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  • Welcome to "Full Frontal".

  • I am Samantha Bee.

  • You know, over the past few months we've all discovered

  • who's behind workplace harassment, and, [GASPS],,

  • it's literally thousands of men.

  • Jinkies!

  • And they would have gotten away with it too-- oh, most of them

  • did.

  • So now that we're finally listening to women,

  • some people are asking an important question.

  • Should we stop listening to a women?

  • Has #MeToo become a war on people who

  • don't deserve to be hurt by it?

  • Legendary actress Catherine Deneuve is

  • denouncing the #MeToo campaign.

  • Let's not turn women into snowflakes.

  • Let's not infantilize women.

  • There is a bit of a witch hunt happening.

  • You really want to go there Liam Neeson?

  • Your most successful movies are literally all about women

  • calling you to say they have a problem and you believing them.

  • When your daughter called to tell you she was taken,

  • you weren't like whoa, whoa, whoa, are you sure

  • you weren't asking to be taken?

  • Let's not ruin an innocent taker's life.

  • Yes, the inevitable backlash to the #MeToo movement

  • has arrived.

  • Or as I like to call it, the #YouTooLoud movement.

  • So I'd like to take a look at one

  • focus of the backlash, the so-called shitty media men

  • list.

  • In case you don't know, the shitty media men list

  • was just that, an anonymously crowdsourced list of men

  • in media who women said did shitty things,

  • ranging from sending unsolicited dick pics to claiming credit

  • for women's work to rape.

  • It was never intended for public consumption.

  • If it had been, it would have had

  • a punchier name, like this sassy koala video is amazeballs.

  • And in fact, its creator took it down

  • after just 12 hours because so many people were sharing it.

  • It was the Scaramucci of lists.

  • The list was essentially like a green book for women, only

  • instead of telling black travelers which establishment

  • were friendly, the list told women which men might

  • be hostile, groping, grabby, pinchy,

  • pervy, plagiarizey, and rapey--

  • aka the Weinstein Company version of the seven dwarfs.

  • The list also let women know that they weren't alone--

  • you know, the whole me too component.

  • People were so obsessed with this list that existed for 12

  • hours that Harper's Magazine planned an expose

  • about it three months later.

  • Women tried to protect the creator of the list

  • from being doxxed by Spartacusing all over Twitter.

  • Would you look at that, a good example of people taking

  • credit for a woman's work.

  • You know, all women have done throughout the four

  • months of the #MeToo movement is try to protect other women.

  • But you know what, who is going to protect the men?

  • When we are conflating and putting these things

  • all in a bucket, we're going to start

  • hurting your fathers, your brothers,

  • your sons, your grandfather.

  • Young people will not take the risk

  • of actually talking just to another person,

  • asking them out for a date. - So it will just be robots.

  • It will be-- well, I hope it'll be robots because robots

  • are more attractive.

  • Upon hearing that, robots everywhere

  • downloaded a not tonight, I have a headache feature.

  • By the way, here's the number of people

  • who were putting rape and harassment

  • and bad dates in one bucket.

  • NARRATOR: Nobody.

  • Literally nobody is saying they're the same.

  • The list wasn't called rapists and other people

  • whose 100% verified crimes I consider to be equal to rape.

  • What many fail to understand is that it doesn't have to be rape

  • to ruin your life, and it doesn't have to ruin your life

  • to be worth speaking out about.

  • Any kind of sexual harassment--

  • [APPLAUSE]

  • --or coercion is unacceptable.

  • So what the fuck are women supposed

  • to do to protect ourselves?

  • If we go public with a story, we're petty crybabies hell bent

  • on destroying men's careers.

  • If we write a secret list to protect each other,

  • we're gossipy shrews telling lies in the shadows.

  • What men literally cannot understand is,

  • this isn't about them.

  • Whoa.

  • [APPLAUSE]

  • This isn't about men.

  • That is unbelievable.

  • The shitty media men list wasn't Arya's Stark's fucking hi list.

  • No one is getting their face worn by a teenager,

  • although I'm sure that is some sick fuck's fantasy.

  • Unfortunately though, not all the backlash

  • is from willfully blind men.

  • Some of it is from women who have seen way too

  • much, especially in the wake of an article about Aziz

  • Ansari and the horrible night an anonymous woman

  • said she had with him.

  • The conversation about this article

  • has been tentative and difficult,

  • largely because a lot of women disagree about it.

  • And women actually like to be careful

  • with each other's feelings except, perhaps,

  • Ashleigh Banfield.

  • Let's take a moment to reflect on what you claim was the worst

  • night of your life, end quote.

  • You had a bad date.

  • Is that what victimized you to the point

  • of seeking a public conviction and a career-ending sentence

  • against him?

  • You had an unpleasant date and you did not leave.

  • That is on you.

  • It's harder than you think to leave when

  • you're uncomfortable or scared.

  • For example, you're scaring the shit

  • out of me right now Ashleigh Banfield and I can't leave.

  • And it's not just Ashleigh.

  • A lot of people are worried about Aziz's career,

  • which no one is trying to end.

  • Because again, we know the difference

  • between a rapist, a workplace harasser, and an Aziz Ansari.

  • That doesn't mean we have to be happy about any of them.

  • People like me had to wade through a sea

  • of prehensile dicks to build the world we now enjoy.

  • [APPLAUSE]

  • And part of enjoying that world is setting a higher standard

  • for sex than just not rape.

  • And women get to talk about it if men don't live up

  • to those standards, especially if that man wrote

  • a book about how to sex good.

  • And if that seems harsh, I'm sorry.

  • In fact, you know what, I'm sorry for a lot of things.

  • I'm sorry that anyone ever thought

  • the contents of that list or any of the other ways we

  • protect ourselves from men were your god damn business.

  • I'm sorry you thought you got to choose what experiences

  • we can share or how we react to the shitty ways we've

  • been treated.

  • And to men specifically, I'm sorry our request

  • to be respected makes office culture

  • a little less fun and flirty.

  • And I'm sorry we tattled about that stuff you did on us, even

  • when it was totally not rape.

  • But listen, if you don't want to tune into your partner's

  • feelings throughout sex, maybe you shouldn't

  • be fucking a person at all.

  • May I suggest a coin purse or a Ziploc bag full of green jelly.

  • [APPLAUSE]

  • Men, if you say you're a feminist,

  • then fuck like a feminist.

  • And if you don't want to do that,

  • take off your fucking pin because we

  • are not your accessories.

  • We'll be right back.

Welcome to "Full Frontal".

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