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  • unconditional love( How to Love Unconditionally) [subtitles using inown.org]

  • hello everyone. Saturday would not be complete and less I threw a wrench in something.

  • so today I'm gonna throw a wrench in the spokes unconditional love (laugh)

  • when you look at the world vibrationally

  • love is an identical vibration to appreciation

  • and appreciation is nothing more than pure positive focus.

  • so it can be said that unconditional love is the very same thing

  • as positive focus that is not conditioned upon something that the person is looking at.

  • in other words unconditional love is the same as unconditional positive focus.

  • unconditional love is positive focus or appreciation that is not conditioned upon how someone else acts

  • now it's time to get real for a minute.

  • how many of us on this earth truly feel capable of doing this?

  • how many of us are truly capable of focusing purely positive toward a person has a gun pointed at our face?

  • how many of us are truly feeling capable currently focusing positively towards the person

  • who steals a little child off a city sidewalk and cut them into pieces?

  • how many of us are capable focusing positively towards war?

  • not many but this shouldn't make us feel bad.

  • do you want to know why?

  • unconditional love is the exact same vibration as true enlightenment.

  • we know how difficult it is to reach enlightenment.

  • it is a lifelong practice if not a multi lifetime practice for beings. beings

  • and we also know that enlightenment is not a goal that we reach.

  • instead it is horizon line that continues to move further into the future

  • with every desire that we have and with every new perspective that we're introduced to.

  • it is the same with unconditional love. unconditional love is practice.

  • it is not a state we achieve and that are done practicing.

  • there is no retirement from the practice of unconditional love.

  • and the minute you think you've reached it you will find yourself in yet another situation

  • where you were challenged to find alignment with it.

  • there are beings who have achieved the experience of enlightenment.

  • and who spend their lives dedicated to maintaining that alignment with the experience of enlightenment.

  • in the same way that there are beings who have experienced what unconditional love is

  • and who have dedicated their lives to staying in alignment with that experience of unconditional love.

  • but there is no such thing as a being that is physically incarnated who is permanently in a state of enlightenment.

  • the same as there's no such things as being who is permanently physically incarnated and permanently in the state unconditional love.

  • you see if we reach the state of permanent enlightenment to the state permanent unconditional love same thing.

  • there would be no reason for us to be physically incarnated here

  • because if a person could truly feel unconditional love 24 hours a day

  • there would be no further contrast for this person to experience

  • if there is no further contrast for a person to experience, no desires are born from within them.

  • and if no desire are born from within them, there is no expansion which is being satisfied through true being.

  • and us there is no reason for them to be incarnate it here.

  • so for you to reach state at 100 percent unconditional love would be to defy your own expansion.

  • and defy the expansion of this universe.

  • in the spiritual community unconditional love is a standard that we hold ourselves to.

  • it is a standard that is no different than expected ourselves to be enlightened.

  • when we are not get enlightened asking ourselves to be enlightened is

  • the same as asking ourselves to lie to ourselves in favor of pretending.

  • in favor of acting like we think unenlightened person should act.

  • asking ourselves or others to be unconditionally loving

  • is no different than expected ourselves to lie to ourselves about how you really feel.

  • and instead act by we think unconditionally loving person should act

  • we strip the genuineness out of ourselves and expect ourselves to pretend

  • so we can maintain the lie that we are the spiritual people we think we should be.

  • all the while we send our self a very damaging message.

  • we send our self the message that we are not good enough.

  • you cannot lie to yourself no matter how hard you try.

  • deep inside you know you don't actually feel unconditionally loving and good about another person.

  • but you think a truly spiritual person should feel unconditionally loving

  • and so even if you go through the motions appearing to be unconditionally loving inside you feel like a fraud.

  • you are acutely aware of your own shortcomings.

  • we'll maintain the lie that we are unconditionally loving that we need to be unconditionally loving.

  • when the truth is none of us are unconditionally loving

  • if we were, we wouldn't be physically incarnated here on planet Earth.

  • it is a perfectly fine practice to dedicate yourself to

  • but unconditional love cannot be forced and you cannot talk yourself into being unconditionally loving

  • when you are currently feeling negative emotions toward someone like fear or guilt or hate

  • if you feel fear or guilt or hate towards someone and you say to yourself come on now be unconditionally loving.

  • all you are doing is shaming yourself into good behavior

  • behavior that is in no way genuine and guess what

  • you are further away from unconditional love

  • if you do that and if you just let yourself be to place a fear guilt or hate relative to that person.

  • so how do we become unconditionally loving?

  • the first step is to admit to ourselves to own up to the fact

  • that unconditional love is the exact same thing is enlightenment.

  • why is this enlightenment is the state of pure alignment with source energy.

  • so as to own, so as to share, source perspective

  • that means that the perspective you hold when you are perfectly align with source energy is source perspective

  • and source perspective is the most objective of perspectives. perspectives

  • the reason is it is the collective of all perspectives which have ever been held or are held currently.

  • because if this source hold perspective towards all things in existence which is unconditionally loving.

  • so when you match the perspective of source energy

  • which is in alignment when you match that consciousness so is to match that perspective.

  • you will simultaneously match the perspective of unconditional love towards all things existence.

  • this means that anything that we do as people to reach enlightenment will culture unconditional love within ourselves.

  • there are thousands if not millions approach to that one destination that we call enlightenment.

  • same goes for unconditional love.

