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  • Hey girls and boys itís Jesse charger here coming to you from lovely Florida.

  • In this video I want to talk more about how watching pornography scrambles your brain

  • in a negative way that really decimates your inner game and motivation in terms of meeting

  • real women.

  • You see after watching porn over a long period of time your brain associates having pleasure

  • with watching porn, and it doesnít associate anything with real women any longer.

  • Over time your brain associates having sex with watching porn, it doesnít associate

  • having sex with real women.

  • Over time your brain associates your own reproductive success with watching porn, and doesnít associate

  • reproductive success with real women.

  • Over time your brain associates sexiness and femininity with watching porn, and begins

  • to associate of boredom with real women.

  • With time, real women in the real world quit being a sexual turn on, and you only become

  • turned on by porn.

  • Porn, in effect, tricks your brain into thinking itís having all this great sex, and all this

  • reproductive success, watching the computer screen. So much so, that the very idea of

  • all the effort and time you need to put into meeting real women starts to feel like a chore

  • or a waste of time.

  • Because when you associate reproductive success with watching computer videos, the effort

  • put into pursuing real women feels like time taken away from the easy gratification you

  • can get just by watching a screen.

  • Or even if you like the idea of having sex with real women, or you like the idea of getting

  • a real girlfriend, wishing for something is not enough to get it.

  • You wish for it, but you donít feel motivated enough to take the actual steps necessary

  • to have sex with real women or get yourself a quality girlfriend. Because your brain already

  • perceives as having all this reproductive success and sexual pleasure ALREADYÖ as much

  • as it wants in fact, whenever it wants, with whoever it wants.

  • Your brain already perceives itself to be getting sexual rewards, getting reproductive

  • success, and getting big payoffs of pleasure with very little risk taking ñ in fact no

  • risk taken at all.

  • So why go through the time, all the effort, the risk of meeting real girls? You donít!

  • Itís just easier to stay at home and you donít take action. You lose your motivation

  • to take real action in the real world on real girls.

  • And your brain wiring and circuitry becomes changed. So that you no longer associate reproductive

  • success with you putting your own penis into a real live girl. Instead, you associate reproductive

  • success and sexual pleasure watching other people have sex in a video.

  • Your brain circuitry changes to thinking that sex is purely visual. That great sex is something

  • that you see, is a face that you see, or is a hot body that you see, or the hot outfit

  • that you see, or is a physical position that you see.

  • When in fact real sex is more about feeling and touch primarily, and is about the five

  • senses together; touch, taste, smell, sound and also visual as just one small part.

  • So real women cease to be seen as sexual creatures in your mind, and instead become asexual beings

  • that are ultimately too much time and too much energy to really bother with. Why? because

  • theyíre not dressed sexy or naked as in porn, they donít give you instant gratification

  • on command as in porn, they donít have the exact body type that interests you in that

  • particular moment as in pornÖ so your mind just starts to see regular girls as other

  • asexual people that happen to be there. And in effect, you become neutered and asexual

  • to real girls.

  • So instead, you want to get to the point where youíre only interested in having sex and

  • getting sexual pleasure with real women. You want to get to the point where videos and

  • pictures of light and pixels bore you.

  • Where watching other people have sex BORES you.

  • Where youíre only interested in you yourself having real sexÖ where you yourself have

  • real reproductive successÖ where you yourself have real pleasure with real girls. So that

  • when you look at a video or a picture you think to yourself, ìwell Iím not there having

  • sex watching this, itís not me there having sex, so Iím not interested

  • And even if you have a fantasy, driven by watching porn, like youíre really into watching

  • a guy have three girls at once, or youíre into watching two guys on a girl, or youíre

  • really interested in interracial sex, or you like cheating wives, or whatever it is, whatever

  • fetish really gets you off, understand that that fetish typically comes from a lack of

  • going out, from a lack of social interaction, and from a lack of real sex with real women.

  • Once you start going out and meeting real girls, once you start getting a lot of social

  • interaction with real girls, once you start having sex with real girls, a lot of those

  • porn driven fetishes fall away to the sidelines.

  • And you become much more satisfied and much more interested in having one-on-one sex with

  • the real girls you meet, where itís about feeling the sex through touch, where itís

  • about experiencing the sex with another person in her personal reactions and her own personal

  • qualities.

  • And those old fetishes that were driven from social isolation and watching porn, cease

  • to interest you.

  • The solution is youíve got to retrain your brain to stop associating sexual pleasure

  • and reproductive success with pixels and light and videos, and retrain your brain to start

  • associating sexual pleasure and reproductive success with real women.

  • To do that, you have to stop having orgasms watching other people have sex on video. You

  • have to retrain your brain to associate sexual pleasure and reproductive success by FEELING

  • real women through touch instead of visually watching others have sex on video.

  • You have to retrain your brain to find looking at real women, clothed women, as arousing

  • and titillating.

