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  • 00:00:12,640 --> 00:00:16,270 Accepting that things can simply turn out good for you can be a difficult task,

  • especially if you have a lot of cultural and psychological baggage in the way.

  • Some seemingly simple and small things could interfere in our path to guilt-free happiness.

  • Nowadays, the pressure of being happy or getting away with a good opportunity is enormous. To better understand

  • what happens in our brain during a happy event and how we sabotage ourselves during the acceptance of a fortunate event,

  • we talked with PhD Christine Ba Cho and got a few answers for these unsettling questions:

  • According to one of your articles people tend to associate guilt with certain pleasant events,

  • but they can develop certain habits to maintain a positive mindset.

  • You said being happy for the sake of others rather than for ourselves can break a cycle of anxiety and unhappiness.

  • Could the feeling of empathy be associated with guilt-free happiness and create awareness within a community?

  • People may associate guilt with certain pleasant event because they feel is unfair or inappropriate for them to be happy when others are suffering;

  • when a loved one is battling a critical illness or has died in a tragic way

  • we may think being happy would be a sign of disloyalty. In a loving relationship

  • it's important to share your feelings and experiences so we yearn to experience what they're

  • experiencing in an effort to keep them beside us even if it means sacrificing our own happiness.

  • However, in a healthy relationship,

  • each person wants the other to be content, so letting ourselves be happy is what a loved one would wish for. You

  • may desire to suffer in their place

  • but of course, that's not possible. So, our role is to help them cope and bring happiness to them.

  • By being happy for others and understanding the real value of joy, you can break the cycle of negative emotions.

  • Happiness is more than a solitary experience, it's contagious. And feeling empathy for others allows us to help them move beyond the difficulties.

  • Why do people tend to abandon logic when undergoing changes in life? Are emotions generally a bigger decision-maker for us?

  • Emotions are regulated by different dynamics and different brain mechanisms, biological thinking follow rules and lead to productive conclusions.

  • Emotion can influence our decisions for better or for worse.

  • Even when we believe that choices are based on logic, oftentimes those choices are also affected by emotional bias

  • because the emotional attachment govern preference and perceived importance.

  • Also, many people believe that life choices shouldn't be decided purely on logic, take for example, marriage. Most would prefer to

  • choose their partners using their emotions rather than using utilitarian logic.

  • How can optimistic and joyful people directly influence those suffering from depression or anxiety?

  • Being optimistic allows the person to see a wider variety of options and

  • recognizes more opportunities for growth, success, and increasing the chances of feeling happy. Being open to new experiences

  • can help overcome the sense of helplessness the stems from depression and anxiety.

  • While it takes time and practice,

  • following an optimistic attitude can ultimately help

  • someone experience small successes that lead to greater personal growth and life satisfication.

  • Joy is contagious and changes the way others interact with us.

  • Others are likely to spend more time with, and respond more positively to us, when they share our happiness;

  • having a positive attitude and healthier social

  • interaction can break the cycle of depression and replace it with a cycle of more positive emotions.

  • Why do superstitions like Karma guide our fear of feeling happy?

  • Karma is one example of a belief that's understood differently in various cultures, in a society that doesn't fault the

  • fundamental philosophy behind it, the idea is often applied simply to convey a deeper universal human need for order.

  • Notions of randomness, luck and chance are threatened to our psychological well-being,

  • because they suggest that we will never be in full control of our lives.

  • Consequently, we seek to impose orders, especially during chaotic or stressful times.

  • Misunderstanding situations that are governed by chance such as gambling,

  • reinforced by variable awards, can lead to unhealthy behaviors.

  • Young people nowadays are more connected than any previous generation.

  • How can this asset be useful in transforming the world around us, especially with the growing number of anxiety disorders in that age group?

  • Being socially connected is the essential to psychological well-being.

  • Many Millennials are more connected to their families than prior generations as they take a longer to buy their own homes. They

  • have also benefited from social media and smartphones which has mixed impact on them; on one hand,

  • there's a possibility of being able to reach out for emotional and practical support anytime.

  • But, on the other, being constantly connected can impose stress and lead to anxiety disorders.

  • People's behavior on social media tend to be more extreme than in real life, leading to events such as cyber bullying and invasion of privacy.

  • Generally, for many young people, constant connection means always being on-call with no alone time for themselves.

  • But they are learning to use technology in constructive ways whether it's befriending people from diverse

  • backgrounds or keeping in touch with distant friends.

  • Additionally, they are able to use the internet to expand the impact of pro-social effort from

  • fundraising for worthy causes to raising awareness for important issues.

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