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  • We are so mean to ourselves.

  • So utterly, barbarically cruel.

  • If we saw someone treating a stranger the way we tend to treat ourselves, we'd be appalled.

  • We need to learn to be that most rare of things: a proper friend to ourselves.

  • To be our own best friend.

  • It doesn't come naturally.

  • We need to practice saying some of the following to ourselves:

  • You deserve to exist.

  • It's OK to make mistakes.

  • You can be forgiven.

  • I know how hard you try and all the obstacles you've had to overcome.

  • I don't care what the others think.

  • You can be weak with me.

  • You can mess up.

  • You can fall apart.

  • You can be imperfect.

  • You can let me down.

  • I'm on your side.

  • I'm touched by how much effort you have made and how deeply you have suffered.

  • You don't have to prove yourself to me.

  • I don't need you to be somebody.

  • I can love you as you are despite everything.

  • I'm your best friend. Always.

  • And I'm right here.

We are so mean to ourselves.

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