  • You have to retrain your brain to find porn boring, because youíre not the one having

  • sex in the porn.

  • You need to retrain your brain to stop seeing women as boring and asexual, and start seeing

  • women as arousing sex objects.

  • So hereís the solution to get un-addicted to porn in four quick steps.

  • First, you have to get pissed off.

  • Pissed off that you wasted so much time masturbating to photos that have tricked your brain.

  • Pissed off that porn has kept you unmotivated and sexless.

  • You need to get pissed off that youíre not getting the girls you want, that youíre not

  • getting the girls you deserve, because porn has sabotaged your life up to now.

  • You need to get pissed off realizing that life is short, that you have a limited amount

  • of time on this earth, and with that precious time you need to make the most of things.

  • And that porn has stolen your time, that porn has stolen your relationships, that porn has

  • stolen your motivation, and as a man who moves toward success, you donít have time for that

  • bullshit.

  • You need to get pissed off enough that you want things to change and youíre willing

  • and ready, right now, to take immediate action to do whatever is necessary to eradicate porn

  • out of your way.

  • Second step. You have to throw out your porn collection. You have to delete it forever.

  • Maybe you have a list of links or your favorite videos. Maybe you have a database of videos

  • youíve collected.

  • You need to completely wipe those out.

  • As long as you have links or a database of any sort, that collection represents an investment.

  • And if you hold onto that investment by keeping it stored away someplace, it means that you

  • have not yet let go of porn.

  • Whether you have a collection of 10 videos, or 100 videos, or one thousand videos, whether

  • those videos are categorized or not, the whole collection needs to be irrevocably eradicated

  • and erased for good.

  • You must start with a clean slate, with no sense of previous investment, and with no

  • avenues for temptation.

  • As long as you have a collection that represents an investment, youíll feel a temptation to

  • continue collecting or to go back into your archives. So it must be deleted completely.

  • Step 3- After your collection or archives have been completely eradicated from all computers

  • and all sources, the next step is to stop masturbating to porn.

  • No porn whatsoever.

  • No masturbation to pornography or videos.

  • Itís fine to masturbate to real girls that youíve met in real life or seen in real life

  • using your imagination. That can be part of the process of retraining your brain to find

  • real women arousing, to find real women titillating again.

  • But no masturbation to light and pixels.

  • And because the Internet offers such an easy temptation to an easy payoff of sexual gratification

  • without risk, it can be very difficult to rely solely on willpower alone to stop.

  • Thatís why itís so important to get good distraction blocking software.

  • For Windows I recommend a software program called focus me, which you can download at

  • focusme.co. The program will shut down any window with the keywords you choose. So you

  • can put in a list of keywords like sex, teens, mature, tube, XXX, and your browser will automatically

  • shut down if any of those keywords appear.

  • You can also set an ìunlock levelî where you must type in a long string of characters

  • to unlock the distraction protectionÖ

  • Having software like focus me is like taking the cookies out of the kitchen. Because when

  • the cookies are in the kitchen, at arms grasp away, itís just too easy to give into temptation,

  • as your natural willpower will not be that strong.

  • So even when you get that desperate urge to watch some video porn, the software will simply

  • prevent you from doing it.

  • The fourth and final part of the solution is to start practicing seeing real women as

  • sex objects again.

  • If youíve watched a lot of porn, real women will seem like unsexy, asexual beings that

  • donít really turn you on much anymore.

  • You need to start watching real girls walking, clothed girls.

  • Look at her as you imagine bending her over and mounting her. You need to look at that

  • girl sitting down and study her legs and study her lips and study her breasts.

  • You need to start imagining what her hair would feel like. You need to start imagining

  • what kissing her lips would feel like.

  • You need to start imagining her looking at you, with her big eyes, with her mouth wrapped

  • around your you-know-what.

  • You need to start practicing imagining undressing real girls with your eyes. You need to start

  • imagining how they react in bed. You need to start imagining how they pleasure you in

  • bed.

  • You need to start seeing real women as sex objects again, as the source of your motivation

  • to get up and take real action in the real world.

  • (And for more tips on doing that, check out my Nonverbal Sexual Mind Control program by

  • clicking here!)

  • So thatís my four-part solution for getting porn out of your life, for eradicating it,

  • and getting that sexual motivation and sexual drive for real women again.

  • Number one, get pissed off to the point where you will take whatever action is necessary

  • to obliterate porn once and for all, even if that means reframing porn to be an evil

  • influence that is stealing away your life and your time and the women in your life.

  • Number two, need to burn, destroy, and obliterate whatever porn collection you have so that

  • it is irrevocably erased forever.

  • Number three you need to stop masturbating to porn completely, understanding that your

  • willpower will probably not be strong enough, and you may very well need the help of a good

  • distraction blocking software or porn blocking software.

  • And number four, you need to start seeing real women as titillating sex objects again,