Insteadoffeelinglike I hadtofixeverything, I justletmyselfbe a soundingboardforwhateversomeonewasfeeling, andreallytriedtoexplorethat.
Andmyfriendshipschangeddramatically.
Theyfeltmoreloving, morepersonal, andmoreopen.
Now, I havethisonefriendwho's a conversationalnarcissist. It's like, nomatterwhatyousay, hewillbringtheconversationbacktohimself.
And I usedtoharbor a lotofresentmentforit, butit's youknow, it's oneofthoseannoyingquirksandflawsabout a personthatyoulovethatyoujustsortofputupwithbecauseyoulovethem.
So I thoughtimplementingthiswithhimwasgoingtobeparticularlyinteresting.
And I foundthatwewoulddivesodeeplyintohisproblems, and I wouldlethimexpresseverythinghewasfeelingabout, everysinglethingthathehadtosay.