Subtitles section Play video Print subtitles Hello I'm Emma from mmmEnglish! Today I want to introduce my friend, Mark. He is a relationship expert, dating coach, life coach and we've been hanging out a little bit lately because Mark has a Youtube channel as well where he - you help primarily women in relationships and in difficult sort-of periods of their life to improve relationships with the people around them, right? Tell us a bit about what you do. Exactly, exactly. So I'm a life, dating and relationship coach from here in Australia. I met Emma at a Sydney event and just loveliest, lovely woman. And my channel is about empowering women through growth, self-esteem and authenticity. And basically by that - what does that mean, 'authenticity'? What does that mean? Yeah so it just means about being real. Being yourself. So this is talking about the adjective 'authentic' as well. So 'authenticity' is related to the adjective 'authentic' which just means real. So talking about relationships and particularly between women and their partners, making them real and meaningful and honest, right? Yes exactly. Honest, open. Vulnerable and connecting. Oh my gosh so many good words there! We're going to pop some of the definitions of those in the description box below this video. But today, since you're a dating expert, a relationship expert, I wanted to talk to you about some of the phrasal verbs and the idioms that we use in English to talk about love and relationships. So I want to be able to show my audience you know, some really common language and expressions that they can use to talk about love. Sounds fantastic, I love it! So the first thing that I thought that I'd introduce is three phrasal verbs that are really common. Okay, so that would be 'hang out' 'catch up' and 'hook up' So all of these phrasal verbs can be used to talk about relationships in some way. I want you to tell me what's the difference between them, when would we use them? Yeah. So 'hang out', 'catch up' and 'hook up' they can mean quite different things. 'hang out' is a casual request to see you. So it's a very basic request. I say "Emma, I want to hang out with you." That literally just means I'd like to see Emma and spend some time with you, spend some time with her. So that could be a romantic relationship or it could be just with friends, right? Yeah. Yeah and you have to know the context, like if a man that you meet, say on Tinder, on a dating app, says "hang out" it could - it's likely to be more a relationship context. Whereas me and Emma are friends, we're hanging out now! So 'hang out' can be either it basically means spend some time together, let's see each other. Okay so what about 'catch up'? 'catch up' is generally saved for people you already know. So if I don't see Emma for a month, instead of saying "Let's hang out", I'd probably say "Let's catch up" So it's a similar term and it's usually used with someone that you already knew previously. The majority of the time that someone say "Let's catch up" they're saying "I want to reconnect with you after a period of time." Right. And again, it could be friends or it could be a relationship. But friends can also catch up, right? I can catch up with friends for coffee anytime I like! Exactly. And because you already know your friends, you generally say "catch up" more than "hang out" Well the other thing is if you haven't seen someone for a while, then 'catch up' is a really common phrasal verb as well that you'd use to say "Did you know, we haven't seen each other for ages, we should catch up!" So what about 'hook up'? So 'hook up' is used in a romantic context. You wouldn't hook up with your friend. You wouldn't hook up with your friend unless you wanted to get romantic with your friend. Which might get awkward! So 'hook up' - is often - it can refer to any number of romantic encounters. It could be "I hooked up with him at a bar" which usually means "I kissed him" at a bar. Yeah usually it means kissing, right? If your friend says to you "I hooked up with him" sometimes it can be just kissing, sometimes it can be more than that. And also, 'hook up', it doesn't refer to a relationship that is ongoing. It's like a one-off. Isn't it? No. That's an important point. Yeah. It's a casual, so a 'hook up' is a casual term. Nothing is serious, at least not yet, in the person's mind describing it. If I say "I hooked up with someone", it was a casual one-time encounter, it's not to say I might not see them again, in my mind right now, it's casual. That's quite interesting because a lot of my audience, you know the concept of like a casual hook up doesn't exist for them in their cultures, you know, it's not part of what they do. So if that's the case for you, then 'hook up' is probably not really language that is really relevant. It's only, you know, quick, informal, non-serious relationships, right? Yeah, exactly. Nailed it. So one other aspect that I want to talk to you about is the way that we use the verb 'fall' in expressions about love, because we say "fall in love" and we say "fall for someone" What does that sort of mean? Why are we using that expression? It's really about - you were saying before we chatted - it's literally about falling is where the phrase originally came from. And it's about losing control of your feelings. And losing control of things, so if I say "I fall for you", it means without my control, without wanting to, I'm just falling. So when you say "fall for someone", it's generally a bit more casual, than "falling in love" Yes. When you fall for someone, that could be after a few days, "I'm really falling for her. I've been on four dates with her. I'm really falling for her." And often used with 'starting' - "starting to fall" Yeah. So it's often right at that initial period in a relationship. "I'm starting to get a lot of feelings." Yep. "I'm falling for her. She's amazing." It's a good thing to be falling for someone or to be falling in love, it's a really, really positive way of talking about a relationship. Yeah exactly and the next "falling in love" comes along a bit later when things are more serious and you've really got to know the person, you form those deep bonds, say "I'm falling in love with him" or even "I've fallen in love with him"