

  • So that's about it for this episode

  • And we just covered the first five insights on Yale's most popular class in history

  • on how to be happy

  • And we will be back with the other five insights in our next video

  • As I said, this is just a 7,8 minute video

  • We can't cover it all in detail

  • But this is just to give you a brief summary of what it's like

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  • Thank you guys very much. See you guys next video

Hey guys, it's JR right here

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    Jenn posted on 2018/11/02
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