  • there would be no way whatsoever to give you the way to reach the state unconditional love.

  • because there are many roads there and many left yet to be invented

  • so all anyone can do is give you suggestions that may serve you to close the gap between where you are and unconditional love.

  • by now you know that if you really want to unconditionally love the world

  • you can't start with the world have to start with yourself

  • the first up starting with yourself is get off your own back and stop expecting yourself to be unconditionally loving when you aren't

  • you can't expect yourself to be somewhere where other than where you are

  • and have that be a self loving state

  • if you continue to measure yourself next to a destination you haven't reached that

  • you will continue to highlight your own shortcomings

  • and that is not unconditionally loving to yourself

  • instead it is self hating. you're giving yourself the message that where you are is not OK

  • also all too often unconditional love becomes the excuse to keep ourselves in self abusive painful situations

  • for example let's say someone is emotionally abusive to us and we see that they're hurting

  • that's why they're hurting us. we have the tendency to tell ourselves to be

  • unconditionally loving to them and stay in that situation

  • despite the fact that we are being abused

  • but this is not unconditionally loving to ourselves or to them ironically.

  • if we allow ourselves to stay in abusive situations we aren't unconditionally loving ourselves

  • and remember that part of caring about someone is about fostering their growth

  • making sure they are always emotionally comfortable and preventing them from experiencing pain

  • or the consequences of their own actions is the same is denying them growth.

  • unconditional love is love without limits.

  • an unconditional love is the by product perspective. perspective

  • if your perspective is limited, your love is limited.

  • this means to become unconditionally loving you must expand your perspective.

  • question your thoughts instead of blindly believing them.

  • deliverly choose to think whatever thoughts feel good and focus on whatever makes you feel relief.

  • the be aware that if you feel fear relief may be an angry thought.

  • if you feel anger relief may be a pessimistic thought.

  • trust your emotions. let yourself think those thoughts without judging whether they're good or bad thoughts have.

  • you cannot lie to yourself so make sure to pick thought the you actually do believe.

  • if you are the one who controls how you feel by controlling what you focus on about another person

  • than your emotional state is no longer dependent on what that person does or does not do.

  • your love which is positive focused towards them is not conditioned upon something that they are doing.

  • this is the most important steps when it comes to learning how to unconditionally love.

  • once you take charge of your emotions start thinking thoughts and focusing on things to deliberately that make you feel better.

  • you find yourself quite quickly in an aspect to positive emotion.

  • and from this place of positive emotion you can play a little game with yourself.

  • it's called pretend that you are them.

  • I want you to get very deep with this practice.

  • meaning I want you to try to remove yourself from your own perspective

  • and try to live life through their eyes interacting with you interacting with the world

  • taking on their perspective will help you to understand them.

  • and understanding expands your perspective

  • and when your perspective is expanded

  • it is very easy to slip into the space of unconditional love.

  • I want to stress that this particular process slipping into someone else's perspective

  • can not be forced and can not be done prematurely.

  • if you try to do it prematurely from a negative emotional space

  • when you're still feeling guilt or fear or anger or hatred

  • than it is self that is invalidating and that's self abusive.

  • next we must learn the art of detachment.

  • detachment does not mean to stop caring about another person.

  • it means to detach your happiness from the other person

  • so thier actions aren't effecting the way that you feel.

  • it is to take responsibility for how you feel to remove that responsibility from the other person from the world.

  • if we are attached to the outcome of someone or if we are attached to them behaving in one way or another.

  • we are now unable to be unconditionally loving our positive focus now depends on them.

  • our love which is no different than pure appreciative focus is now conditional upon how they behave.

  • if you are attached to them. it is a parasitic relationship.

  • and yes before you start feeling bad about this

  • most current human relationships are parasitic.

  • if you are attached to them, it becomes important to control the other person and how they act so that you can be happy.

  • if they must change to make you happy you don't unconditionally love them.

  • the first step as far as detachment is concerned is to admit to where we are

  • to admit to the fact that we are attached.

  • to admit that we feel completely powerless to other people.

  • there are happiness does seem to be at the mercy of what they do and don't do

  • what happens in the world around us.

  • learning detachment is a lifelong practice but I promise you

  • the more you detach the more you will love

  • remember that it is easy to love someone or something that is easy to love

  • but we are powerless if we can only love someone based on the condition of them behaving in a way that is easy to love.

  • unconditional love is in fact state of being completely in alignment with source perspective despite external conditions.

  • to love conditionally is to say

  • these parts make me feel good about you and these parts make me feel bad about you

  • and so I need the parts that make me feel bad about you to go away

  • so that I can feel good when I look at you,

  • because the only thing that I am looking at is what makes me feel good.

  • unconditional love is to say I am responsible for how I feel

  • I trust myself to focus at you

  • in a way where I am paying attention to things that make me feel good about you

  • and so the way I feel is not conditioned upon what you do

  • you do not have to change one thing for me to be in control of what I am focused on about you

  • and so I am capable of radiating love towards you 24 hours a day if that's my wish

  • by virtue of having complete control have my own way of focusing upon you.

  • if you wish to understand unconditional love understand this

  • it is the process understanding that you are capable of loving regardless of the conditions that you're looking at

  • and we must realize not only are we capable of feeling love regardless of the condition

  • we are love regardless of the condition. our lives here is nothing but a process of remembering that very fact.

  • have a week. week

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