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  • We lose friends for a variety of reasons.

  • People move.

  • I don't want to move to New York.

  • But, they just have better pizza.

  • You get into fights.

  • Dude! How many times do I have to tell you that Los Angeles has great pizza?!

  • Life gets crazy.

  • We could probably get together on...Thursday of January.

  • 2017.

  • No matter what's the reason, we all know what it's like to lose a friend, and...it sucks.

  • It's kinda like a breakup where you have this period of being just sad.

  • And you wanna call them.

  • And you wanna know where it all went wrong.

  • And you're mourning, and you're moping.

  • Until finally one day, you wish them well, and you move on with your life.

  • The first step is to self-reflect.

  • And to try to find something that you learned from the friendship.

  • Because something about mentally learning something from an experience makes it feel whole and complete.

  • And, in essence, finished.

  • Second, don't let this experience deter you from emotionally engaging from other people.

  • Don't let one experience with someone completely change how you interact with other people.

  • And finally, let yourself feel the feelings.

  • There are so many times when our past comes up, and we just want to push it away.

  • Or our first instinct is to be like, "Oh don't think about that! FUCK THAT! FUCK. THAT."

  • But, it's important to give yourself permission.

  • So if you miss someone, let yourself just miss them.

  • And, be like, "You know what, that's fine. I really miss that person, in this moment, but it's over for a reason."

  • And let yourself sit with that for as long as you need to sit with that.

  • Ultimately, we're all gonna lose a lot of friends throughout our life.

  • But we're also gonna gain a lot of friends and a lot of experiences.

  • So, it works out! Hey!

  • Stay awesome, Gotham. Ha!

We lose friends for a variety of reasons.

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